My husband has constantly chosen his family, his mother in particular over me and my kids. I have kids from my first marriage. He died and my husband adopted them. His family will not involve the kids he adopted but will by gifts for or say happy birthday to his bio-kids. If anyone says anything, nothing is done.
His brother told my kids that I was a whore and that he and I were living together until he caught me with his brother and left me. THAT IS A LIE. I never lived with him. We were never together. I wanted my husband to say something to his brother, he wouldn't. When I wanted to he wouldn't let me (we were at a little league football game) he told me that it wasn't my time.
I got very suicidal and told him, he wouldn't even talk to me (this went on for almost a year) His mother wrote him a note that sounded sad and he could not go see her fast enough. He said that he was afraid that she would hurt herself.
There is so much more, not enough space. What would make him do this?
2006-10-25 12:12:34 · 9 answers · asked by blind4now 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
If your husband cared about you AT ALL he would choose you & his children (all of his children) over his mom. When you get married you become one. When someone hurts one of you they hurt both of you. That just makes me mad. I want to have a talk with your husband, lol!
2006-10-25 12:16:14 · answer #1 · answered by Michelle *The Truth Hurts 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I left a ineffective beat guy after 11 years and four teenagers...My recommendations have been "no guy is going to need me with 4 teenagers!"...presently when I met a great guy who on no account had teenagers. we've been jointly for 6 years and married for over 3. he's been around my youngest on condition that she became 2. heavily...it quite is a huge duty for a guy as much as now a unmarried mom. That being pronounced...if the wonderful 2 people come jointly, it quite is a large element. You on no account comprehend what's going to make you happy, so do no longer rule somebody out with out a minimum of giving it a shot. :)
2016-10-16 10:07:31 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont know why guys do this but if u find out, please let me know!!!! Men are overgrown babies. I went through this for about 12 years with my hubby and outlaws. Caused a lot of problems; almost ended in divorce. I feel 4 u bc my kids were young enough not to know what was going on but... 4 someone to tell your kids that is WRONG! Your hubby needs to cut the apron strings before they choke him!!
2006-10-25 13:30:51 · answer #3 · answered by fuzzmonkey 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would run as fast as I could to get away from that dangerous, dysfunctional family. Since your husband adopted your kids, he will have to pay child support and possibly spousal maintenance. Nobody should have to put up with that treatment and it doesn't sound as if it will get better. Move on!!
2006-10-25 12:16:59 · answer #4 · answered by phoenixheat 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You have to first understand, he grew up with these people and it's not a crime to love your mother....but you being his wife...he is supposed to put you first before anyone except God (Unless it's a crime) If his family is making up lies about you he needs to stop or it will ruin your relationship. Maybe he is trying to straddle the fence....maybe he thinks you would never leave him no matter what but his family might disown him if he doesn't treat them a certain way. You all need counseling together.
2006-10-25 12:19:18 · answer #5 · answered by sugarbud 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you cannot make him change, he is a mothers boy. I think you are going to have to accept that
2006-10-25 12:16:19 · answer #6 · answered by shiningstarr32 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
damn i really hate that when men do that...that's not right?tell him to marry his mom..he does not need u! clearly.
2006-10-25 12:16:16 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You sound screwed up, sweetie.........I am sure you left out many details of this boring story. Basically, no one cares!
2006-10-25 12:15:31 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 6⤋
cuz he's a mama's boy loser
2006-10-25 12:14:01 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋