it is very difficult to get over your fisrt love, really want to know why.
2006-10-25 11:54:56 · 30 answers · asked by marezi 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
We often fear it might be our last.........if i was you, I think that I would consulte with a counselor or pshycologist there could be more open dialect and for someone who does not know the whole situation it could be difficult to advise you and dangerous. (there are free one 1-800 numbers, search the web)
2006-10-25 11:56:02 · answer #1 · answered by southernboy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
These were your first real sets of new emotions. The first love is the sweetest, the kindest, the one you'll compare all others too. It's genuine and it's sweet and it's completly unforgettable. It's when you are at your least judgemental and you haven't been hurt and this guy is just the best guy on planet! You never forget your first love. I'm 25 and I still see mine here and there. I was 15 when we dated, so 10 years and counting! Of course what I have now is amazing, but back then things were different. It was innocent and that made all the difference.
2006-10-25 19:02:25 · answer #2 · answered by Dr. Kat 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My first love~
Was he the first? Perhaps not. I certainly had crushes on men/boys before him. But he has a staying power and he reached deeper into me than any before him. The funny thing of it is that he never felt the same about me. I think I was a casual friend, fun to flirt with, intriguing perhaps but hardly one to lose his heart to. He's on my mind a lot. I glance at the stars and I'm filled with memories. I think of all the times I sat next to him in his car, all the chances he gave me to let him in, all the times I chickened out. So many might have beens, so many things I would have done differently. I don't know that the outcome could have been changed, I don't know that I could have made myself into the confident woman I would have needed to be. But he stays with me and my heart still skips a beat for him.
2006-10-25 19:00:06 · answer #3 · answered by libby 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is quite difficult to let go of your first love simply because its your first try. Normally, its in the first try that you pour everything in your heart, you give 100 % of yourself simply because you are still unaware of any consequence of falling in love and being in a relationship. You'll think everything will run perfect. You will expect too much.
And when all these did not happen, you will definitely hurt so bad.
On the 2nd try though, it will be a lot easier to let go because, you have simply learned your lessons and have grown your awareness and self defense.
2006-10-25 19:06:39 · answer #4 · answered by Dave S 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
because your emotions is tied to one another no matter how many people you date it will still in the back of your consicous iwas fifteen when i had my first love he was 18 married with childern and we ended up being together fo six years he got divorced and we had a child i thought he was the one because he made me feel like thier was no one in the world i could love I was sick and crying and upset but someone told me if you think about all the negetive things in the relationshop instead of the good you will be like damm i was in love with this person for what? the bad in most relationships these days is that the bad outweigh the good youll be fine but time heals all wounds.
2006-10-25 19:02:35 · answer #5 · answered by s_reneeus 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it is the first time we have ever fealt something so intense and magical. we fear it might never com and when we lose our first love we lose the person that made us happy to wake up in the morning and were in out thoughts all day. we miss having someone to say i love u and them saying it back without being forced to like family. ull always remember ur first love and nothing will ever feel the same. ( that last line was a tad depressing other love i also great but its nor ur first)
2006-10-25 19:10:15 · answer #6 · answered by practicully_famouse 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My theory from experience:
Because your first love is the person you completely put your heart and soul into. You are so in love and feel that they will always be there no matter what happens, that you hold nothing back. When that love comes to an end....you are so heartbroken that you are unable to give that much love to another person in fear of another loss.
2006-10-25 19:09:15 · answer #7 · answered by crazy4mattie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because it is like you said, "your first love". Its the first time you actually experience those strong emotions and it's hard to let that go. First love is so powerful that letting it go is the hardest thing you may ever have to do, but eventually you move on.
2006-10-25 19:00:18 · answer #8 · answered by kittykatmendez 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think secretly and/or subcontiously you want him back, somewhere inside you there is desire to be with him and desire to get back the parts of him you you still have feelings for, you found true love. I have only ever met one person(my ex girlfreind) who made me feel like that and if she ever asks for me back, i would in a second even if i was with someone else. to anyone else that knew her she had loads of faults, i only saw the parts that i liked and loved. The faults i knew about never mattered to me cause i was/am blinded by the beauty inside her which everyone else ignores.
2006-10-25 21:18:06 · answer #9 · answered by iain12321 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because it's the first time you're learning to deal with real soul filling emotions. The good ones and the bad ones. It's a point where you learn just how strong you are.
2006-10-25 18:57:09 · answer #10 · answered by Usual 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋