seen her for over 3weeks she's only 16 and i'm worried stupid we've always had a close relationship it's only been me and her my partner never stuck around when she was born.. i don't drink i've never taken drugs i've never put her in arms way of anything.. i'm heart broken and don't know what to do anymore i've walked the streets looking for her.. other members of my family have heared from her but she just wont communicate with me anymore.. i don't know what i've done wrong has any body out there ever had a similar thing happen to them and was the outcome good did your child return to you?
2006-10-25 10:19:23 · 14 answers · asked by . 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
The police have been informed and i am undergoing councilling but my daughter refuses to go she doesn't think there's a problem
2006-10-25 10:26:23 · update #1
Wow I would call the police and pray that she's safe. When she does get home I would highly suggest that you two seriously see a counselor. They can help you both break down the barrier thats formed between you and her and maybe figure out why your daughter is acting out this way.
2006-10-25 10:22:55 · answer #1 · answered by Erin 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She's just about an adult, so in some ways she can do as she likes. Not wise though, is she?
The problem is that she's up to no good, and she doesn't understand that her mum knows a lot more about the world than she does. That's why mum is so concerned and daughter is not. 16 year olds think they know it all... sadly it takes them a few years til they grow up some more and realise that they haven't got the slightest clue yet. You can't tell her that though, it will only peeve her off some more.
You've done your thing, so stop chasing her and maybe she'll come home. When she does, and this harking back to my teen years, maybe you should make her realise that home is not a hotel for her to check in and check out as she likes. If she's a 'resident' there she has certain responsibilities (you name 'em), because it's your darn house. If she doesn't like the rules and regulations, then cheery-bye, pack her bags for her and see how she responds. My guess is that she'll respect you more.
2006-10-25 10:42:05 · answer #2 · answered by Summer 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm not saying this to be mean, but I would call Dr. Phil and he would set the girl straight. She has an issue and maybe she feels you are the last person she wants to talk to. The next time she returns home. Lock her in the house until she talks to you. She is 16 years old. You are the boss not her. Sometimes tough love is the best love. If she doesn't go for that, then your going to have to decide what steps to take next.
2006-10-25 10:46:03 · answer #3 · answered by Ms.Deb 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are really brave, how do u cope with something like that. I hope you find her safe and well! I used to put my mum through hell when i was a teenager but my mum is more stubborn than me! It helps when u just spend time with her, u don't have to talk about your problems or anything, just talk about normal stuff, take her shopping, watch movies etc! being a mother is important up to the age of 12. your Daughter is 16 she needs a friend. I hope this helps! Chin up!
2006-10-25 10:52:33 · answer #4 · answered by Janey 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I ran away on many occasions when I was her age. I think it was because I wanted to prove to my mum and me that I was grown up and didn't need her anymore. I ended up in a youth hostel who got me my own flat. Me and my mum get on great now we are really close. I don't know what the answer is but all I do know is that shouting and pushing is not gonna help, you will only end up pushing her away. Try talking to some of her friends, maybe they can find out what is up with her. I know this may seem a waste of time but you will always find at least 1 friend that will spill the beans.
Good Luck
2006-10-25 10:47:20 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
my friends 16 year old girl did the same. she even said her step dad sexually abused her. i knew it was rubbish. she just went very wayward. she`s nearly 22 now and they now get on great, even wiv her step dad but she never did go back home. wenever she see`s her mum now they have a great big hug but i remember wen it all first started my friend went through exactly wot u are going through. i`m not sure if this helped u but try staying strong and i really hope it works out for u. i just can`t imagine how terrible u must be feeling. my thoughts are wiv u
2006-10-26 02:23:40 · answer #6 · answered by graham f 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the only trouble is at sixteen children (most of them) think that they know every thing that is to be known about life,and unfortunately the parants/guardians are always seem to be on the bottom of the list. at least your daughter is communicating with members of your family. I personally think you should talk to your family and tell them to let her know that you are not mad at her and you will see her when she is ready or if you push to hard she might stop getting in touch with them too best of luck, I do know what you are going through, please be patient , i hope i have helped a little.
2006-10-25 10:56:52 · answer #7 · answered by RICHARD R 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i am sorry this is heartbreaking. stop trying so hard to be a friend and a parent. i tink she had friends she needs a mommy. she will come around.the only advice i can give is try watcing gilmore girls something similar happend to lorelei and rory. So sorry i hopw she comes home soon and when she does tell us. I will pray for u.
2006-10-25 12:28:13 · answer #8 · answered by practicully_famouse 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Call the police get a therpist for her.
2006-10-25 10:27:11 · answer #9 · answered by missgigglebunny 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know the answer but I just wanted to wish you well and hope that she comes back soon.
All I can suggest is to call round to her friends, but you've probably already done that
2006-10-25 10:22:35 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋