Found out about my wifes affiar with a family friend.Skipped all parties or gettogethers for few months but now,after regaining some confidence , have started attending parties where he too is invited.it is very difficult for me to handle..what shoud i do.
2006-10-25 09:34:27 · 8 answers · asked by ashish t 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I havent told his wife and do not plan to .I have confronted him and have warned him to be away from my wife and also we dont talk to his family as well
2006-10-25 09:42:01 · update #1
sorry for the confusion.he is just a friend and when i mentioned parties, it is when our common friends invite both of us.
2006-10-25 09:44:21 · update #2
If this is a family friend, then the family should be considerate and not invite him any more.
2006-10-25 09:37:28 · answer #1 · answered by Goddess1971 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I think the real issue here is you and your wife. If you're convinced that it's not going to happen again, and that the relationship is completely over and regretted, why does it bother you to see him around or near your wife? It's because you haven't stopped questioning, and with good reason. I think you're wife should have enough consideration to not expect you to attend parties where he is present and should have enough consideration to keep away from him and avoid him at all costs. If not, maybe there was more to the affair than just a mistake. I think you need to reconsider your wife's choices and actions, and see if you can live with them without letting them destroy you and your relationship with her. If not, than it'll never matter who's at the party, because if he's not there, there will always be someone else to wonder about.
2006-10-25 16:48:19 · answer #2 · answered by EnglishKitty 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
U can just try to ignore him or u can be civil and polite without being "buddy-buddy" with him. What u don't want to do is appear as though his presence is affecting u. This will only give him the power. If u are as confident as u claim to be then show it. Don't let his presence affect u at all. I don't understand why he has to be invited everytime there's a party or get togethers. It's just putting more fuel into the fire.
2006-10-25 16:39:55 · answer #3 · answered by cheetah7 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would keep avoiding the get togethers. Dont put yourself in that type of situation where its going to bring up old feelings. Its over and done with, just remember that.
2006-10-25 16:39:34 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow sorry to hear that but it seems like I am in the same situation as you. But good for you (that you have gained confidence) it seems that that's the hardest thing to do. however I cant give u any advice like I said I am in the same situation but I think you should be proud that you have her and he doesnt
2006-10-25 17:13:19 · answer #5 · answered by JAZY 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with the 1st answer, the man is not family,so why continue to have him there, knowing what went on..
I say, go.enjoy being with your wife and make sure that HE knows that the two of you are having a fun time...Flaunt it!
2006-10-25 16:41:05 · answer #6 · answered by Mommy Dearest 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Does he know you know? If not, you should tell him you know, because there is no reason why you, the victim, should have to suffer in silence while he does not. I think telling him you know, and making it perfectly clear that you don't like him, will make you feel better, because those behaviors are true to your feelings. If other people ask you why you don't like the guy, nod your head gravely and say, "Ask him."
2006-10-25 16:38:35 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, since you are a member of the family and he is not, you should ask that he no longer be welcome at these events.
2006-10-25 16:39:59 · answer #8 · answered by Bill 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋