I was with a girl for 2 years. 6 months ago she had a baby. We named him the name i wanted to name my first boy! 2 weeks later the paternity test results came back and i was already attached to him. For 5 months i tried to make the relationship work for the baby, but it wasnt happening cause she was back to her games. I guess the real question is how do i move on and begin to trust another woman? Its hard cause i thought i could trust her i gave her a place to live a car to drive and My love to top everything.
2006-10-25 07:42:23 · 18 answers · asked by Jeremy F 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
ouch! you need to realize that you didnt do anything wrong and although it will be hard for you to trust again remember that she did it to you but the next woman didnt. Not all woman are the same. Dont ever compare future or present relationships to the past because it will never get you anywhere other than hurt. First thing you have to do is forgive her. I know thats easier said than done but as soon as you forgive her, it will make you more comfortable with the next woman. Good luck!
2006-10-25 07:45:45 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
It is very hard to trust again! It takes alot of time! You will have to take chances though in order to bring back the trust. You will need to be up front with the woman so that she will know why you are so untrusting. If you are not up front then she will think something is up with you. Trust is so hard to get back! My husband did this 7 years ago and I decided to give it another try but there is not a day that goes by that I wonder about him. We separated for 3 years and during this time I dated men but I couldn't ever fully trust them. Good luck!!!!!
2006-10-25 14:49:35 · answer #2 · answered by lwaite74 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Great question. Are you a younger fellow, or already in your mid 20's?
Trust is something that comes with time. Eventually you will find someone to trust. Just let nature take it's course.
Leave this woman. She not good, and you certainly deserve better than her. Let her and her babies dad take of themselves now.
Believe, after a breakup things can seem bad, but they always get better. Just focus your energy on something else. Do you play sports? Hang with the guys at clubs? Play video games? Take Martial Arts? Whatever it is that you enjoyed doing, start doing it again! Keeping busy will help keep your mind off her. Good luck to you.
2006-10-25 14:49:22 · answer #3 · answered by Kevin J 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yikes! First of all, remember that you're a good person because it sounds like you did a lot for this woman. So don't let this very uncomfortable circumstance turn you sour forever. There are many nice women out there who wouldn't do that to you or at least not let it drag out that long without letting you know! Let go of her right away and it's ok to be angry for a while. Then really let it go and move on with your life so you can find a nice girl who will truly appreciate you! Good luck!
2006-10-25 14:58:34 · answer #4 · answered by texirocks 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
IF you love her, be man enough to forgive her and love the child. You could turn a bad mistake on her part into a beautiful, loving family, don't be too proud,I'm sure you've made a mistake or two in your life. Do yourself a favor, ask her if she really loves you and wants to marry you, be a man for her and the child, they need you so much. Have some pity on her, and besides that, who's to say some other woman you meet wouldn't do the same or worse.
2006-10-25 14:55:21 · answer #5 · answered by a1 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I will tell you that it really isnt a fun thing to go through been there done that.My personal experience is generally once they begin to cheat on you they wont stop.The whole being attached to the kid is also a sad factor but get out while hes young because it would be harder for both you and the kid later.Now the whole trusting women.thats something your gonna have to figure out in the next relationship but i will tell you this not all women cheat
2006-10-25 14:46:35 · answer #6 · answered by greggypoo75 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Time. Move on don't talk to her or see her no matter how hard it is. Unless you want to be part of the babies life still only contact her for that. Leave conversations if she begins to discuss anything else. It will be HARD trust me you can do it.
2006-10-25 14:45:37 · answer #7 · answered by Maleah 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Im sorry you got hurt but unfortunately there are no guarantees in life and you will never be certain of anybody right off because you have been hurt. Try to move on and give your love to someone who will appreciate it and love you back there are some pretty good ppl out there and you just have to be lucky enough to find them. Good luck and god bless.
2006-10-25 14:45:39 · answer #8 · answered by Kate T. 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I feel for you. You have to believe that you will meet the right person and that this will never happen to you again. it is too bad that she wouldnt let you have arelationship with the baby, you sound like you would be a good example.
GOOD LUCK!
2006-10-25 14:46:04 · answer #9 · answered by robynca67 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you love the baby, adopt him and leave her. You can still be the baby's dad and not stay with someone you can not trust. Getting pregnant by someone else is the ultimate FU!
2006-10-25 14:47:03 · answer #10 · answered by Sunspot Baby 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋