I've been dating this guy for 2 1/2 yrs. We have had our ups and downs, mainly downs. The other day he tells me that he always feels pressure coming from me whenever he does anything. So that's why he goes out and stays out until all hours of the night. He expects me to just say it's ok to stay out until 8:00 in the morning. NO WAY!!! He doesn't understand that in a relationship you can't do that!!!! So since he thinks he should be able to, knowing it's going to hurt me. Is he really worth the fight. And may I mention this has been going on since we started dating.
2006-10-25 10:37:54 · 13 answers · asked by Jennifer M 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Honey, why are you still with this man? Don't you think you deserve better? Get out now & find someone who loves & respects you because this man does neither one.
2006-10-25 10:41:46 · answer #1 · answered by Michelle *The Truth Hurts 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok, first off, how old are you guys. I say if there is mainly down's then dump him. But then again, In a relationship it is important for a couple to go out and do their own thing. Even if it means staying out late. Now 8 am is pushing it a bit. But like maybe 2 or so when the bars close... thats acceptable. My boyfriend and I have been together for almost 6 months, he is 6 years older than I am and I cant get into the bars he does since Im not yet 21. So he sets aside one or two nights a week to go out with the boys and go to the bar. Now the rest of the time we spend together. So what I say is seriously evaluate the relationship and see if that is what you want to put up with for the time being. Hope it helped
2006-10-25 17:45:05 · answer #2 · answered by Angel52186 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think he is worth it so if you can distance yourself slowly and then alltogether from this man it would be in your best interest. the reason why i said slowly if you can't bring yourself to leave him alone at the moment because I know that after 2'1/2 years are invested it is still hard to let it go because of the time invested even if the relationship is not the way you want it to be. ( believe me I know)
I agree totally with you there are just certain things that men should understand that they should not be doing while they are in a commited relationship, and staying out all night is one of them.
so leave him alone and find a man who will have respect for your feelings.
2006-10-25 18:35:23 · answer #3 · answered by Thandie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think that is worth it at all. I mean I don't think you guys have very much chemistry, if any at all. Try talking with him, I would let him know how you feel and decide together that if you want to see other people. It could really hurt, for a while, but you will be happier with someone else. Trust me, there is so much going on in my life too with that stuff!
2006-10-25 17:42:46 · answer #4 · answered by peace ♥ music 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if it's been like this since u started dating him, then y did u still date him??? who know's when he stays out to the wee hours of the morning that he's not cheating on u?? he is not worth fighting with tell him that u need sometime apart from him. he's not going to change for u so ur just wasting ur time on him, move on.....
2006-10-25 17:43:31 · answer #5 · answered by mustangsweetthing 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Since you started dating? Well, that's why he thinks it's ok, you stuck around for it! No, it's not ok, unless you do it together, or you talk together and agree it's ok. My advice, if you do want to be with him: do it to him for a few nights and see if he understands, if not, and he's only angry or couldn't care less, than move on. If he does understand and decides it's no good, than he'll change it for you. Try it out, and plus, you can have some fun girls' nights!
2006-10-25 17:41:34 · answer #6 · answered by EnglishKitty 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry to say this, but I don't think he wanna be with you anymore. A relationship with mainly down time and a boyfriend who never wants to hang out with you....you definitely better off without him.
2006-10-25 17:41:41 · answer #7 · answered by Mumbling Girl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can only tell you what I would do. I would tell the loser to get lost. There are plenty of other men that would treat you right. This guy sounds like he really needs to grow up.He needs a major reality check.
2006-10-25 17:44:19 · answer #8 · answered by froggie47469 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You really do know what you need to do. Leave him and let him do his thing. He isn't worth the trouble. There are wonderful guys out there that do no treat women like this. He is cheating on you in more ways than one. RUN!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
2006-10-25 18:01:26 · answer #9 · answered by gagam 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is not worth fighting over maybe say you don't feel comfortable with that and explain yourself and don not act like you are playing look very consider and that what i think i hope it works.
good luck
2006-10-25 17:51:51 · answer #10 · answered by smilely 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋