I have been trying to conceive for a little over 2 years!?

Question

My husband and I recently went to our RE to undergo tests. All of my tests came back normal. The doctor then ordered some semen analysis for him, His count was found to be 0! I know that it means that he doesn't have any active sperm but is there still a chance I could get pregnant? I need to know if IUI or IVF or something out there could work. My husband doesn't like the idea of having a sperm donor but I have found that it might be the only way of me actually gettting to experience pregnancy! Does anyone have any ideas, suggestions! Please HELP! And yes, we have considered adoption but the age to start all of that is 25 and we are not 25 yet! Help! Thanks in advance!

Answer 1

i have to agree with the good sir who said that this might harm your marriage. a lot of married couples who have this problem (with the husband being infertile) and go get donor sperm to cover his problems, end up divorced. the husband can't take that his wife picked someone over him (even tho it was impossible for him to do anything about it...men). anyways. if you don't believe me, maybe you should after i tell you that i myself am donor-conceived and know many people who have had this situation. it's a very risky situation. so you have that counting against y'all, but also you have this: have you considered yet what the child will feel about being donor conceived? like i said, i'm a product of a sperm donor. i wish i weren't. am i grateful to be alive? of course, but if i could have been born any other way, i'd choose that in a heart beat. however, that's not my choice and never was. but i can speak for the majority of all of us offspring that we would all have rathered been born from normal circumstances and had a chance to know our fathers (and our siblings). i know that being born in this way is not how any child ought to be. it is hell growing up not knowing if every man on the street could be "him" or having to ask every person you date what their dad did in his past (to make sure you're not dating your half-sibling). and wondering about all your potential half-siblings out there is crazy too...

these are just SOME of the issues to think about with this...there are many more...

if you would like more information, please message me, as i can refer you to many more donor conceived people and give you resources on the results of donor conception

Answer 2

If his sperm count is zero, you have no chance of getting pregnant without a sperm donor. If he won't agree to that, you can look into adoption. I don't know how old you are or how far away from 25 you are but some international countries may consider a couple your age. Sorry you are going through this. Adoption is a wonderful option!!! It's a shame you are so young and can't get the ball rolling.
Good luck!

Answer 3

I heard that he can undergo hormonal therapy treatments to get his sperm count up. Or if your husband really wants children just do a sperm donor. Or even possibly I know this sounds weird, if he has a brother or if his father is healthy.. they can donate sperm to you! Best of luck hun! and God Bless

Answer 4

Guess what you are not alone---My wife and I are perfectly healthy and my sperm count is off the charts but we can't get pregnant.....we tried for 7 years...so we adopted---it is great,,,we have a wonderful child and now looking into another adoption..

Now for your husband, think about how he feels. This is a very delicate area for us men, not being able to help concieve a child..(pride)..how would you feel if he gave his sperm to another woman to have your child that you so badly want to carry yourself?

Something to think about....

Good Luck

Answer 5

Well, if his sperm count is zero, then there's not much hope you could do IVF with him because you need to have some active sperm to make it work.

Answer 6

attempt a seek for ovulation and you style the final date of your era and your cycle days and it provides a around approximately day which you will ovulate so have lots of intercourse around those dates. in case you adult males have been attempting complicated with ordinary intercourse like atleast another day for the final 2 yrs i think of it's time to flow see a doctor and see why no longer something is happening. sturdy good fortune.

Answer 7

Have sex three times a week.

Having regular sex is the best way to get pregnant. Couples often try to time everything perfectly for ovulation but do not have sex when they think they are not ovulating. It is true that sex that is not within the time of ovulation will not result in pregnancy. However, because women do not always ovulate when they think they will, having sex three times a week will help to a woman cover her bases, so to speak, and not miss an opportunity to get pregnant.

2. Use an ovulation prediction kit or fertility monitor.

Using an ovulation kit to predict when you are ovulating will improve your chances of getting pregnant. For many women charting or other methods of ovulation prediction are too confusing. Ovulation prediction kits work by reading LH surges prior to ovulation. They are relatively easy to use and are generally accurate for predicting ovulation. Fertility monitors, such as the Clear Blue Easy monitor, are also a worthwhile investment if you would like to get pregnant faster. Fertility monitors are similar to ovulation prediction kits in that they read changes in LH but they also read changes in other hormones and don’t require any guesswork for couples. They are easy to use and will tell you when the best time to get pregnant is.

3. Have sex before ovulation (not after).

Sometimes couples get confused about the best time to have sex in relationship to ovulation. You have a small window of time each month to get pregnant. After a woman ovulates the egg will survive approximately 24 hours. Sperm, on the other hand, will live for up to three to five days. This is why having sex two to three days before ovulation will increase your chances of getting pregnant. Don’t wait until the day you ovulate to have sex. Your partner’s sperm will last longer than your egg and you don’t want to miss an opportunity by waiting.

4. Don’t rely on the Calendar method for predicting ovulation.

A lot of couples have heard to have sex around day fourteen of your cycle. This is based on the calendar method and assumes that you have a regular 28-day cycle and ovulate mid-cycle. Although this is better than just picking an arbitrary day to have sex, it is not a very accurate way to predict when you ovulate. Many women do not ovulate on day fourteen and knowing precisely when you ovulate will help you time intercourse better. Ovulation prediction kits, looking at previous months bbt charts, or watching for body cues will help you to determine when you ovulate.

5. Charting may not be the best way to predict ovulation.

Charting is great for tracking your cycle but it does have disadvantages. By the time you can see ovulation on a bbt chart, you have already ovulated. It is good to chart so you can track your cycles, see if you ovulate the same time each month, and also so you can look back on your cycle and see if you timed things right. But if this is your first cycle trying to get pregnant or if you are not ovulating at the same time each month, an ovulation prediction kit would be more helpful.

6. See a doctor before you start trying to get pregnant.
Make sure you are in good health and have had a regular check up from your OBGYN or medical provider. Untreated infections, sexually transmitted diseases, or poor health can affect your chances of getting pregnant. Its good to see a doctor as well as start taking prenatal vitamins prior to trying to conceive.

7. Don’t smoke, drink alcohol, or abuse drugs when trying to get pregnant.
This may seem like common sense but many women do try to get pregnant while smoking, drinking or using drugs. Smoking, drugs, and alcohol can affect your fertility. It will also affect your unborn child. It is important to stop smoking or using drugs and alcohol before getting pregnant and not wait until you find out you are pregnant.

8. Have enjoyable sex.

Sometimes when couples are trying to conceive, sex becomes a job or function of reproduction and is not as enjoyable. Plan a romantic evening or try something different to spice things up. How you are feeling sexually may factor into your chances of getting pregnant. Some researchers believe that having an orgasm during sex increases your chances of getting pregnant. For women, the spasmic movements of orgasm will help pull the sperm into the uterus and for men a better orgasm may increase the man’s sperm count.

9. Have sex in positions that keep sperm inside the vagina longer.

The missionary position is a good position to use when trying to get pregnant. Avoid positions where the woman is on top. Gravity will allow sperm to leak out with these positions. Also try placing a pillow under your hips to help tilt your pelvis and keep the sperm in longer. Don’t get up right after sex. Try to relax and allow the sperm to stay in the vagina as long as possible.

10. There is no such thing as trying too hard to get pregnant.
Most couples get pregnant within a year of trying. If you have not gotten pregnant within a year consult your doctor for advice.