i am so tired of getting yelled at and i am so sad all the time
2006-10-25 11:45:15 · 22 answers · asked by appleheavenjade 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
you dont you leave the idiot and file for divorce
2006-10-25 12:12:45 · answer #1 · answered by wildone 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Simple--you won't. You've married an a$$hole and he won't change. I'm sure he either grew up in a home without a father or he grew up in a home with an a$$hole as a father who yelled at his poor wife also. ANy husband who makes his wife sad all the time should have a bullet put in his head one night while he sleeps. He is no man and hopefully his kids don't have to be exposed to this a$$hole or else the cycle will continue for another generation.
Let me guess. He drinks a lot of beer, watches porn, drives a pick-up truck, has a shaved head, at least one tattoo, wears sunglasses all the time, never graduated from college, and loves the Oakland Raiders.
How'd I do?
2006-10-25 11:59:12 · answer #2 · answered by Mr. Curious 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am sorry to tell you this but you don't.
To be in love means you must have a feeling that you are loved and if he yells at you all the time it doesn't sound like it.
There are a lot of reasons why guys get this way. Could be his work, or lack of it. Could be he feels tied down and does not want to be.
What he yells at you about will tell you allot. If he never has a kind word for you then you have no choice. You need to get a divorce and find someone who will love you just the way you are.
2006-10-25 11:54:56 · answer #3 · answered by John B 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh sweetie. The first thing we need to do is get him to stop the yelling! Somehow, you need to grab his attention. Maybe throw something at him and in the moment he's silent just yell and say "STOP YELLING AT ME! I'M RIGHT HERE!!!" Then as things calm down say, "I'm sorry. I know that wasn't the best way to get your attention but you're hurting me! We have to work this out or else I'm not sure how much longer I can take this!" Then recommend some counseling and in time, providing he cooperates, I think you'll be very much able to fall back in love!
2006-10-25 11:49:22 · answer #4 · answered by Dr. Kat 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have been there.
The yelling never stops.
My biggest problem was when he yelled and cussed at me.
It brought my self esteem way down.
Finally I got tired of it and left. There were many other things that was there also that I grew tired of but I understand where you are coming from.
2006-10-25 11:52:32 · answer #5 · answered by Boo8081 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If its something he's always done, and its not new for him to treat you this way, then you're chances of resolving it are pretty slim, and its hard to fall back in love with someone that emotionally and verbally abuses you all the time. If it is something thats changed about him, then sit down and talk with him, try to figure out what's led to it.... and if you need a professional mediator, then find a counselor.... it might be helpful to have an unbiased 3rd party to help sort it out. Good luck.
2006-10-25 13:11:32 · answer #6 · answered by just_me3575 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why would you want to fall in love again with someone who constantly yells at you. He sounds like he is angry about something and you need to find out what it is. Obviously you've shown him love by staying with him and putting up with him yelling at you. Are you aware that some women may view that as verbal abuse, and you don't have to stand for that?
2006-10-25 12:14:52 · answer #7 · answered by Special K 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is very hard....I myself was in a marriage for 7 years and out of 6 years all I did was get yelled at. It is very hard to regain their trust and their promise that they won't mentally, emotionally abuse you again. I was at this point at one time he promised me he would stop the abuse and he did for awhile then back to his ol' self. I loved him so much also and I was sad everyday that I started looking older then I was. It is hard to leave because I am were your at this very moment. And I keep hoping things will eventually get better, or will they
2006-10-25 14:10:10 · answer #8 · answered by sarahpenn_2003 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it is really hard ...i learned the hard way that you can't fix it alone. After 10 years of a miserable marriage, where I would get yelled at constantly...over everything...even things i had no control of..I finally left. It has been two years and I have never been happier. It will still haunt you though...i apologize for everything still....
2006-10-25 11:49:13 · answer #9 · answered by shasta 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am not sure. You are not a door mat ,nor a child. No one deserves to be yelled at, even children. Being yelled at is degrading. Trying to talk to him about your feelings might help. That didn't help me much. But give it a try/
2006-10-25 11:51:05 · answer #10 · answered by oddbutterfly1 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This question is to vague to even consider answering. You are not a child and no one should be yelling at you that is called abuse and you can get help for that
2006-10-25 11:51:06 · answer #11 · answered by rkilburn410 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋