My best friend is throwing a party with another girl behind my back, for the second time. both times she made sure i didn't find out, but my other friends told me about it. Should i confront her about the parties? And what should i say?
2006-10-25 10:22:07 · 36 answers · asked by Music~Is~Life! 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Yeah. For example if it is this weekend be like:
"Hey, whatcha doing this weekend?"
She might say "Oh, nothing much. Just going to chill."
"Wanna go see a movie or something?"
She might say "Can't, I umm gotta do homework."
Now act like you're totally clueless about the party and say with a smile "You're not throwing a party, are you?" Then laugh and walk away.
Later ask her why she didn't invite you to the parties. Sorry to say it, but that probably means she doesn't want you around at all =(
2006-10-25 10:25:14 · answer #1 · answered by OwNaGeR 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off let me say that she is not your "best "friend.
Come on, friends do not do that.
Trust me, all through middle school and high school you will loose some friends and gain some friends. Im not sure how old you are. But it sounds like this is something high school kids would do. If i were you i would not even confront her about the situation. Why would you want to be friends with someone who lies to you and does not want you at their parties. Please dont let it hurt your feelings. In the long run, and when you and her mature... You will be the better person. Girls are evil in highschool...its all about a popularity contest. But who is to say whos popular. Stay true to yourself and DO NOT LET PEOPLE BRING YOU DOWN.
keep your head held high
xoxoxo
2006-10-25 10:28:42 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's not called a best friend if the second time she threw a party behind your back...even worse by making sure you didn't find out..
2006-10-25 14:56:48 · answer #3 · answered by Amy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to remove the best friend label. She is not your best friend, or even a friend. People that will scheme behind your back are dishonest and disloyal - is that what you want in a friend?
Sure, sit down with her when you both are in a good mood and just ask her why you were left out. Then move on and find a good friend.
2006-10-25 10:36:20 · answer #4 · answered by chris 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If this was my case, I'd definitely confront my best friend about it. The reason is because since you guys are best friends, this kinda thing shouldn't happen unless there is a problem. Do not let emotions and frustration take a hold of you though. I'd let her know how I feel and that if there is a problem, fix it right away if you guys want to remain friends.
2006-10-25 10:25:25 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She's your best friend but you may not be hers. Don't confront her about the parties but confront her about where your friendship stands in her life. With the answer she provides you should be able to tell why she doesn't tell you about the parties. She may either mean well by it or something bad by it. Either way it's tough to assume without knowing where you stand in her life.
2006-10-25 10:28:58 · answer #6 · answered by 00jag 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why confront her?
If it really REALLY bothers you, then yes. Confront her. Explain to her how it feels when you are no invited.
Personally I would live and let go. It's not worth bothering about. If your friend wants to act jerky, then let her. You can enjoy your friends too.
Sometimes friends just grow apart. It doesn't mean that it will last forever, but it may last for a few months. You'll both survive.
2006-10-25 10:25:14 · answer #7 · answered by FaZizzle 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get a new best friend then throw a party with her.
2006-10-25 10:25:16 · answer #8 · answered by missgigglebunny 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i'd confront her about it and be careful about calling her my best friend. the only parties best friends should be throwing behind your back are surprise parties
2006-10-25 10:25:30 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It could be she is jealous of you and doesn't want you there. So bear that in mind, when you do confront her, and I think you should. It's best to be honest with each other in the long run. It may be that her other friend may be the cause, and she feels she has to go along with it. Good luck and stay strong.
2006-10-25 10:26:12 · answer #10 · answered by sandie 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋