How do you feel about abortion?

Question

What are your reasons? Please explain

My friend has come to me telling me about her pregnancy and I feel it is up to her to make that choice......but here is here situation. She is 21 and engaged. She has only known her fiance for 3 months and has already moved across the country with him. The pregnancy was not planned and they are not in a good financial situation. Also she say's they are constantly fighting and she feels bringing a baby into the world considering the situation would be wrong. She does want kids but when she is at the right point in her life. What do YOU think.

Answer 1

I don't think I would ever have an abortion. I have two beautiful children, and now that I am older (40) and financially stable, I would have no problem raising more. All of this is moot however because my husband had a vacetomy years ago. What about if I were raped? I'm not sure how I would feel. That is a personal decision for me, and I am very thankful to have the CHOICE. My feelings on abortion in a nutshell? I am against abortion, but I would never criminilize it or demonize those who have had abortions. My white upper middle class self has no concept of what women who make that choice have to deal with.

Answer 2

I'm definitely pro-choice. I think that every woman should have the right to terminate an unwanted pregnancy...with certain caveats.

A woman should NEVER EVER use it as a method of birth control. In other words, if the woman has unprotected sex and thinks, "Oh well, I'll just abort if I end up pregnant," that woman should be flogged to death. THAT is not right.

Also, if you've carried a pregnancy past the 16th week, I think you should carry it the other 24 and place it for adoption. UNLESS the mother's life is in jeopardy, there is no excuse for voluntary mid- to late-term abortions .

With that said, it is a wise person who remembers that birth control fails; rape and incest happen. These are facts of life and a woman's (or girl's) life should not be shattered because of something beyond their control.

Sure there are those who would say, "Well, if there's no pre-marital sex, blah, blah, blah..." Sorry, but even married people don't want kids sometimes (I don't - I'm nearly 40 and done raising kids!) and married women can and do get raped all the time. It is an option for those who have taken all the right precautions and things go awry.

Responsible sex should have a back-up plan. Married or unmarried, consensual or not, all women should have the right to fix their lives when things don't quite go according to plan.

Answer 3

Abortion is a personal choice. If you friend feels that is the best option at this point in her life and she can live with the decision, she should trust herself to make that decision. Any you pro-lifers been in foster care waiting to be adopted ever? It doesn't take a whore as some people have stated to get pregnant. The bible has no place in making moral decisions about what is proper or improper in today's world. Following a fictional writing like the bible would be like picking up Star Magazine to make your choices. Fact and fiction can be two very fine lines. You create your own moral standards. Your body is your body. Is it immoral to remove a tumor that is "living" in your body? A fetus is a fetus, nothing more than you want it to be. Pregnancy is a blessing, child birth is a blessing, but having a child you don't want is not a blessing. This is how we end up with neglected and abused kids!
There are too many kids waiting to be adopted.

Answer 4

Of course its normal because you are feeling grievance towards the lost "child". I had a miscarriage when I was young, not knowing I was pregnant in the first place and I was too young to have a child but I found myself feeling the same way you do now. It wasn't that I wanted the baby it was because I was still experiencing a loss, it would be the same for you. Don't worry it will pass, it's only been a week. Just be strong.

Answer 5

Each to their own I reckon. I do not believe that a foetus is a baby until it is born and has taken it's first breath. I think that a foetus is simply the possibility of a child, the same as an egg is just the possibility of life. I think that the moment an infant takes it's first breath and welcomes it's soul, that is when it is a human child. This is just my opinion, everyone needs to believe something. If someone else believes abortion is murder then that is up to them, however, I believe that should an abortion occur, then that is how it is meant to be, no-one dies, only the soul was meant for another individual.

Answer 6

I knew my ex-husband for about that same time 2 months and I became pregnant 24 years ago. The marriage lasted 5 years and after that, he was a dead beat dad. I was just another single mom.Sometimes things DO work out in these kind of situations, like mine and your friends. Now to the question. I would NEVER tell anyone they were murderers or picket clinics or judge anyone because I can tell you that this decision is not one that the majority of people are happy about making. It is an agonizing decision which can affect you long after. There are so many variables here ie. rape, horrible birth defects, birth control error,sickness in mothers etc, that as women we CANNOT let anyone take away our right to choose, especially these political candidates-MEN! How do they know what it feels like? I don't see any of them getting pregnant.That is my opinion.

Answer 7

i think your friend is very sensible. no one should bring a child into this world if their relationship is in a bad way because its the child that suffers in the end.
if your friend is 100% sure that this is what she wants then she should do it never mind the small minded biggots they aren't the ones who have to raise the child. i would rather terminate than have to worry all my life about the child finding me when its older and having to explain why i didnt want it as that causes more pain for people involved.
i am 150% behind your friend all these anti abortion idiots dont know what they're talking about half of them have never even been in a situation like your friend which is why there are so many neglected kids out there because people have kids that they dont really want because they are afraid of what small minded biggots will say. tell your friend to do what she feels is right for her and screw everyone else.
sorry but this subect winds me right up.

Answer 8

Nobody likes abortion, but it is more wrong to force a woman to carry the pregnancy than it is for her to abort it.

In many cases abortion is perfectly justified. In fact, if a child is conceived as a result of a rape, I think that the woman has a moral obligation to abort the child to artificially select against that trait being passed on.

Answer 9

abortions is like talking about religion and politics to some, but I have had to have two as I fell while breast feeding my son and 3 months later fell again,so it is up to the individual, as i also was taking a contraception pill so it wasn't as if i wasn't.
i believe in some cases it is needed as if you were raped and not ready to have a baby it is there for open options, and i know people are going to say you shouldn't kill a life but in some cases you need too for your own health.But if you do happen to get an abortion make sure you get counselling as it is very disturbing to you what you have just done as been human we shouldn't but as i said some cases you have too.

Answer 10

You know I feel like the decision is strictly her's she is the one carrying the baby, and if she is questioning whether or not she want's to bring a child into an un-desirable situation...Then she needs to maybe sit down and make a "pro's and con's list"..Why it would be good to have the child, and why it won't. When things are on paper it's easier to make an informed decision she is facing..

No one wants to make such a life alter ting decision like this without really putting some serious thought into it, especially if they are not sure they will regret it either way.

I wish your friend luck, it's not an easy place to be. :-) Peanut