Why is it that when you get a divorce, people who used to like your ex say things like "I never liked him anyway" or "Good for you" or "He was never right for you anyway"?
When I got divorced that was a kick in the pants. Everyone used to like him but all of a sudden it seemed like they hated him the whole time!
2006-10-25 09:33:43 · 10 answers · asked by chefgrille 7 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
this is just my opinion because I know exactly what you are talking about, I am an ex who was very liked by every one when we were together now I'm treated like a criminal. the answer to your question has a lot to do with what people consider loyalty to the friendship, but their definition is just as twisted as their thinking process, when you are a couple and seem happy they are supportive,but when something drastic happens then they feel they have to choose between the two of you, in order to avoid accusations of betrayal they falsely choose one or the other instead of staying neutral and being friends with both parties, but by doing so they are only hurting themselves in the long wrong and in some cases after a while if the one they have abandoned becomes the more happier person or success-full they will turn again towards that person. this is sad and is not good for building any relationship that is why I like to take things slow and study the ones who claim to be a friend, any one who is in a hurry to be my friend does not have honest intentions.
2006-10-25 11:47:23 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
People are cruel. And one thing to remember is this: whenever someone splits with someone else, never NEVER say anything about that person because they just might get back together again.
As for those who have spoken up after the fact, maybe they are trying to be on your side. And maybe they just didn't want to hurt your feelings by telling you what they thought of your mate when you were together. I have a real problem with people giving unsolicited opinions anyway.... just tell them to mind their own business.
2006-10-25 09:36:36 · answer #2 · answered by The ReDesign Diva 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Been there, heard that IGNORED IT! I got it from my own family before my parents divorced my family was so close, we partied, drank, went on trips. The day he left everyone hated him, all of a sudden my mom could have done better. Honestly I think its a confort zone they try to keep you in but in the long run it does make you wonder if they even ever liked that person at all. The way I see it is like this, if your with somone, your family, friends or whomever doesn't like..it's up to them to be shallow i say give a person a chance before you criticize them. Dont try to please anyone with your furture relationships just as long as you please yourself. GOOD LUCK...god bless ya'!
2006-10-25 09:59:24 · answer #3 · answered by ~* Pink Princess *~ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, the possibilites are:
1. You only thought they liked him, and kept their mouths shut for your benefit;
2. They are lying to you now to make you feel better and get over it.
Either way, what do you care? He's your EX!!!
2006-10-25 09:38:13 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People can be mean but maybe they are showing you support and thinking by saying something like that, that they are making you feel better.
2006-10-25 09:38:43 · answer #5 · answered by Marie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They just want you to feel better about things. Like you not really missing out on him being gone. Besides, nobody is going to tell you they don't like your husband.
2006-10-25 09:37:37 · answer #6 · answered by tightlies 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because most people are afraid to say what they really mean. Now that they don't have to worry about his feelings they can say whatever they want.
2006-10-25 09:36:56 · answer #7 · answered by Not Me 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well they may say it to make u feel better or maybe they really didnt likehim but hey what does it matter its not like if u rstill with him
2006-10-25 10:07:21 · answer #8 · answered by JAZY 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
2 reasons. For symphaty or because they didn't want to say anything to hurt you when you were with him.
2006-10-25 09:40:08 · answer #9 · answered by ♥Amanda♥ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that is what you want to hear. They want to give you their support. It is sickening, but true.
2006-10-25 09:36:48 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋