My husband and I have been having issues that are not being resolved, and I've been trying to figure them out for 2 years, I am tired and told my husband that we need to go back to counseling and get our issues resolved or we need to let ach other go, he really listened to me, did not argue or interrupt me, he did not walk away as he usually would. When i was done talking we hugged and then he grabbed me passionately and ws kissing me tightly. I have a hard time reading body language and interrupting what it means. Why the passionate kissing? Did he just not listen to a word I said and just wanted to be physical? Or was it the type of thing were like "wow I really respect her for standing up for herself?" What does the passionate kissing mean after my long talk? Can someone tell me what it means?
2006-10-25 11:58:22 · 11 answers · asked by ilih2006 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Hard to say but maybe he realized that he doesn't want to lose u afterall.
2006-10-25 12:04:30 · answer #1 · answered by cheetah7 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe the thought of you saying that if you don't go to counseling again you would leave made him look at you differently and therefore he got a surge of passion that ran through him and he acted upon it. I say that's a good thing. No, it does not resolve your problems but at least he is open to the counseling and obviously there is still passion between the two of you. Don't be confused just move ahead in what you have to do.
2006-10-25 12:04:38 · answer #2 · answered by Marie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you know how many couples have the same exact problem that you do? There's tons of unresolved issues in marriages, what makes issues unresolvable is the communication problem that couples face, you really need to find a good Christian councilor, there so much better than the secular councilor, the passionate kiss means, "Babe I Love You, and no matter whats going to happen, I Love you"
2006-10-25 12:09:18 · answer #3 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you've kept asking him the same questions (i read your history) which is probably getting him upset but he knows of your condition and doesn't seem to be helping himself to understand you better, be careful he might get physical. you were in an abusive relationship before and you seem very intelligent, why stick around, don't be afraid to move on, you will be ok, you don't deserve this type of reaction and relationship. his passionate kiss after you told him about counseling and possible separation was probably a relief that maybe your right. i worry for you. you've come over alot of obstacles and i believe this one you can too.
2006-10-26 06:45:52 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why are you focusing on the #^$%& kiss? He listened intently, did not interupt or argue, stayed positioned to better focus on your words. You know how many women are wondering how they can get his # right now. This is a milestone in your relationship and your psychoanalysing the hell out of it. No wonder you don't get problems resolved, YOU don't understand the answers!
2006-10-25 12:10:00 · answer #5 · answered by delux_version 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It sounds to me that you said what he might have been feeling but wasn't sure how to put into the right words...or that he didn't say out of fear of upsetting you.
Talk to him..get things resolved...and get on with a healthy relationship...That's just my opinion...
Best of luck!
2006-10-25 12:03:11 · answer #6 · answered by AllisonCooper 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you made a good connection with him. I believe he was listening, and that is why you got the kiss. He may understand you more.
2006-10-25 12:06:50 · answer #7 · answered by Bill 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you see a change to the better in your relationship, then he listened. If not - perhaps he just waited for you to shut up, and then simply wanted to get physical.
2006-10-25 12:02:12 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hopefully he will follow through with your (reasonable)request. If not, then he is using the kiss as a form of manipulation; bribing you to "take him back"
2006-10-25 19:18:52 · answer #9 · answered by atheleticman_fan 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it means today was a good day for you. tomorrow you will see if he was hearing you at all or not. but i would give him the benifit of the doubt an have a good evening now. i think he was giving it a try...not just shutting you up at all.
2006-10-25 13:30:52 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋