my husband's sex drive is gone...and I would like to know if anyone knows the secret of getting it back...no rude answers please, the man just ain't interested, and I am confussed?
2006-10-25 08:53:44 · 19 answers · asked by southernwondergirl 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Here's a suggestion...TALK TO HIM!!!
2006-10-25 08:54:57 · answer #1 · answered by biggdogg_indy 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Attack him... The minute he comes home... Grab his tie and drag him to the bedroom... OR strip him as he comes in the door...
GO HOG WILD.... "Honey, it's been too long.... I have needs and I've crawling the walls all day waiting for you to come home..."
If he doesn't want a "repeat" performance... He'll learn to TCB before it takes care of him...
Now, there is something else to consider. There may be a change in his health where he's distracted or insecure about something.
Where does it say that wives are not supposed to be lovers too...
Tomorrow... Make sure you send him off, fully dressed in a sexy outfit.. Ask him, "Honey, I'm going shopping at the mall, can I pick up something for you." Then go find a nice negligee or teddy... Something soft, silky, and sexy...
Serve him a Gatorade and energy bars for dinner... "What's the big idea? I want a meal when I come home..."
"Tonight, there's going to be a different routine... I may need to get you a protein shake... You're going to need all the energy you can get... Cause I'm feeling a little neglected and I want to make up for lost time..."
Go to a pharmacy and get a sample of Viagra if you to... Whatever it takes... Give him some variety... Play some sex games... It's legal.. He's your husband...
2006-10-25 16:10:40 · answer #2 · answered by James B 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are a lot of possible scenarios for this answer.
1. Is he really out of shape? Out of shape men tend to lose their sex drive a lot quicker.
2. Is he addicted to Porn? No offense, but if he looks at porn online, he just may not find you attractive anymore, or may find your sex style boring.
3. Is he depressed? Depression/Anxiety will take a toll on anyone's sex drive.
4. Could he be gay?
If the answer is no to the questions above, then you may have to take more of an iniciative. Dress up, try doing it in public places, stuff like that, etc.
Either way, sorry for you.
2006-10-25 16:05:04 · answer #3 · answered by ryan c 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Dear:
Its very very easy to get your man into bed!All you have to do is to read the kamasutra and it will tell you everything !
You should try talking to him and find out what he likes, well if he doesnot wanna open up about his fantasies then you can trick him and ask him what he wishes he could do in bed and about a secret desire!
When he comes come and goes for a shower make sure you light the bathroom with sented candles and have wine , flowers , ect prepared!Get in with him and bathe him in the bath tub, with sensual kamasutra products, if he resists lure him but hot kisses...
After bath , eat his meat in the bathroom and then you make in!Lead him in the bedroom and lay him down and massage him with scented kamasutra oils!
He will beg...ect ..then take command!
If that doesnot work then you got big problems!
I think he may either turned coat or he may be having an affair! Whatever you do , do it with sexual revenge for him not wanting you! Sexual manipulation is the best medicine for a stubborn man!
Goodluck!
If all this doesnot work.. go to counselling!
Sanam
2006-10-25 16:07:16 · answer #4 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1. Try to have him make sure there is nothing medical going on. (see his family doctor)
2. Try talking to him to see if he has too much stress in his life.
3. Take up striptease and/or belly dancing. (very exotic and erotic when done correctly.)
4. Rent some dirty movies and watch them with him.
5. Try some role playing and dress up.
If none of this panes out then there is something wrong in the relationship and you should seek some counseling.
2006-10-25 16:09:24 · answer #5 · answered by Goddess1971 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to him about it. Honesty and communication are the best problem solvers.
Not to freak you out or anything, but a similar thing happened to my aunt. Her husband was just not interested in being with her sexually anymore. Finally, a few months back he told everyone he was gay.
2006-10-25 15:58:49 · answer #6 · answered by Autogestion 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Welcome to my world, yeah my wife has no sex drive and I do everything I can to get her off and still we have our scheduled Sunday night sex. I frickin hate it. We have gone to councilors and still the same boring quick sex 30 min max, as soon as she is done its over. I think my wife is just not interested in sex or me, which ever I don't know. Strut around in front of him naked bend over, I mean that would do it for me. Good luck
2006-10-25 16:00:56 · answer #7 · answered by jojobo 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe it's you.Have you let yourself go?How long have you been married?Maybe he's bored with the same old thing.To all the women who say to dress in something sexy,it really doesn't help if your fat and ugly.Also,doing it once every couple of years isn't the trick either.
2006-10-25 16:05:02 · answer #8 · answered by oneidmnstr 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
try dressing up for him
stockings and sexy lingerie .or what man can refuse that sultry school gir look .as long as the girl aint a real school girl lol
if the above fail check hes still breathinglol
2006-10-25 15:57:10 · answer #9 · answered by just a guy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Send him to the family doctor to get tested for his testesterone level. It could be low. If its low that may be the cause! Also he should have a physical. Good luck.
2006-10-25 15:55:41 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go have a bath, then come out and up to him wearing thigh high's with a lace trim, matching undies and bra. All white or black, with heels, then sit on his lap facing him...........Yummy, I've done this a couple times, it's never failed.
2006-10-25 15:56:38 · answer #11 · answered by MaNdYb 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋