Ok so me and this guy are talking heres the deal we are both married(i know its wrong but thats not the problem) So anyways we have been talking and when we get to see each other he is all over me loving wise and its like only me and him exist but i am always the one i guess pursuing him he says he could go a week without seein me and his feelings wouldnt change...but like he never initiates but he is laways bringing up the future and when i say well i know it cant go anywhere he wants to know y but he had just said like 5 min ago it cant but then says why cant it nething can happen...wtf..and why dosent he want to see me..his wife lives in another state..i am just so confused and i dont know what the hell he is thinkin..and when i try to talk to him about it he says well i am a free spirit and you dont give me a chance to initiate and i just dont get him...can someone pleasse help me if not w an answer help me learn how to not be so sensitive cause i know thats one of the problems
2006-10-25 09:05:49 · 10 answers · asked by CONFUSED 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
He doesn't want anything more from you than what he get now you are making to much out of it. Just because you have something with someone it might not alway move on in to more. You just enjoy what you have intell it gone. And then you move on
2006-10-25 09:13:16 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
he knows he shouldnt be with you - thats why he doesnt initiate and thats why he doesnt seem that into you sometimes. but sometimes he realizes how much fun another woman can be - thats why he says anything can happen.
hes feeding you lines to keep you coming back. and its working. guaranteed, hes lied to you about alot of things, possibly about whether he has kids or not or about his age or about his job. even if he does care about you, he still cares about his wife or he would have left her. he cant truly love both of you and still spend time with the other woman.
you need to cut this thing off now and hope that you can somehow salvage your marriage. there is no future with this guy. and you might still have a small chance with your husband.
2006-10-25 16:52:49 · answer #2 · answered by jess 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Advising someone on how to manage their adulterous affair is beyound my capabilities.
The fact that you're both married IS THE PROBLEM.
You'll be a lot less confused if you stopped messing around behind your husband's back. You're sensitive because you're behaving like a skanky lying cheater and you know it.
Just think: if you stopped this, your problems would go away! What a concept!
2006-10-25 16:11:21 · answer #3 · answered by Violet Pearl 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you are married ... if u want to persue other realtionships you need to not be in a relationship already. Also try finding a man who is not married.
Okay on the flip side try not calling him and see how long it takes him to make a move on you if he doesnt do it in a reasonable time move on
2006-10-25 16:10:08 · answer #4 · answered by lovable110 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
HIs wife probaby doesn't live in another state. If she does, then that's where he should be. With his spouse. If he cheats on his OWN WIFE, then how can you expect fidelity from him? Think about what it would make you if you cheated on yor husband.
2006-10-25 16:12:27 · answer #5 · answered by glennthomaswright 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he's just trying to test you if you would go for him... he's married... what do you expect? married men always look for reasons to hook up with another woman... its just a way to max up his ego...
2006-10-25 16:18:34 · answer #6 · answered by yuki 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there is little logic in the world of adultery sweety!!!
I don't think sensitivity is your problem...I think it is infidelity!
2006-10-25 16:13:14 · answer #7 · answered by tightlies 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He just want you to fill his loneliness when he is alone without his wife...trust me.... trust him not
2006-10-25 16:09:25 · answer #8 · answered by rahim_al_kajai 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he's only after fulfilling his needs........and it could be any woman willing....give him a wide berth.
2006-10-25 16:09:19 · answer #9 · answered by Sunseaandair 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's screwing a lot of women.
2006-10-25 16:08:10 · answer #10 · answered by Phaylynn 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋