I got engaged in August and just moved in with my fiance. He has told me we can get married when, how & wherever I want so everything is basically up to me. We each have 2 teenagers and they all live with us. 3 of the 4 teens (girls) are adamant about wanting to be in the wedding and not wanting us to elope. I suspect their main concern is getting to wear a cool dress! I really just want to elope or get married by the JP and take a cool honeymoon. We have both been married before. Having a wedding here brings up all kinds of stressful issues, like both of are ex's would probably want to attend, trying to keep it small but too many people that would be offended if they are not invited....
So.....any good suggestions???
2006-10-25 07:54:51 · 10 answers · asked by Nunya 5 in Travel ➔ United States ➔ Other - United States
How important are your children to you? If you love them, you will listen to them and their desires. You do not have to make your decision totally on them, but they know you and love you and probably want the wedding so that they can feel like they are truly an important part of your new relationship and life decision.
Is it about you? Yes, but there are others involved here. Think of them too.
Marriage should always be approched in a sincere and very serious manner, or otherwise a quick & fancy-free wedding reflects how you approach the topic all-together! A real wedding with all involved shows your committment to such an occasion as this. Best Wishes.
2006-10-25 08:00:57 · answer #1 · answered by chakuta 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's your wedding and your life together. Tell your kids that you love the fact that they want you to have a wedding, but that since you've already done that, you would rather just go somewhere private and do it. If they gripe just remind them it is YOUR choice. A couple where I live eloped because the mothers could not get along about the wedding. They just said "see ya! and went to the Bahamas. We watched the video and gave them a bang up reception when they came home. SO...do what will make YOU all happy.
2006-10-25 19:39:18 · answer #2 · answered by blondee 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would elope and have a great honeymoon because that is what you want. Then after you get back just have a reception nothing huge, but you could let your kids pick out dresses and make it more of a day for family and friends. Good Luck!!
2006-10-25 17:05:19 · answer #3 · answered by Brooklyn and Owen's MOMMY 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So get them their dresses and still get married by a JP. Just keep it small with the two of you and the kids. If anyone is offended for not being invited and not happy for the two of you then they are selfish and you shouldn't worry about it.
2006-10-25 15:06:43 · answer #4 · answered by sassy6 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My husband and I decided to get married in Las Vegas (2 of my friends had gotten married within 5 months of when I got engaged and I was sick of planning big weddings). We had our close family go with us and each had 2 attendants. It was much cheaper (our ceremony was $125) and you could always stay in Vegas for your honeymoon (we flew to Disneyland). The chapel we used was the Hollywood Wedding Chapel, which was right on the strip near the Stratosphere. http://www.ahollywoodweddingchapel.com/ Also, check out The Knot (http://www.theknot.com) for great ideas and advice.
2006-10-25 15:05:29 · answer #5 · answered by starringsarahas 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
elpoe and go on a cool honeymoon,i wish i had and i am still married after 18 years,i remember the stress of planning our wedding...i wanted to elope all along
2006-10-25 15:06:36 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
it's your choice, and since you've been married before, you've probably already done the wedding thing before so I'd rather spend the money on a nice, memorable honeymoon. tell them in a few years they'll have their own chance to wear a cool dress.
2006-10-25 15:00:49 · answer #7 · answered by Texas T 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i would probably just do either a private ceremony with just the two of you or a small one nothing to fancy but if you wanted to get the kids involved you could have a reception that was bigger where you all could dress up nice and celebrate
2006-10-25 15:04:15 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should do what YOU want .. The kids are gonna grow up an have a wedding of there own .. it's your wedding , so do what you want to do !!
Congrats & Much Luck !!
2006-10-25 15:04:39 · answer #9 · answered by lilredhead 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should worry about what YOU want and not about pleasing other people. Congrats!
2006-10-25 15:00:22 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋