ok my friend is dating anoher friend, and the guys is a full out asshole and a twofaced liar. everyone knows he just wants sex but because he is a big guy (6'8" 250 lbs) they are afraid of him, so im the only one thats not afraid to stand up to him cuz im the next biggest guy at school (6'4" 210 lbs) but she refuses to listen to him... is there anything i can do? or should i just sit by and hope i can put the pieces back together when he screws her over and beat him for hurting her?
2006-10-25 08:19:30 · 13 answers · asked by Nameless 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
i faced this too, but not the part about being big. He pretty much screws everthing, and she is a virgin still and 5 years younger.
My situation involved him being kind of an old friend, and her being a new friend.
I ended up just talking to her about "life" and how you have to be careful not to get hurt.
When she pushed me to be more specific i didnt. I just kept repeating how much it sucks to get hurt and how we have to be careful in life.
I think my nightmare came true because a day later he started getting real quiet around me, shaking his head when he walked by... but then the next day he stopped it and was all friendly again.
I think she mentioned what i said to him and he thought it was about him, but then she realized she f'd up and changed her story to him and then he thought about it and realized it wasnt about him but about something else at work...because i was so vague.
Even though she and i really know what I was saying.
2006-10-25 08:20:53 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just talk to her. Explain everything to her that concerns you. The more of her friends that you can get to back you, the better. If she doesn't take your advice and leave the guy, she will at least know that you are, and will come to you when something goes wrong. Some people will listen to critisim, and others won't even listen at all. Try to help her, show you care. As long as she knows that there are some decen people in the world, she won't be as hurt if she doesn't take your advice in the first place.
Don't bother with that big idiot. Even though you could most likely take him, there is no reason to get violent.
2006-10-25 08:49:51 · answer #2 · answered by jd_gecko_hunter 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's awesome that your such a good friend...do you secretly like her though? I can tell you really care about her which is great- However, no one ever listens ( I know I don't really listen to my friends in these types of situations). The only way a person ever learns is to go through with it and learn from it. That's nice that you are going to stay there and help her pick up the pieces when he leaves her...Just stay her friend, be honest with her about the situation, and hopefully everything will turn out for the best! Good Luck ;)
2006-10-25 08:32:12 · answer #3 · answered by Alesha W 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is hard to watch someone you care about be taken advantage of and eventually hurt by an ***, but unfortunately friends sometimes have to find out the hard way. The best way for you to help is to be there to help her pick up the pieces. Do not judge her by saying "I told you so". And believe it or not if you give the guy enough rope he will hang himself everytime, I promise... You should also consider that beating him is just stooping to his level and you dont want her to see that in you. She will want you to be concerned about her feelings not taking your anger out on a loser. So he will be the one that suffers the most, if you just leave him alone. When he figures out what he lost and can not ever regain, the young lady and yourself are the winners of the round, set and match...Good luck
2006-10-25 08:29:19 · answer #4 · answered by srougeou 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-09-01 02:33:13 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In the past I have always felt it was better to keep my mouth shut as the more I said..they thought I was jealous or just being nosy.. Sometimes when friends ask for help and you don't give them the answer they want to hear...well all of a sudden you are the bad person.....so, I would just keep what I feel to myself and let her find out for herself and hope she doesn't get hurt in the process.....
2006-10-25 08:48:15 · answer #6 · answered by ariermagee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's really not up to you to convince her. I know from experience that if you are dating an ***, your friends can talk to you and make sense, but you still deny it. I can look back now and think that my friends were right, but at the time I thought they were just jealous. So, just be there to support her and comfort her when she needs it. I wouldn't bother with beating him us because he is probably too dumb to understand that he is a jerk.
2006-10-25 08:22:20 · answer #7 · answered by schweetums 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
U really can't do anything the more you diss the guy the more she will stand up for him and stay for now be her supportive friend and point out some concerns but there is nothing more you can really do for her
2006-10-25 08:21:27 · answer #8 · answered by AngelVirgo9206 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All you can do is sit back and wait , I know its a hard thing to do, it sounds like you are a good friend to her , be there when she needs you . We all have to learn the hard way ... I don't know why but we do .
2006-10-25 08:34:38 · answer #9 · answered by debbie m 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People have to learn from their own mistakes. f she is making one let her deal with it. Just be her friend and be there for her if she needs it. Don't waste your time with the big jerk, hes not worth your time.
2006-10-25 08:28:25 · answer #10 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋