i want to be more of a talkative person but at school i dont talk much at all. i want to be known by girls and not be shy around them. i know im an attractive person but i just cant put my self out there so everybody can see me. im 17 and ive only had 1 girlfriend, ive had plenty of chances but im very picky when it comes to girls. so if you have any good answers to help me please reply.. thx u
2006-10-25 11:57:54 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Over coming shyness is hard and very scary. I use to be extremely shy. You just have to feel the fear and do it anyway. What's the worst that can happen?? You may get embarrassed but so does everyone else at some point. Start small by just saying "Hey" to someone you don't think knows you even exist. Then volunteer in class to answer questions or give a speech before anyone else. Get out there, be involved in things. Sports, clubs, etc. BE YOURSELF!!! Each time you do something and it becomes easier, go for an even harder thing. Talking to more intimidating people or harder situations where you are not comfortable. Eventually you will realize, it's not so hard to talk to others and fit in. Your vote and what you think and say are just as important as anybody else's. As far as dating and only having one girlfriend, Geez, you're only 17. You will have YEARS to date and find someone special. Good luck.
2006-10-25 12:12:44 · answer #1 · answered by Lori 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First thing you have to understand. By being picky, as you say, you have eliminated move than half of the girls you may have found very interesting....had you got to know them.
Shyness is not something you get over easily. It takes work.
It takes a gut understanding that you are as good or better than everyone else. Confidence in yourself is the only way to master shyness. If you do not think much of yourself then neither will most other people. But because you hold back they have no idea who you are.
I have been shy all my life. As I got older it became less of a problem but it still limits you. you always worry about what other people think of you and that stops you. In reality most people are concerned about themselves and have no time to think about you. Most all of what you are worried about is only in your head.
The best way I have ever heard that describes the difference between a shy person and an outgoing person is the following.
A shy person will approach a person and feel they may not like them. A confident outgoing person approaches a person and knows that person will like them.
Come to gain confidence in yourself and that shyness will go away.
2006-10-25 12:09:28 · answer #2 · answered by John B 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2015-09-25 17:37:57 · answer #3 · answered by Kiley 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Believe me they see ya...Thats what attracks alot of girls. You need to be yourself.If you try to be something your not they'll know. Plus it won't look right. If you see someone you want to meet then just go around them.The first opening to talk with them do it. Tell them who u are and ask them their name. You never know but she might be the one that has had a crush on you and thought you weren't approachable. Make yourself approachable to woman..Good luck hon.
2006-10-25 12:05:22 · answer #4 · answered by sweet_thing_kay04 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should give it a chance and try something new you might actualy find the fun ones then you will enjoy yourself...maybe this girl if you were to give her a chance she could show you how much fun it could be to have someone there for you I am 16 and my boyfriend was just like you he is 17 and I am his first serious relationship. so ya.
2006-10-25 12:02:21 · answer #5 · answered by Crystal 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Think about how lonely a future that you will have if your dont stop being shy....while others around your age have countless females you'll only have one. If that there doesnt scare you into being more talkative....then nothing willl. You need to understand that females in general are looking for guidance....and its up to a man to show them the way.
2006-10-25 12:07:44 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
"always do what you're afraid to do"
remember that quote. write it down on an index card and just meditate on that sentence all the time until you've overcome your shyness. MAN UP brotha!!!
2006-10-25 12:01:52 · answer #7 · answered by wizeguy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
when i was in highschool i was really she . i was good looking and had guys ask me out all the time, but i was too shy. i eventually got over it. i realized i cared too much about what everyone else thought about me. now i could careless about what people think.
2006-10-25 12:05:25 · answer #8 · answered by jungle cheeks 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You just have to tell yourself that it doesnt matter what people think about you. Just be yourself, if they dont like you its their loss!!
2006-10-25 12:01:20 · answer #9 · answered by crazy4mattie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋