My mother owns a home child care. It is located in the bottom half of her home. She pays me to help out when i am not in school to get my teaching degree. On Monday she collapsed due to an asthama attack. We had to call 911 to have her rushed to the hospital. I called all the parents and all but one where very understanding that we had to be closed on Tuesday. One mom got real mad and said that was no excuse to close. I told her that we would be open again today. My moms doc told her not to be around anything that could cause her to have another attack, esp smoke. That mom who got mad came today and her child reeked of smoke. In a very nice tone i asked her to either take the childs coat with her or if she did not mind i would wash it. She Got real mad and took her child back home. On the way out she said i was not being nice and that she would take her child somewhere eles. i said u want 2 smoke, fine..but dont come smelling like it. was i in the wrong?
2006-10-25 08:39:47 · 13 answers · asked by carriec 7 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I would understand why she was mad if she did not know about this in advance. when we have new children coming in we tell them off the bat to please not come in smelling like cig smoke because deb has asthma. If they feel like they are unable to do this..we tell them that no hard feelings, but its best if they try to find another daycare provider. so its not like the mom knew nothing about this.
2006-10-25 08:49:15 · update #1
I did not ask her to leave. i simply gave her a choice to either take the coat with her or i wash it. I said " you can leave him thats not a problem, we just need to do one or the other" i never meant to insult her.
2006-10-25 08:59:10 · update #2
Sorry about what had happen to your mom and i really hope she feels better soon. You and your mom need to tell that inconsiderate mom to take her child some where else. She must have known what took place with your mom and for her to behave like that you and your mom don't need people like that to do business with. She is trouble. And you did nothing wrong, so you should be proud of your self on how you handled the situation, your mom should be proud of you too.
2006-10-25 08:52:47 · answer #1 · answered by annsharq 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This mom`s reaction was probably due to the fact she had to probably miss a day of work because she had no other place to leave her child. If she has no comp days, that means her check will be less, not to mention the fact her boss was probably irritated at her for missing work. Don`t ever make the mistake of telling a smoker the smell is bad. I have asthma, so I know how it makes you feel when you get around the smell. I hope your mom is feeling better. One of the person`s suggested just washing the coat and not saying anything. That would be better than having to confront an already mad mom.
2006-10-25 15:54:18 · answer #2 · answered by Sparkles 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are not wrong you were nice and she took it the wrong way ,she should have asked you what was the problem so you could have explained it to her. She was rude, by the way your looking out for your mother and that's what a good child does, your mothers health comes first and dont you every feel bad for protecting her. Let that mother take her child somewhere else if that's what she wants to do.
2006-10-25 15:52:33 · answer #3 · answered by BASHFUL 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No you were not wrong, your mothers health is more important than anything else, that parent was just a bi*** apparently, and has only concerns for herself. You did the right thing, your mother should be proud to have a daughter that puts her needs first. Hope your mother feels better!
2006-10-25 15:46:30 · answer #4 · answered by Brandi 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
she neede to go somewhere else the first time she complained. what if the place caught fire, and you couldnt open, is she going to say "thats not an excuse" Next time she doesnt bring in her child because the mom is sick, tell her "thats not an excuse " Ugh! some people.
2006-10-25 15:47:01 · answer #5 · answered by RIA 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you were not wrong. you have to do whats best for your mom.
but how was the mothers' smoking not a problem before? maybe thats part of her reacting the way she did, that suddenly its a problem and it wasnt before.
just from what you said happened, sounds like a little patience and a little better communication would have kept the argument from happening.
2006-10-25 15:52:19 · answer #6 · answered by jess 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are within your rights. That mother should not be smoking arou nd the child either. Good luck with your Mom.
2006-10-25 15:44:35 · answer #7 · answered by sylviavnpttn 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont think you were wrong at all. You went beyond what you should have by offering to wash the coat for her. She sounds like a selfish bit ch.
2006-10-25 15:42:53 · answer #8 · answered by Allinwiththenuts 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
No I dont think it was wrong but I prob wouldnt have said anything to her..I would have just washed the coat4
2006-10-25 15:43:08 · answer #9 · answered by Kelli C 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
that lady is a retard, too selfish.
kiss that business goodbye with a happy smile. im sure someone else will gladly make up the slack.
2006-10-25 15:44:02 · answer #10 · answered by seanachie60 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋