I need some good tips on how to be a better person.?

Question

Im 15 and have an annoying brother and go to school with some mean and annoying people but in highschool who doesnt? I wish that I could be that rly nice girl and an overall rly good person but my anger is bad sometimes and I yell a lot when I get mad and am very upfront about thing. I like to say that i am very nice but dont take "crap" from people , at all. Is that bad? what can I do to be a nicer person and not get so mad?

Answer 1

at 15 you are worried about becoming a nicer person?
You must be a sweet girl already.
go to this website.....www.dontsweat.com
they have a lot of good advice.

Answer 2

**** the bible. Yeah... That word began with an F.



Enough with the bable talk... You can change on your own or with the support of friends and family. There is no need to put your hopes into a false boogie man in the sky to make your fears and problems go away. You are stronger than that after all. Look into yourself, to that same place that you look to for the strength to stand up and not 'take crap' as you mentioned. Once you realize that you are making the choice to be a crab you can make the changes you need. Not to say some people don't deserve a nice swift kick in the... Often times putting yourself in their postition can give you a fine perspective on how the situation should be treated. Most importantly respect those that respect you - and vice versa. You're young. You'll work it all out.

And fyi--- It's spelled really.

Answer 3

I used to have this "anger" problem when I was younger. One time in the office, the principal told me that there are people out there who are a lot meaner than I was, and there would be a time when there would not be anyone around to break up the fight. School fights rarely last more than 30 seconds as I recall...
Anyway, blowing your top in front of a group is a good way to let people know what "buttons" need to be pushed to get your dander up.
At 15 years of age, you could still get away with beating the snot out of someone, but it does not do much for your conflict resolution skills. If someone needs to be "addressed", you may be able to do it in private, this may prevent anyone in a group from adding to the situation by taunting you or the other person or persons. And if all that diplomacy fails, you may pound them to a pulp at your leisure in relative privacy.

Answer 4

The phrase "annoying brother" is redundant, isn't it?

;-)

It's good that you're interested in trying to control your anger (that is, control the expression of your anger, there's nothing wrong with FEELING anger, when justified), as that will make you both happier and easier to be around.

When you find yourself starting to get angry, get yourself out of the situation and try to cool off for a bit. A lot of times the thing that makes us angry isn't worth our causing further problems over.

About taking cr*p. One thing to keep in mind is whether you are taking offense when none is really intended. Also, people are very much in their own heads and don't think how their behavior effects others. Yes, that's rude; but usually isn't worth causing a fuss over. Avoid these people when possible.

Getting mad and letting them have it just makes the situation worse, as they now have to defend themselves. Thus, your and their anger escalates into a big blow-out.

I highly recommend the writings of Miss Manners -- her column (which is on-line at the Washington Post website), and especially her books.

She frequently addresses how to not be a doormat, but politely.

You may be under the common mis-conception that the only choices are between being rude and being walked all over. This is false.

You can get your way (as appropriate -- sometimes you don't deserve to have your way, a question it's worth asking yourself), and express your feelings without being rude or "mean" or out of control.

Miss Manners gives lots of specific advice on how to do this in a wide variety of situations.

Another common misconception is that we can control other people. We can't. (Or our ability to effect others is very limited.)

The sooner you give up the idea that you can make other people behave properly, the better for you and everyone around you.

The other thing to consider, when you're about to be "very up-font about things" is, is it any of your business? If you're being "upfront" about how other people live their lives, please stop.

You can laugh at other people (not to their faces, but among your friends), but you shouldn't try to tell them what you think of how THEY act.

Also, there's being up-front politely (calmly, for instance), as opposed to being up-front in a rude or hostile way.

Choose polite and calm. It causes fewer problems and is MUCH more likely to be effective.

Sometimes you just have to say to yourself "this really isn't worth my getting all worked up about."

Hope this long, boring lecture helps.

Oh, and about high school. Try to remember that high school isn't forever. The worst of those kids will get theirs as soon as high school is over and all the rules change. There IS life after high school, and it's very different in a lot of ways.

Answer 5

i used to have the same problem. i still get really mad at school but everyone at school likes me and think s im real nice now. just reamember taht these people will remember how you act. also, think a littel berfore you say anythin. do what you think feels right. it's ok to be upfront. just try not to yell. good luck!

Answer 6

i've got found out that each and every thing occurs for a reason. i've got additionally chanced on that if I do one effective undertaking, be it %. up a bite of trash, help somebody out, something be it little or huge, human beings tend to maintain on with tournament. that's merely like those advertisements the place that's like a cascade of sturdy deeds. i'm no saint, yet I try, a minimum of as quickly as an afternoon, to do something great.

Answer 7

I'm sure you're a good person already, but thinking about the feelings of others helps. Putting yourself in the other person's shoes.

I have found that if you look into the eyes of someone you don't like, it is hard to be mean to that person.

Answer 8

I agree with the previous answer. Find a great church! Get to know God and Jesus Christ as your personal savior. Make friends with other kids your age that are Christians and pray! God will take care of the rest!

Answer 9

i am shocked by the amount of idiots trying to convince you to read the bible, and find all your answers!
amazing! as per usual, searching for easy prey!
listen to priscilla, legend! if you think you have a problem you dont have a problem at all!

Answer 10

Sounds typical of 15-year-old girls (speaking from personal experience). Hopefully you'll grow out of it.