i love my girl and we've been together for a long time i recently found out that she;s been taking some of my money that i've been saving. i've been steadily saving for over a year to buy a truck that i can go mud riding and hunting in. she loves four wheeling and hunting and knew what the $ was for. she's been taking like 20$ here and there and spending it on gas or beer or whatever(but it's added up to over 300$). given i've been drinking the beer to(but we still could've gon without beer during the week) and riding on the gas that she bought(to places that we really didn't have to go). so recently i calculated the amount of money that i should have and went to check on the $ and it's not all there. at first she wouldn't say were her money has been coming from(because i knw she's broke and she has a job she just pisses away her money) but then she finally fessed up to it. i'm really pissed and short the money to buy the truck i want how should i handle this
2006-10-25 08:56:40 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
what are you a jew or something???
i give my lady everything , expect the same
what is wrong with you to insult her like that???
2006-10-25 09:01:55 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey! put your money in the bank from now on. It doesn't matter if it's just $20.00, go right down there and make a deposit, and DON'T put her name on it. Before to long you will see how quick that money adds up. You know what, you need to have a good talk with this young lady, first of all if she can't manage her own money, then she sure is not going to help you manage yours. This is something to be concerned about, if she's been dishonest about this money, what else is she doing, that you don't know about. This is just food for thought............Oh! by the way, maybe you should show her some of the answers you got here today.
Hugs
Texas girl
2006-10-25 16:12:33 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why wasn't the money put into a bank's savings account to draw interest until you needed it? She couldn't have taken it if you were the only one on the account. Open one now to save for the truck without her getting it.
That said, if you have proof she took it, tell her to pay it back. Put her on an allowance, if you feel she deserves any money. If she spends it all, too bad. Don't bring home any more cash unless you want to lose it. If she continues to take your money, etc., dump her and chalk it up to experience.
Find a different kind of girl who won't rip you off and one you can marry to make your relationship legal. I suggest you try a church house where the Bible is taught and you won't go wrong.
2006-10-25 16:07:59 · answer #3 · answered by Captain Cupcake 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to take the money and open up a bank account with only your name on it. Do not put her name on it and do not allow her access to the account. As for the $300, you might just have to take the hit on that one. You drank the beer too and unless she is willing to pay it back to you, I'm afraid you are out of luck. If you had the money in a bank already, I would change accounts. She needs to learn how to manage money and this will be the first step. Do not give her money and tell her she has to survive on what she earns.
GOOD LUCK!!
2006-10-25 16:05:06 · answer #4 · answered by country girl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would talk to her about it. Just tell her that you don't appreciate her actions and her lying about it. If she responds as though you were the bad person then it may be time to call it quits. However if she used the money on you as well it's not really that big of a crime the only real problem is that she hid it from you. Hopefully you can tell her how you feel and develop a better spending regimen together...but sometimes people will never value a dollar!
Good Luck!
Jen
2006-10-25 16:02:00 · answer #5 · answered by jenellegaines 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is the love you have for her worth the fight. Talk to her about it then take the rest and put it in the bank where most people do and don't let the chance of that happen again. You realize it is just as much your fault as hers. So make it so only you can be to blame for the loss of any of the Truck money! Good luck.
2006-10-25 16:08:34 · answer #6 · answered by hawop 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sorry hun buy ur gonna have to find a better hiding place oveously she cant be trusted with the money or knowing where its at. And if she asked you why she cant know where its at tell her cos u want it to stay where it at and not go to buying beer and gas.
2006-10-25 16:01:33 · answer #7 · answered by lovable110 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first thing, change where u have the money so she cant get to it anymore. then tell her u want the money she took back. you probably wont get it but you are letting her know how serious you are. then just think about your future with her. she already lies to you and she doesn't watch her money and she blows what she gets and now she steals from you. getting the picture. break up and find a real woman.
2006-10-25 16:05:15 · answer #8 · answered by skylinbaby 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Find a better place to save and continue saving to get what you want if you love the lady.
2006-10-25 16:09:17 · answer #9 · answered by charles g 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hide your money somewhere else and break up with her because it is your dream to buy a truck and she is ruining your dream...
2006-10-25 16:01:16 · answer #10 · answered by sherizan l 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋