it has been 2 years and i still have photos and jewelry and mementos from my x-spouse. i am out looking at men and stuff and dont have attatchment to my x any more or do I? think I would be better off to get rid of all that consiousness collected in my drawers?
2006-10-25 07:48:08 · 18 answers · asked by dpegra 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I see no reason in not keeping it. If you are a pack rat like me then you want to keep them because that was a part of your life at one time. (you may want to show them to your children one day). There is no harm in that. Especially if you are not in a serious relationship right now. I have pictures and things from previous relationships. My husband does not mind this at all. I don't get them out and stare at them or anything but they are packed away and kept.
You know... you wouldn't be who you are today if it wasn't for those memories and belongings so something good came out of it.
2006-10-25 07:52:28 · answer #1 · answered by Keith Perry 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I got rid of the love letters and notes, but I still have the photos; plus, many of the things I own were bought together with my ex-spouse. I'm quite "over" the whole thing, has been for years (in fact, newly married now), and the ownership of certain items doesn't affect me either way. I think it depends on you; whatever you feel comfortable doing.
2006-10-25 14:50:47 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Simple rule to follow. Look at the object/photo. Does it give you a good feeling of a past experience with your ex? Yes, keep it. No, then get rid of it.
I hate people who think that all reminders have to be terminated and removed. Like that will make the years of investment , the love, good times and so on conveniently erased. It cant....
Would love to know what rule those idiots think of as to what ex-couples should do with their kids...
2006-10-25 18:06:50 · answer #3 · answered by DutchmanB 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think letting go is good, when you are ready. I hung on to stuff from my ex for almost 10 years until I realized I equated it to junk and it was collecting dust. Getting rid of it was a little sad, but I have no feelings towards my ex anymore, so it was memories of good times that gave me feelings.
2006-10-25 14:52:19 · answer #4 · answered by noambition 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would think jewelry would be okay to hold onto, but pictures of your ex no, because when looked at they will bring about too many painful memories especially when in a new relationship. get rid of the stuff and start anew.
2006-10-25 14:51:44 · answer #5 · answered by Clints_wench 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say that people are more connected being in a long term (especially marriage) relationship .As long as it has a place stored away some where and not s shrine in your bedroom, why not?
My boyfriend has a bear from his ex that says "I love you" he never loved the girl and doesn't even talk to her anymore but won't throw it away..thats life. People have things associated with those possessions. If they mean nothing to you throw them away. But no one can tell you whats right or wrong. Depends on the person.
2006-10-25 14:50:14 · answer #6 · answered by Dick Tater 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it is part of your life and who you were and where you have been and what you have done. I think it is important that some of that stuff be kept. Especially if you have children. It was an important part of your life and helped make you the person you are today.
I keep mine at my parents house though. Not in my current husband's house.
And honestly I did not have children with my first husband and I would probably burn it if I had ahold of it. But my mom thought it was important we keep some of it.
2006-10-25 14:52:14 · answer #7 · answered by raygun1993 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree I think it is the healthist thing for you. Its really not a good idea to keep that stuff. Its a constant reminder everytime you come across. So I would have to agree get rid of it.
2006-10-25 14:51:56 · answer #8 · answered by hmm 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am seperated from my husband it has been two years and when we split I knew the only way to get over him quicker was to put up every thing that belonged to him. You will never forget the memories, but not looking at his things everyday, especially his picture will definitely help
2006-10-25 14:53:26 · answer #9 · answered by prettyredbone2006 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you still have feelings towards your ex, which is human, and you can't get rid of feelings just throwing things away, in fact I never get rid of feelings no matter how much time goes by, and that's human
2006-10-25 14:53:36 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋