Do you become more insensitive to emotion as you go through more realtionships?

Question

I am 23 and have only been in one relationship which was quite serious in the sense that we both had deep feelings for each other. Now we've broken up.

Because it's the first time I had to get over someone I've been thrown from one extreme to another emotionally. My ex-girlfriend has had at least 5 relationships. I don't know how she's feeling, 'cause at the moment I can't contact her, but I was wondering that if a person has gone through these emotions involved in relationships that if they later become less sensitive or less effected by them?

For example...has anyone ever felt like that first time they fell in love again by some else or do you sort of become used to the feelings of love and those of breaking up?

Answer 1

You get used to both feelings. To a certain degree you do become less affected. You still hurt but you deal with it a lot better and rationalise the situation a lot quicker.

Answer 2

I think it's more about your age than how many relationships you've had. You just get a bigger picture on every aspect of life the more mature you are, and it's a lot easier to be philosophical about setbacks at 48 than it is when you're 18 for example.

Granted, it's experience that gives people better perspective. But at 23 you've probably got a lot more going on in your life than say if you were 17, so just get on with stuff for now until it all shakes out. I don't mean to be disrespectful but being significantly older than you I'd like to claim the right to tell you relax, you're still a beginner at the old love life thing, and you've got many happy decades ahead of you.

Answer 3

No I think you become wiser, not necessarily less sensitive. Experience sometimes saves you from hear break later. . because you see the warning signs. You move slower, watch things that perhaps before you would have ignored. Always take your time getting to know someone. And if it doesn't work, consider yourself lucky . .that person wasn't for you. You will change partners quite a few times before the right one comes along. .we've all kissed a fair amount of toads before the prince came, don't despair. . there's someone for everyone.

Answer 4

For most folk (me included) I take something with me from every relationship. (knowledge) I am more aware of the situation and I take things on a deeper level than before. Its EXTREMLY hard for a guy to get over on me. You learn to not trust what you hear and rely on what you see. Personally because of my experiences I find that I am less patient and will make decisions a lot quicker. I now care more about how I feel and what I get out of the relationship. Its sooo much easier for me to move on now than way back when, and I am greatful for it.