I am planning to go to a nar anon meeting tonite and I am kind of nervous. You see my now ex boyfriend has been struggling for the 3 years with a cocaine addiction. we have been together 4 years I did not know he had addiction until a year later of being together. I am going to this meeting because my ex has put me through hell with this addiction. I mean I can honestly say that I am worn down from him. I mean had done everything I could do to be supportive of him but he claimed it wasn't enough 4 him. So he called me yesterday and told me he had decided to go to 3month recovery program which is good and then he went on to say I know you always have been cheating on me because I have an addiction. I never ever cheated on him. So hence our break up. So right now I am going to nar anon to get some counseling for myself.
2006-10-25 09:17:08 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
been there done that...i must say i always felt better after a meeting....i met my guy in 2002 and like you, didn't know he was an addict...by the time i found out, i was in love with him...one thing you must remember is know when to say no...once an addict always an addict...(this one's been clean for nearly 3 years and i still can't get past it) it is a long road to walk down but nar anon will def help you...if you plan on standing by him, i truly wish you all the best!!!!
2006-10-25 16:58:41 · answer #1 · answered by bev_lev 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am a recovering alcoholic who thought the "marijuana maintenance "plan was ok... A drug is a drug is drug is a drug... I love pot...but it is a gateway to drinking... I wish my soon to be ex husband (23yrs):( would have ever gone to an al anon meeting or therapy or anything other than accuse, find girls, use his own"stuff" or whatever... If you love this person, learn about addiction. Realize the person on the drug is probably not who you fell in love with, unless you were using 2gether... BUT!!!!!! do not be a doormat, or an enabler, set yourself boundaries & stick with them. You are ill now also, due to the circumstances of your involvement & need to take care of YOU!! Be as supportive as you can, ask about his treatment, his day etc... but try to stay in your own space & see what comes of this... Ask for help at the meetings, don't be ashamed, don't worry...Everyone there has been where you are or damn close to it...
XOXOX
Kat
2006-10-25 17:52:48 · answer #2 · answered by kat 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you are doing the right thing, and don't be nervous, I attended N.A. myself and it is a very good program, you will find a lot of support there and they will make you feel welcome not like a stranger or someone who doesn't belong, believe it or not, the strongest people to help you who have the best understanding of what your going through is the people big enough to admit they have a problem and want help to change because they realize they cannot change all by them selves, Everybody needs support and help and a higher power.
2006-10-25 19:05:45 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Great for you. I've gone to al anon meetings, the people are nice and non judgemental. They all went throught that before. dnt do it for him, but for you, just think of him as an experience you never want to repeat. Kudos to you
2006-10-25 16:23:09 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Was he useing safe sex while he was cheating on you? I was watching Dr. Phil show, and a couple of other shows, talking about people doing drugs, and then picking up hookers.....do yourself a favor go get checked out.
This web site speaks O lot
2006-10-25 16:28:19 · answer #5 · answered by AD 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋