i have a 2 an a half year old baby boy his father left when he was 6 months an moved to england which is just across the water as i live in northern ireland. i had not heard from him until last week now he wants 2 no if he can see the child? i dont think i should as he hasnt been there 4 him an i have brought him up myself which has been had as i was only 17 when he was born. if i dont let him see the child wil it be bad on my part or will he grow up 2 hate me?
2006-10-25 09:45:06 · 8 answers · asked by Andrea2k6 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Answer to your question : NO, NO You are alerady doing the best for yourself and child. Do not second guess yourself. You have taken resposibility and now you are raising your child, I say that you are a remarkable mother. Look at your child in the eyes, he knows no hate, he is innocent, he loves you unconditionaly, and he always will. I think that you are an incrediable mother. Be proud of youself as a mother. Celebrate your self as a mother, I think your child is blessed to have you as a mother. I wish you and your child a good lifeI. Hope this supports you in away that is encouraging, and If I could I would give you a big hugh.
2006-10-25 10:09:39 · answer #1 · answered by bonnie f 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's a tough one. If the dad pops in and out of your son's life throughout the son's life, it will be very difficult for your son.
I would try to talk to the father first and see what his intentions are. If he is very remorseful and wants to stay in the area and be part of his son's life, maybe he deserves a chance. But tell him you will not put up with him re-appearing every couple of years to see the son when you have done all the hard work of bringing him up. In the meantime, see a lawyer (barrister). The father is probably liable for child support. In the U.S., if the father pays child support, he gets to see the child. But lots of men get away without paying support theyir whole lives.
2006-10-25 09:51:23 · answer #2 · answered by Stimpy 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that you should first make sure you go and get custody of your son.. Then I would let the father see him only with you there in a public place.. You can't just let this lil boy go with a man he never met b4.. My daughters father sees her maybe 5x a year.. I let him see her cuz not at 12 she is seeing who has been there for her.. I'm not gonna be blamed for the relationship between her and her father.. Let the father screw up on his own.. Your son will see on his own.. No he may decided to be in his sons life from now on.. let him.. Remember your son will know who to look up to when he gets older.. a boys father doesn't always have to be his Hero.. just remember that
2006-10-25 09:51:24 · answer #3 · answered by SweetOne 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is your choice to make on what you thing is in the best interest of the child. I would also take into consideration if the father wants to be part of his life or if he just wants to see him. There is nothing worse then a father popping in and out of a childs life.
2006-10-25 09:54:12 · answer #4 · answered by lovable110 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
regrettably, he has a felony perfect to be certain his baby and that perfect can't be taken away via you. he's the baby's father and he can press for visitation any time he needs ... regardless of if it extremely is now or in 5 years. the sole way the courtroom won't provide him visitation is that if he's a shown threat to the baby. meaning you're able to desire to flow into courtroom with better than merely your opinion, and your suspicions. it extremely is not suitable if he's a thief or an unemployed alcoholic drug abuser. you're able to desire to be waiting to tutor that he certainly did something to place your toddler's life in threat. That stated, you certainly might desire to get your self an lawyer and initiate engaged on securing baby help, which he needs to pay no count what. good luck!
2016-11-25 20:30:20 · answer #5 · answered by magoon 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
every child wants to know their dad but in your situation i would file a petition with your court because you live in different areas what if he visited him and took him to his land?? he is a legal parent and you wouldn't be able to get him back..go to your court petition for parental rights and if he wants visitation he will need to be there and bring it up there..then it will be kidnapping if he takes him and the baby could be brought back to you..maybe you can let him see him as a "friend" in your presence do not confuse your son..if he's left this long he'll probably leave again..and the older your child gets the more attached to his dad he'll get and if he comes and goes it will effect him emotionally
2006-10-25 09:55:00 · answer #6 · answered by Alli 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your son will be upset with you for not allowing his Dad to be in his life. I know it may be hard, but the child deserves to know his father. It's not your sons fault that YOU don't know how to pick em.
2006-10-25 10:12:17 · answer #7 · answered by Tonya L 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You might as well let him come and see him. Your baby will grow up always wondering what his Daddy was like. Let him grow up knowing his Daddy so he can form his own opinion of what he is like.
2006-10-25 09:52:03 · answer #8 · answered by babycakemom 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋