for example if your husband like blondes and u have black hair, or he doesn't like heel and thats the only kind of shoe u have ever worn.. or he think u should get a boob reduction because he likes them small
2006-10-25 12:17:07 · 35 answers · asked by cooperstownbk 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
personally, i wouldn't. he should love the woman he married. you aren't ever supposed to try and change the ones you love.
2006-10-25 12:18:50 · answer #1 · answered by danieeee 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
this answer is real easy and I'll share this with you and it should help you with you question...A relationship is nothing short of give and take. It's a TWO sided thing that should make you feel good doing it, if for no other reason,than to put a smile of your partners face and you should feel good about pleasing him. and of course, he should do the same for you and he should let you know every day how much he appreciates you. HOWEVER....Not only did this man (supposedly) fall in love with what he saw, but he should love you for who you are, inside and out, the way you are! MOST important!! has he talked to you in detail about why this is important to him and has he asked you your feelings how you would feel about this change? Can you live with this change even if it's just for him? can he live with and respect your wishes and feelings, knowing that this is your body and your not comfortable making this change and love you just the same when he became your husband and said "I DO" ?
2006-10-25 12:59:43 · answer #2 · answered by dhwilson58 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He married you knowing, what your body looked like, how you dressed and what your hair colour was...so NO I wouldn't make changes like breast reductions. I would consider changing the hair colour, but not the way I dress or the shoes I wear. He's either happy with your appearance or he's not, but you are the one who walks around in your shoes, not him, so do what you are comfortable with.
2006-10-25 12:21:37 · answer #3 · answered by ne_patriots2005 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Only if I feel like I'm bettering myself, something I want to do. I feel like I'm good enough as I am pretty much. Besides, why should I change for a man when men don't believe in changing themselves for a woman, like be more romantic, or enjoy verbal affection, for instance?
Either take me as I am, or I just move on to another guy, just like if I'm not happy with a guy, I'll just move on.
2006-10-25 12:25:16 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No cuz it is my body and if he do not like the way it is f*ck him and his dam commands! And he does not tell me to die my hair from black to blond and he doesn't tell me to have a different style of shoes cuz he married me and never said anythin bout it and I wouldn't get a boob reduction cuz I love my breasts the wat r and surgery hurts trust me when I say so. And he married you for the way you are not the way he wanted you to be. He probaly wants you to look like Brittney Spears or somtin no offense. Also if he don't like me the way I am why the hell did he marry me!!!???
2006-10-25 12:20:17 · answer #5 · answered by sexyme 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hair - better to go with a wig, the bleaching is bad for hair and looks trashy as the roots grow out. I'd wear a Blondie wig for him.
Heels - shifting from heels to flats results in leg cramps if you wear heels regularly. I would not do something that causes pain.
Plastic surgery - NOPE - see previous comment. If he wants something that causes pain - he doesn't love me and he can move his *** out the house permanently.
2006-10-25 12:23:28 · answer #6 · answered by kate 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
depends, but in your case i would have to say NO!!!!
obviously he is trying to dress you up with his desires. i am sure you are a beautiful woman anyways, but for some reason your hubby is dealing with his own issues and trying to put them on you. By doing that he can kill the person you are and that is dangerous for you. Once you become who he wants you will be lost and there will be a part of you that will want to find the real you and wont allow you to be comfortable until you find who YOU say you are, not what he says you are. :)
2006-10-25 12:22:57 · answer #7 · answered by beachgirl90 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No. Don't change anything. He's with you because he loves you and not because he loves who he can turn you into.
I had a friend who died her hair blonde because her fiancee liked blondes, it didn't last long. You'd be surprised how your hair color can change how you are to yourself. It's a significant change.
Be brunette and be proud. If he doesn't like it, he should remember he's no Johnny Depp.
2006-10-25 12:19:17 · answer #8 · answered by Usual 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I would never change anything for a man! once you change one thing for him, then he will keep on comming back wanting you to change more.
why would he be with you if he wasn't attracted? or maybe he just wants a little pawn that he can change into whatever he wants.
remember how you looked when you met him and that he has no place to barge in and tell you to change. especially if he was originally attracted to you as your are now.
2006-10-25 12:25:48 · answer #9 · answered by Red Crayon Aristocrat 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i don't think i would change any of those. i wouldn't change my hair color because he married me with the color i have now. shoes...why would he even care what type of shoes you wear. as long as they are comfortable to you, that's all that matters. boobs...hell no, that's a major operation for no reason.
2006-10-25 12:19:31 · answer #10 · answered by redpeach_mi 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I would tell him to go F*** himself!! Would he get a penis enlargement for me?? or would he get snipped so i wouldn't have to get my tubes tied? or would he shave his head or dye his hair for me?? (Well my man would) Most men wouldn't tho, having said that.... My answer would still be NO, If there was something he wanted to change about me, i would tell him to find someone else with those "qualities"
~CHEERS!!~
2006-10-25 12:30:18 · answer #11 · answered by Romy 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋