for the first time in my life,i've actually fallen in love with a guy.he's my best friend out of all the guys i know.& he has a gf too who is one of my good friends as well & i can really say he loves her.it's so fun to be around him,he teases me a lot & when i'm when i'm feeling really down,he calls to cheer me up-basically we have a really great connection & i think everyone feels it too(even his gf).we both want to take the same career & might go to the same university.my question is,should i tell him i have feelings of more than friendship towards him?i think he knows that i have something towards him & he always treat me like he treats his gf(even calling me 'baby' in my language)& no,he's not a person who would cheat-always the perfect gentleman & a really good guy.would i regret not telling him this years later?i really do care for him a lot.is it wrong to tell a guy you really love them even if they have a gf disregarding the feelings of the person in the other end?cheers! :)
2006-10-25 08:40:54 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I understand that you want to tell him you like him, but I would think it's a selfish move. You said yourself he really loves his girlfriend, and you know he's the type that wouldn't cheat. If you tell him, you will just end up confusing him, his g/f will get hurt. All because you like somebody that you know very well you can't have.
But- you'll regret it if you DON'T tell him right? This is where you have to think if it's something worth ruining a great friendship. If I were you, I would keep the friendship, be there for him all the time, and in the future, you'll never know what can become of it.
2006-10-25 08:48:04 · answer #1 · answered by candy- capped 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not very cool of you to tell your good friend's boyfriend that you "have fallen in love" with him, or tell her that you love her boyfriend. Give it another 30-60 days and you won't feel anything for him- this is infatuation.
I'm finding him a little bit of a jerk if he is teasing you and calling you on the phone, and using a term of endearment, and treating you like he treats his gf. That doesn't sound like a gentleman- it sounds highly inapproriate. A "good guy" doesn't mess with the emotions of another girl this way when he's unavailable. I feel sorry for his girlfriend having to witness all this crap between the two of you!
2006-10-25 15:50:54 · answer #2 · answered by Violet Pearl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think it would be a good idea to tell him that. He has a girlfriend. And apparently you say he knows you have something towards him. I say just wait and see what happens. Maybe something will happen in the future... him and his gf will break up, maybe not. Whatever happens... atleast he'll still be your good friend.
2006-10-25 15:44:12 · answer #3 · answered by ( Kelly ) 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell him but don't expect him to leave his gf.
You never know what can come of a strong friendship in the future.
2006-10-25 15:45:31 · answer #4 · answered by Angela 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Keep your love to yourself. You will ruin your relationship with him as well as your relationship with your friend.
If he ever becomes available, that's when you tell him how you feel.
2006-10-25 15:45:34 · answer #5 · answered by Royalhinney 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well idk that is kinda hard, he had a gf you say. Think about if you were his gf. And his gf was you. would you want your friend to be telling your bf that you love and care for him? i wouldnt like that, i dont think any girl would like that. if i was you in this situation id wait, till maybe things started to happen between them or they just broke up... idk thats just me. hope this helps!!
2006-10-25 15:46:26 · answer #6 · answered by divafurlife 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋