Ladies if a man you didn't know told you that you are beautiful would you be offended?

Question

I saw a woman today and thought that she was the must beautyful woman that i have ever seen...And i told her that .I also told her that i wasn't trying to hit on her .And i was sorry to bother her but i just had to tell her how good looking she was ..Her reply was why don't don't you f..k off..I said sorry and read my paper .I felt so stupid ,we were on a packed train .But i did invade her space and spoke to her ,so parhaps i was wrong .If i was please say.Oh by the way wrong or right i won't be doing that again

To frenchchi .no there was no kids with her .don't know if she was married or not as i wasn't trying to hit on her .i didn't look.don't know if i creeped her out .only she could tell you that.as for me being good looking what's point only if i was good looking i could say this to her .if you think i was wrong say so .but don't answer just trying to look clever,not really helping is it

Answer 1

A man once stopped me in the street to tell me he thought I was gorgeous - on a day when I was feeling fat, grumpy and ugly. It made my day. I think your woman was just rude. It is always nice to be told that someone think you're beautiful. If you had said that to me, I would have blushed, giggled like a school girl and said thank you.

Answer 2

Firstly, were you giving her eye contact or were you looking at her breasts when you said it? Secondly, it sounds like an innocent nice gesture on your part, unfortunately in this day and age of rapists and perverts a woman is very wary of strange men telling them they are attractive. I don't think you were wrong to pay her a nice compliment, but maybe you just scared her a little. Perhaps she has also had bad experiences with men in the past. Plus, I think a lot of women are maybe a little arrogant when it comes to their looks and they seem to think that they have to be as smart a**e as they can or as funny and rude as they can in their put downs. I've overheard many women say the most awful things to men when all they have tried to do was start up a conversation with them because they are genuinely attracted to them (these are often the same women who later complain that they've been single for too long). I feel so sorry for you blokes, it's like some women have something to prove, like by putting a man 'in his place' and making him look like a complete **** in front of people that she has established her strength. There is a world of difference in showing you're a strong woman and being just plain obnoxious. You sound like a good bloke and I hope this rude woman hasn't put you off women altogether!

Answer 3

The most important thing is to see that she answered according to things in her own mind. You don't feel like her answer to you made sense with what you'd said, but she felt it did for some reason. If she treated you this way because she was mad at men in general, then you can see how it could spread more anger if you decide to treat some other woman with revenge for what this woman did. The woman on the train had her own reasons to say what she did and none of us could really guess why she did it, so try to let it go.

Answer 4

my immediate response to your question was 'no! not at my time of life!'
You sound very charming and unthreatening, but I know exactly what you were thinking as you have explained it all step by step.
I would like to think I would take your compliment with a smile and a thank you!, but I am not sure if, confronted by a complete stranger, I would react in that way. It is easy to smile from the safe privacy of my lounge. In fact I might feel very awkward and embarrassed, blush bright beetroot and not know where to look.
I would not be offended.
I would not tell you to f off, it is not in my vocabulary.
Her reaction in my opinion makes her less beautiful than you thought. Sorry.

Unfortunately it's a sign of the times in which we live. We don't look at each other and we don't talk to strangers. How sad.

Answer 5

I guess it also depends who you are when you are saying this. In Seattle I noticed if you compliment a woman by calling her beautiful, you can almost expect the same reaction that the author of this point got or maybe even worse.

I used to tell women they were beautiful but I don't do that anymore. I suspect that a lot of these women immediately assume that if you are calling them beautiful it means you automatically want them. This sort of thinking is rather arrogant, but expected. A lot of times when I say you are beautiful doesn't mean I want you, it just means that I find your external view pleasurable to look at...nothing more.

Also, If you are a handsome man and you go and compliment a woman, most likely she will respond in a positive manner, but if you are ugly, or one of the disliked races, or groups, then expect to be treated like giving her a compliment was the worst crime in Earth's history.

I really hate this world sometimes.

Answer 6

Aww, that's sad that she was so rude, especially when you were just trying to give her a well-meaning compliment. However, I can see where she's coming from. Like other answers have stated, women have become used to being defensive when it comes to men looking at them. Sometimes it just feels creepy to be told by a stranger that you're beautiful... she might have felt like she needed to watch you extra carefully in case you would follow her or something. It just makes us nervous sometimes. I've had strangers give me compliments like that before, and I react according to how the compliment was given. A married couple at a restaurant once told me I looked like Catherine Zeta Jones, and of course that made my day so I smiled and said thanks and was very appreciative. But when random men have said things, or looked me up and down, while I know it's flattering to be thought of as attractive, it makes me feel uncomfortable and like an object. If you had said that to me on a crowded train, I would have smiled and said thanks, but I probably would have kept my distance just because I would have wondered what you were up to! Sorry for my looooong response.

Answer 7

maybe she didn't think that she was beautiful so she thought you were taking the piss.
maybe you freaked her out because you were a stranger telling her this.
maybe she was just having a really bad day.
maybe she is a b'tch.

I would have to think if the guy was being genuine or being cheeky and if some stranger said that to me on the train my first reaction would maybe be to tell him to F off too, but later I would be thinking aww how sweet. There is no right or wrong answer to this, some women might love it but catch them on a bad day and they might tell you the same.

Answer 8

In answer to your question, NO i would not be offended at all.
What a lovely person you sound.
I am so sorry that you had such a reaction from the lady concerned.
Honestly in my humble opinion, their was no reason for her to act like that towards you.
Maybe after she thought about it, she is probably feeling rather stupid about her behaviour.
It could also be that the lady was probably attacked at some time or the other verbally, who knows????

Answer 9

Well i would have been very flattered and pleased,how can people be so damn right rude anyway? You did nothing wrong at all so don't let this knock your confidence please,as i would say that you are a very kind person who just wants to make people happy,so don't be shy about saying it again as next time i'm sure you will get a smile,or should do anyway!

Answer 10

I would take it as the compliment it was meant to be and say 'thank you' but I can see that some women would think you were trying to 'hit' on them or worse. It is all a question of trust, which is not easy to do with the ever increasing crime there is nowadays. Sad, but true.