My husband and his hockey team plan a big night out in the city which use to be bar hopping (fine) .Recently they have a bus and go to the strip clubs all night (not real crazy about it) . Most of these men are married and have kids and many lie about where they go (strip bars) and what they do . I went the one year and it was a bit uncomfortable (some of the guys disliked my presence) but my husband wanted me to come so I did. The stripping was not the problem it was the lapdancing the married men had did. They claim this was the first time they have been to this type of club (right) and were forced to have a lapdance by their buddy,I was not impressed with this part of the night and really didn't want my husband going next year. Next year he planned to go but had other commitments and heard that they had two strippers on the bus with them wearing only their hockey jersey. Now they are all excited about what could top last years fun. Is this wrong? Should I be concerned? Help
2006-10-25 09:26:16 · 14 answers · asked by trojan 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I think if you trust your hubby than there should be no problem.....If he wanted you to go the first time obviously he wasnt gonna do anything wrong. Its the other husbands that are jerks and shouldnt be trusted cuz there the ones lying to there wives....a**holes.
2006-10-25 09:31:53 · answer #1 · answered by luvbuggy!!!! 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Yes his description is right on. People SWEAR that men go to strip clubs for sex. The only men that do this are really disgusting men. And FYI, it is against policy for men to even touch strippers...even during lap dances. The most they can do is caress their arms, but anything below the belt or in the chest area is a big no-no. No, don't worry about these friends because chances are they think exactly the way your husband thinks. Men and women are different. When guys have a get together, they don't sit around at dinner chatting like women. They either go to a bar for some stupid sports event or they go to a strip club. Be grateful that your husband (much like my fiance) will not go out of respect for you.
2016-03-28 07:29:05 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you love and trust your man. Sounds like you should. He has been very open and honest with you. Let him go and let him have fun. What the other guys do is none of their business. You know your husband and you know what he is doing and who he is doing it with and not to worry. Be greatful you have a wonderful open friendship and he can trust you with this kind of information.
PS. I use to work at a strip bar and TRUST ME when I say they are ONLY out for the money. MANY of these women are married, have a boyfriend or are gay. It is their job to get as much money out of a guy before he goes home. They could not give a crap less about the guy. NO WORRIES!
2006-10-25 09:54:24 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It seems like your husband is pretty open with you when it comes to the strip clubs and the fact the he invited you too is a plus. This is where the trust factor comes into play. If you trust him enough to go, then I would not worry about it. I know my husband has gone a couple of times and I knew about it but I was not concerned. I even went to one just last month and he knew about it too and I know he was not concerend. I just think if two people have that trust then there is nothing to worry about. I look at it as pure entertainment. Your husband sounds like he looks at it the same way. It's his friends that may have the problem.
2006-10-25 09:46:17 · answer #4 · answered by Marie 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I can certainly see why you would have a problem with it! The next logical way to "top" the strippers would be to hire hookers to pass around. Those guys are playing with fire, and they probably deserve to get burned. Do the other wives know what their men are doing? If not, go with your husband again, and this time take a camera phone!
2006-10-25 09:33:21 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
it sounds like he isnot doing anything wrong right well i would not like my husband going to those places at all i figure if do not like what got at home then go cause i need it and but not everyone thinks like that and jsut tell himhow u feel and see if that works bout u being uncomfortable with that and tell him u dont mind night out the the budddies just no strip clubs if i were u i would do that but do wlhat u feel is right for u and your husband???
2006-10-25 09:46:27 · answer #6 · answered by kandie g 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is wrong of the other men to do it behind their wives back. For yours if you allow it then it isn't wrong. My husband and I enjoyed going to strip clubs. No babysitters now so no going but it was fun. As for the lap dance, try it out and see, you might like it.
2006-10-25 11:18:38 · answer #7 · answered by ~*~frankie~*~ 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Talk to your man and suggest that maybe his friends need to change their activites. Considering they are also married.
there is no reason your man cannot go to strip clubs with you instead, as long as you are okay with it. But I would curtail the friends and the bus thing from now on.
2006-10-25 09:40:51 · answer #8 · answered by Goddess1971 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well...maybe I'm old fashioned but I feel it's wrong. I wonder how they'd feel having some hands on men with their wives? The way I figure it ,they should have done all this sort of stuff when they were single. Guys egos, booze, and willing women, doesn't make for a good picture to me.
2006-10-25 09:45:16 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 1⤋
Definitely wrong and a huge concern. I feel sorry for you already.
If your husband truly respected you, he would bow out on strip club night. My husband doesn't go out with any guys - he likes to be with me and our families and that's it. I can't tell you how nice that is!
2006-10-25 09:28:06 · answer #10 · answered by Rachel 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋