my soon to be husband i love him with all my heart but he always wants to have sex and i feel bad when i tell him no i just cant understand why he always wants it
2006-10-25 09:08:45 · 15 answers · asked by hunka7805 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
if you must make up excuses like your time of the month..will be a bit longer each time, a extra day or two...also that it hurts sometimes and you need to take a break.
if you want tell him that it means more to you if yous wouldnt do it so much, that you really like it but want to slow down a bit. i am sure he will understand, and he will still want it a lot but he will slow down if thats what you want. but you do need to tell him how you feel or he wont slow down. he might get mad at first or be upset but he will come around and get over it.
2006-10-25 09:13:01 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You better let him know your honest opinions before you get married. If you feel like you can't talk about this kind of thing then you should seriously question things. You're suppose to be able to talk freely to your partner. He has no problem asking for sex.
It's true a lot of men have high sex drives but that doesn't mean you have to consent! Half of that body is yours and you determine what's best for you! Don't even entertain the feeling of guilt when you say NO. Why would you. You're entitled to say no right? Is he making you feel guilty when you say that? Does he say you're denying him? Be careful if he is b/c those are mind games that people play to get what they want! If he doesn't care how you feel then he's just being selfish!
You better lay down the line NOW before it's to loate and he expects you to be submissive. If you're not in the mood then he should respect that period! Just as you respect him when maybe he doesn't feel like talking about an argument you guys just had. (that's just an example) Just be honest with him and forthcoming with that honesty. See how he reacts! Let him know he has to respect you and your feelings/choices! If he loves you he will.
2006-10-25 09:18:26 · answer #2 · answered by Melissa 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All I can tell you is that if it's an issue prior to getting married it will probably continue to be an issue. I would recommend some sort of 'discovery' session where you can both talk, understand each others position. Then decide if this is something you both can accept and live with or it may be just too much and something I'm sorry to say that may be a deal breaker.
2006-10-25 09:16:51 · answer #3 · answered by visionquest936 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
OK so MOST men are all about sex. but for guys, its not like we need romance to get us going. we are kinda always going. anything little does it for some. Don't feel bad for telling him no either. He can take care of him self if he really wants it
2006-10-25 09:13:53 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
HE IS A MAN.... and you have a right to say no ..every person in this world does not want to have sex 24/7..and if him wanting sex and you not makes him overly mad or upset is he worth marrying
2006-10-25 09:15:08 · answer #5 · answered by Alli 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He has a high sex drive, some people are like that. It can cause problems, if you don't have a high sex drive as well. I see counseling, in the near future for you two.
2006-10-25 09:12:23 · answer #6 · answered by A_WWE_FAN_4LYFE 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
He is a man and very much in love with you. I guess he like to express his love by having sex. The sad thing is that if you do not eventually someone else would.
2006-10-25 09:12:23 · answer #7 · answered by L@M 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
some men just want to have it all the time. try finding other ways to please him that way if u don't want to do it all the time. be honest with him about the way u feel. maybe in time this will slack up a little but don't expect it to go away.
2006-10-25 09:13:10 · answer #8 · answered by skylinbaby 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
unfortunatly some men can be a little selfish... have you spoken to him that sometimes you dont want to participate and that a cuddle is just as good.
if he doesnt take into account that you cannot perform at his every whim...then I'd think twice before I married him.
2006-10-25 09:12:39 · answer #9 · answered by Sunseaandair 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Because he's a man. Guilt sex is horrible. Stick to your guns, he only will keep trying if you allow it to happen.
2006-10-25 09:12:37 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋