I have met the most gorgeous woman a man could ever want. There is a problem though she has a fetish…no not a fetish it more like an obsession she says she has to have all the time. I don’t know if there are a lot of woman out there like this or not, and I know something happened to her in her child hood. She wants to be RAPED and I mean all the time, and it is just not the rape fantasy like a lot of woman talk about she actually wants to be, and this is her words pummeled. I mean I do not know what to do and she is all ways on my mine thinking is she safe how she is doing you get the picture. Any way we have chatted on line for 6 year and never met…until last week. Mainly this was because I was deployed all the time. Yes I am in the military, but in the reserves. Well when I laid my eyes on her for the first time I knew then I could not do what she wanted me to do and that’s was Rape and beat her. She really wanted me too, but she is the most beautiful woman I have ever had the pleasure of letting my eyes ever see in the world. I have found out that she is on several rape web sites with profiles and rape forums boards. I have tried to look this up in so many places to get an insight on what makes her tick so to speak. But there is not a lot of information out there on it. She tells me she love talking to me and she even loved the fact that we finally met. She still talks to me and wants to meet again, but still I am frozen or stuck I do not know the words to describe it. I know in my heart that I can not do what she wants me to do. I mean I could do the roll playing, but not the actual hitting, and I mean she want to be hit with a fist. I do care about her so much and I know people only change if they want…In the same instance I think I fell in love with her before we ever met. She has written to me in so many different countries it is unbelievable. She kept up with me more than a lot of my so called close friends. So I don’t want to loose her friendship, and I want more out of our relationship if it is all possible. But I have never met any one who really wanted to be beaten and raped for real. I think she is careful, but it only takes one real nut case to get a hold of her…and then she would be gone for ever. I know I do love her just in our first meeting we talked for hours. But I do not know if I could accept the fact she wants to be raped and beaten all the time and she prefers a stranger that is what scares me for her. So any light you can shed on this is appreciated.
2006-10-25 09:47:42 · 13 answers · asked by Jerry 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I have no idea! I was raped as a little girl, and I understand where she's coming from as far as wanting a man who can control her in bed. After being raped, and surviving what I did through childhood, a man who can't control me doesn't excite me. Men who are sweet and considerate are actually irritating to me. Excitement borders on fear. It's strange, and I try to avoid scary guys, but I think she feels like normal is boring, so she needs the extreme to get a kick. My advice is to be very open to different types of sex, that will prove to her that you're not in the norm and it'll create questions for her which will keep her excited. As far as wanting to be hit, I don't understand that, and I don't know that I could. I'm attracted to men who're dangerous, even abusively so, because I'd rather be afraid of one man's abuse than be afraid of all men's abuse. See, an abusive guy is going to control me, but he's also going to want to be the only one doing it. If I were you, I'd give it a shot, take the risk, and see if you can satisfy her in ways that you're both comfortable with. I'd ask her to reconsider and stop the sites, those are dangerous and she could get killed. Overall, I think you need to find out if this is something she can move past for her own health, and then maybe you two can be happy together. If not, than be there for her when she does get hurt, because it will happen sooner or later.
2006-10-25 10:02:11 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a very difficult question, I could understand the roll playing and the rapping part but to the part where she wants u to beat on her.
Maybe she likes the feeling of being powerless to a man.
Have you explained to her that you could not hit her because a man does not hit a woman and you dont have a problem with the roll playing part but u just cant hit her.
2006-10-25 10:05:02 · answer #2 · answered by lovable110 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She may be pretty but she has some real issues that you can't fix. Faking rape is a somewhat common fantasy. But being brutalized is just wrong. I would cut your losses. If she ever gets over this phase there may not be much of her left to have. Sad but true.You in all likelyhood will just end up hurt by what she is doing to herself.Only this girl can choose to get at the root of why she wants such treatment
2006-10-25 09:55:33 · answer #3 · answered by Duane Allman 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She is CRAZY! And as far as her "childhood" goes, she hasn't ever been raped or even sexually molested for that matter. I am a victim of childhood rape and I know by all means that I would never want it to happen again, knowingly or not. She is sick and needs some help, and it the perfect example of the psycho's you can meet on line. DUMP HER!!!!
2006-10-25 09:56:45 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Leave her alone! That sort of thing can turn on you in a very bad way. What if she said after you did it for real and then went to the police covered in bruises? Trust me - she needs help and you are not the one to give it. No normal woman enjoys being beaten and raped.
I think she's coo coo for coca coca puffs for sure! You don't need this sort of thing in your life.
2006-10-25 09:58:02 · answer #5 · answered by emmyfair 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
WOW!!! I THINK THIS WOMAN NEEDS TO GET INTO THERAPY!! SHE'S NOT EXHIBITING NORMAL BEHAVIOR AT ALL! DOES SHE NOT REALIZE THAT THERE IS A SOFT, LOVING, GENTLE WAY OF MAKING LOVE?????????????? ARE YOU GOING TO BE ABLE TO DO THIS TO HER ALL THE TIME?? DOESN'T YOUR HEART BREAK FOR HER?? HOW CAN A MAN DO THAT TO A WOMAN, EVEN IF SHE WANTS YOU TO? DON'T YOU FEEL LIKE A CREEP AFTER?? MAN....MAYBE YOU SHOULD LOOK ELSE WHERE FOR A WOMAN, SHE MAYBE GORGEOUS ON THE OUTSIDE, BUT THERE IS DEFINEATLY SOMETHING VERY UGLY ON THE INSIDE!! WHAT IF YOU TWO HAD KIDS, HOW WOULD SHE EXPLAIN SEX TO THEM?? OHHHH THIS POOR WOMAN IS REALLY SICK!!!
2006-10-25 09:56:52 · answer #6 · answered by mamaexfour 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Wow ... I'm sorry to say this but - unless you're willing to fulfill her desires you will never be able to truly satisfy her ... she just sounds scary to me ... being raped, beat and thrown around are totally different than role-playing and ruff sex ... she maybe better off a friend than a lover ... good luck with whatever you choose ... !
2006-10-25 10:00:22 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
HEY GI, Can you spell U-C-M-J ?
If you can, RUN LIKE HELL "while you can". If you participate in her "request" you could not only be subjected being prosecuted by the Civilian Authoirities, you will also incur the wrath UCMJ.
Take her picture, if she's that gorgeous, but don't touch her at all. THERE is something very - very wrong with her.
If you don't "please" her she could cry foul-play, and you'll still wind up in jail.
2006-10-25 10:33:09 · answer #8 · answered by yorlooksmybiz 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do not rape her for the fact and if you really luv her you will tell her to stop cuz somtin bad might happen one day cuz of it. Tell her your feelings and emotions and maybe she will stop she is just crazy and probaly wants to get raped cuz of her past. You never know she might stop and get wit you. That would be great!
2006-10-25 10:04:56 · answer #9 · answered by sexyme 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She needs some serious counseling and you need to just remain her friend and nothing romantic until she has resolved her issue. Everyone has a fetish but hers is not realistic and very dangerous.
2006-10-25 09:58:48 · answer #10 · answered by Marie 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋