one of my best friends's boyfriend is cheating on her. everybody knows it but her. she knows he cheated on her once before. should i tell her? oh and this has happened b4 and me and one of my friends tried to tell her but she got mad at my friend so they arent friends anymore. i dont want this to happen again. should i tell her?
2006-10-25 10:19:24 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
ofcourse tell her! you wouldnt want to see her hurt,tell her calmly that his cheating on her, and that you only care for her, and you wouldnt tell her again if it was actually not happening,but it is!
if she denies it,just leave her alone,and let her find it out for herself.
Also,ask her boyfriend why he is acting like a brat!and that if he doesnt like her anymore than tell her,instead of you guys!
If you care about your friend,you will take the risk....
2006-10-25 10:32:18 · answer #1 · answered by *Å®åßîåñ P®îñÇꧧ ©* 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Personally I'd want to know. But do you think your friend feels like he's the one for her? If not, the relationship will probably fizzle anyway and you don't have to be the messenger of bad news. But if she is about to take serious step with the guy like engagement or somethin ghten you should tell her. But when you tell her, make sure you indicate that you are doing it in her interest - that you don't want to see her hurt. Then just tell her the facts and let her make up her own mind what to do. Also reassure her that you are there for her whatever she decides to do. She'll be mad but also somewhat embarassed that she didn't know so be supportive.
2006-10-25 10:24:16 · answer #2 · answered by M L 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her that you're very sorry to break it to her, but you are worried that her boyfriend is cheating on her, and present your evidence... make sure it is not just hearsay or something that could be misinterpreted (like him hugging another girl), but something concrete (he had his tongue down another's girl's throat).
Tell her you hope this doesn't harm your friendship, because you only bring it up out of concern for her happiness.
If she's not even willing to consider the possibility and gets mad at you, then she is deluding herself and will be the one to suffer for it. It's not your fault and you did the best you could. Remind her that you are still her friend and have her best interests at heart; if and when she decides to face facts, she will need your friendship more than ever.
If she does listen, encourage her to realize that she deserves better and to dump the cheating jerk.
2006-10-25 10:28:13 · answer #3 · answered by teresathegreat 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes you should you should not keep secrets from anyone you call a friend cause no matter how bad it might hurt her she will thank you in the end plus if she finds out from someone else and she finds out you knew and didn't tell her she will be upset with you for not being a friend and will probebly not trust you for a long a** time or she might break off the friendship because if you keeped this a secret from her she might think what else is she keeping from me so tell her before it's too late good luck
2006-10-25 15:05:20 · answer #4 · answered by alyshiapeanut 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Telling her would be the best thing to do, but think how will she feel. Try to tell ehr calmly. Give her time to get over him. Try saying, "I know what I'm going to say will hurt you, but I can't let you trust_______becuase he's not worth it." Try to understand that this news may hit her really hard. Be on her side throughout this whole situation. It's gonna really be hard for her and she needs a great friend like you by her side!
2006-10-25 10:30:47 · answer #5 · answered by Lioness 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes especially if the they r getting serious if she don't understand that friends will always be there and that the guy might find a girl who he is more into then he can just dump her and then because she has no friends she will be all alone
not only that she should always trust her friends b4 her boyfriend
2006-10-25 10:35:11 · answer #6 · answered by Tiffany z 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes
2006-10-25 10:21:56 · answer #7 · answered by girly girl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I believe you will have to inform. What they did or are doing is fallacious and will have to be courageous ample to inform her themselves. Putting you within the core of the quandary is not reasonable in any respect. Maybe deliver them each the choice to inform her and allow them to realize that by way of them retaining you within the core, they don't seem to be being well peers. No subject what the results is not going to be well. They cheated, they tousled, now not you.
2016-09-01 02:37:30 · answer #8 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well that would be the right thing to do but if your friendship is messing up don't tell her let her find out on her self and if she says you knew about it just say that you did know about it just say yes but tell her that you knew that she would get mad and then let her diced what going to happen there!!!?!?
2006-10-25 10:35:30 · answer #9 · answered by claniqi 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
now if your were in that situation would you want someone to tell you that he was cheating on you? Well me, YES and i will be hurt and i wouldn't want to believe it but that's the truth!
2006-10-25 10:34:13 · answer #10 · answered by Shyshy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋