What to do?....... Tickets to the game / alone time with the wife???

Question

I have a bit of a problem right now...... I have tickets to the football game this weekend ( raiders vs steelers was a hard ticket to get )
and just got word from my wife that she arranged a sitter for sunday and wants to spend some time alone together.

she obviously forgot that my game was this sunday...... I am kind of torn as to what I should do because from what she told me she has planned I know she has spent some time putting this alone day together....... that being said I have been waiting MONTHS for this game and REALLY want to go.

Of all weekends why'd she have to plan it for this one?

By going to the game I am not choosing football over her, there will be plenty of other chances for alone time...... the steelers only come to the bay area every 5 years

she is the one who actully bought me the tickets but it was so long ago she forgot.

Answer 1

Oh my...talk about being put between a rock and a hard place!! I would gently remind her that this was the weekend for your football game which has been planned months ago...and while you greatly appreciate the effort and time she went through to plan this, maybe she could use that time for "me" time to pamper herself. Maybe suggest she schedule a massage at a spa or something. If it were me, I would totally understand and insist you go to your game. And I am jealous by the way...I am a huge Steelers fan and I never get to see them play because the tickets are so hard to come by! I sincerely hope you get to go and have a great time!

Answer 2

Do you only have the one ticket? could she go with you? OH - I have a suggestion - since you've been planning the football thing for months, and she simply forgot and was planning some alone time for the two of you - why don't you buy her a spa package, so while you're at the game, she can be pampered!! That way the sitter arrangements, etc., won't be wasted, and she'll feel special. But then YOU have to get on the stick and arrange a special day for the two of you asap after that, okay? What do you think?

Answer 3

So... You're in a GREAT position. You have tickets that were hard to get -- which means they should be easy to sell, BUT you can legitimately claim that you had to work extra to get them. You are therefore in the position of being offered what my friend calls "kinky guilt sex" for a week, at least.

Here's what you do:

1 - Arrange to sell the tickets.

2. Before they leave your possession, SHOW them to your wife -- mention that you had tickets to the game for Sunday (and how hard they were to get) but that when she mentioned the sitter and her plans for time alone, you unloaded them as quickly as possible.

3. Tell her that you'd been looking forward to the game for months... but that you KNOW that spending the time with her will be much more worthwhile... then give her a kiss, look into her eyes and ask with a sly smile, "It will, won't it?"

Now, just hope she hasn't set you up to spend the day at a doll-house furniture convention or something. :-)

Answer 4

Alright, first of all, be honest and compassionate as you explain the problem to your understanding wife. She will be upset, but the sooner you do it the better so that you can make plans and get a sitter for the night before. Tell her that you love her and want to be with her, but explain the problem. Is she unreasonable or just needing her husband?
Try giving her a little loving attention (whatever she prefers) everyday and it won't be that hard to her to cope with the mix-up. Plan the date for the day ahead, take some charge in this. Now.

Answer 5

She should not be mad at your choosing the game that you already had tickets to over her plans. But, in the real world, you are looking at one of those annoying female discussions about your priorities. Prepare yourself, and try to stay calm with her. She is trying to make you prove your love by choosing her over the game. Does she play other games also? That is usually the sign of an insecure woman. Tell her to go have some girlfriend time, and that you will plan something special together very soon, and then follow through.

Answer 6

Well to be fair about all of this you need to let her know about the game be bought the tickets for. If shes anything like me she wont want the money wasted that it took to buy the tickets. You should have mentioned this when she told you she got a baby sitter.Hmmmmmmmm I would just be straight with her about it.

Answer 7

i would expect that my husband would see just how controlling that situation could turn out to be and go to the game
assuming-that a. you had told her previously
b. the tickets were purchased well before the planning started and c. you are willing to tick her off-possibley

it would mean finding out if she rems. you telling her about the game-and explaining-calmly and nicely why you prefer to go to the game
i repeat-calmly and nicely
maybe even-if you choose the game, prearrange a delivery of her favourite flowers or other gift for sunday afternoon -wherever she will be-make it happen--include a lovely handwritten note-in your handwriting-going over why she is lovely and you are thinking about her etc
i would be impressed also, with the following weekend a follow-up surprise get away for the two of you-to make it up
nothing elaborate just something as a surprise for you annnd her to enjoy-together-something you know she! likes, it could even be simple a picnic, walk, museum whatever
good luck

Answer 8

Well you do have a problem there. If you wanna really score big with her then sell the tickets or give them away and enjoy the weekend with her, maybe ask her if she knows anyone that would want the ticket. Enjoy knocking the bottom out of it my friend.

Answer 9

Sounds like something my husband does to me on occasion. It's all okay for him to take off and do something...not even look back or feel any quilt for leaving me behind. But, the minute I plan something to do with my friends....he can think of all the things that he would like to do with me and "what am I going to do while you are gone"? Sounds to me like...it's not that she actually forgot...she just doesn't really want you to go. So why not surprise her and do something really great with her on Saturday before the game.

Answer 10

If she is going out of her way to get alone time with you than it must be needed.If i where you I would try to work together on this, see if she will give in a watch the game with you.And go out some place nice to watch the game and enjoy your time alone.