I am in a relationship and because of past betrayals I find it hard to trust my bf. Is it normal for him to talk to a girl friend of his everyday? Sometimes 3-4 times a day. He says that nothing is going on.
2006-10-25 08:11:56 · 20 answers · asked by honeyluv_2010 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Either you trust him or you don't. Only you can decide that.
I talk to male friends regularly; my husband has some female friends that he talks to. For us it's not a big deal.
If there is really nothing going on, you have to decide whether or not your boyfriend deserves to be punished for something that someone else did do you in the past.
2006-10-25 08:15:44 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't see why not. I'm a guy, and I've had a female friend for 8 years. She's like a sister to me, and I talk to her all the time. At least once every couple of days, and sometimes as much as what your boyfriend is doing. I wouldn't worry about it too much.
2006-10-25 08:13:59 · answer #2 · answered by robtheman 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are harboring baggage from your past. Drop that off. And your bf should not be having relations with other girls that excludes you. He needs to stop that, or you need to move on.
Best advice, break up. His loyalty is not to you. He may say it is, but his bahvior indicates otherwise. His choice is clear to me...
And you need to get over your baggage. Baggage contaminates future relationships and is self-fulfilling. It causes you to behave in such a way that you instigate the things you fear most, to happen. Your fear and mistrust of him causes him to want to seek trust and affection elsewhere.
You can do better then this guy. Move on and find someome who's behavior matches their words. Find someone who does not cause you to question, wonder, or worry about his feelings and loyalty to you. Find a guy you want to brag about, not figure out on yahoo answers.....
Make excuses for no one!
2006-10-25 08:20:22 · answer #3 · answered by pandora the cat 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are spot on with your thinking. A guy who is worthy of you would think exactly like you and distance himself from close female friends once they get serious with a girl. I had a really close guy friend with whom I used to chat for hours. He even came to visit me and stayed for a week. Then he became really serious with his girlfriend and I hardly ever hear from him. He certainly doesn't discuss intimate things with me anymore. By the way, this guy was a complete womaniser beforehand! So it just goes to show you, when a man is really in love, he can leave the rest behind. Give this guy a wide berth if he doesn't see your completely wholesome and noble point of view. Explain it to him calmly, give him a chance to think about it, say one week and then make your decision.
2016-05-22 13:21:07 · answer #4 · answered by Kimberly 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you say something and he can't respect that it makes you uncomfortable then some changes need to be made on your end as far as if you would want to stay in a relationship with a person you don't trust and if he's not helping you trust him then leave
2006-10-25 08:15:35 · answer #5 · answered by fiestylady 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would not take out your insecurities out on a new bf. that is not fair to him. I talk to friends of the opposite sex as does my husband. As long as he has not done anything to betray you, then you should take him at his word.
Have you ever thought about getting to know the girl yourself? That may make you feel a little more comfortable.
2006-10-25 08:52:22 · answer #6 · answered by Goddess1971 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Am sure there is nothing wrong with that some poeple are just able to be just friends with the opposite sex and still have a boy/ girlfriend
2006-10-25 08:15:20 · answer #7 · answered by Me 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it's okay, try to look over your past, don't think that everyone is capable of betrayal, now you have no reason not to trust your bf
2006-10-25 08:14:56 · answer #8 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have friends of the opposite sex that mean the world to me. Are you saying friends shouldnt talk daily if they are of the opposite sex? Friends are friends are friends. ALL of my friends have outlived my relationships....and something tells me they always will.
2006-10-25 08:14:43 · answer #9 · answered by Mean Carleen 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i do not think it is normal he should be into you and your relationship not her you should ask if he would like it if you did that i am going through this same thing but my boyfriend is talking,hanging around with and staying out all night with his ex girlfriend. and i am supposed to trust him. i don't think it is NORMAL
2006-10-25 08:34:14 · answer #10 · answered by rebecca m 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋