I've been with my girlfriend for four and a half years, but I've cheated on her six times, including once with one of her best friends. I'm really not a bad guy, and I'm not doing this because I don't care about her. I always come up with some excuse for myself after it's happened, and it always happens when I'm drunk.
We have a good sexlife, lots of fun, and I love her to bits. Why on earth do I cheat? What can I do to stop it?
2006-10-25 07:13:16 · 41 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Go on the wagon or only go to pubs/clubs with G/F
2006-10-25 07:17:41 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Firstly Love has nothing to do with it!!!!
You cheat because the situation is NOW old! Look at it this way: You have a car? When you got this car you were soooo excited about it you couldn't wait to drive it; It's a good car. It takes you where ever you need to go, it doesn't break down on you, and it has good gas mileage. After awhile and by and by the New car gets old to you, The New car smell no longer lingers around!!! now when you see the new cars that are out you think man that's a pretty car and I would love to test drive one even though I have a good running car but I would just like to take it for a spin WELL: that's the same with your girlfriend: she has gotten old to you and you test drive other women for a thrill!!!!!!
You may just need to be single because it's selfish of you to hang on to this girl if you know your capabilities. Being cheated on does not feel good at ALL, so why keep putting her through these ringers if your gonna cheat! Either cut her loose or stop reacting on a throbbing penis!!!! GOOD LUCK HOPE THIS HELPS
2006-10-25 07:31:16 · answer #2 · answered by TruDiva 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, in fact, you are a bad guy. You are a bad guy because to take the feelings of someone who cares for you and abuse that for your own selfish reasons. You will always cheat on her because she lets you-she should have kicked you to the curb a long time ago, and since she hasn't, you know you have the green light to treat her worse than anyone deserves, and at this point she probably feels she has so much time and energy invested into you, that she just keeps praying you will love her enough to stop hurting her, but you won't because you're selfish and cruel, and that's your character. How awful to be your girlfriend.
2006-10-25 07:24:55 · answer #3 · answered by melouofs 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Only you can answer that,imagine if the next time you cheat she kicks you out for good,my ex cheated 7 times and the last time was the last and I never took him back,hes the one who's lost so much,I'm on my way up and all the better without a loser like him.Its like an addiction you're just out for the next fix but its sex with other people.Next time you get the urge to do it again just think how much she loves you and how much hurt and pain you put her through to have this done once is bad enough it really feels as if your insides have been torn out its an empty feeling and your doing this to someone you love.I'm sorry to me this is not love,if you don't want to be with her move on and stop hurting her.
2006-10-25 07:57:53 · answer #4 · answered by candyfloss 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because you are confused and still have some growing up to do.
Clearly you think you want a girlfriend and relationship and all it entails on the other hand you still want to be single and shagging about. Getting drunk is just an excuse to permit yourself to do it.
Think about it. If you were really drunk, you couldn't get it up. You get yourself just drunk enough to ignore your scruples.
Thing about a relationship is sex on tap.
Thing about being single is unless you have a committed relationship with your right hand, you never know where your next shag is coming from.
You want the best of both worlds. Steady and committed, and thrill and excitement.
Put the latter into your relationship (no it doesnt mean sex in public where you might get arrested) or leave your girlfriend. Shag till your weenie begs for mercy, but most of all get your head straight before you get involved.
Smile m8 you got off light from me. Im in a good mood.
2006-10-25 07:40:14 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would not stay with her. Probably what will happen is that it will eat at you and will always be in the back of your mind until you break up anyway. If it continues to eat at you you won't like yourself in this realationship. It's much better to move on and be the ideal lover in your next relationship. So I don't think the relationship will get stronger. Personally, I think men are trained to not be able to overcome this. It's best to break up with her and then forgive her and wish her well in her new relationships. The only thing is that long distance relationships are hard but it sounds like you were faithful and she wasn't. I think that's hard to overcome. And so let's look at why she told you. She did not do it for you or to be honest. She told so that she wouldn't have to live with the guilt. She didn't consider your feelings if she had she wouldn't have told.
2016-05-22 13:12:21 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
because u dont care abt her. If u do, u wouldn't cheat on her because u wouldn't wanna see her get hurt. Imagine het cheating on u six time and one with ur best mate, ow would u feel. The main solution is to avoid being drunk and try to care for this lady that cares soo much abt u. Remember that if this girl didnt give a damn abt u, she would have left u ages ago for some other guy that is willing to do anything for her...Dont u think. Get ur acts together and stop messing around.
2006-10-25 07:23:52 · answer #7 · answered by teemah 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what a load off bull****you really need to think about what your doing how can you possible love your girlfriend when you've cheated on her six times and one off them was her best Friend [some Friend she his slapper]you are so weak to blame your cheating on being drunk lol they all say that grow up if that's the case then don't drink stay on the panda pop deep down you should leave your girlfriend she deserves some much much better than a big time loser like you once a cheater always a cheated loser
2006-10-25 08:16:12 · answer #8 · answered by skye 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have to ever thought of stop drinking if that is the reason why you cheat on your girl. or maybe it could be that you love her, but yet sill would like to try other fishes in the sea. You need to come clean with her. It is not fair that you are doing this to her b/c not only are you fooling her, but you are also fooling your self by not knowing what you want. Weather she forgives you or not you need to get help b/c if you did it six times, what makes you thinks that you will NOT do it again to her or someone Else. think about it!!!!
2006-10-25 07:22:30 · answer #9 · answered by J.J 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Obviously somethings going on with you. If you are truly interested in finding an answer to this, you need to get some counseling to explore why you do this. First maybe be sure you truly love your gf. there's a reason you're doing this, especiall iff you you not a "bad guy," so find out what it is or it will always be in the way, endangering your life and happiness. not only emotionally, but possibly physically as well. and that goes for the health of you gf...this behavior puts her in jeopardy as well...ever think of that? Get help.
2006-10-25 07:21:32 · answer #10 · answered by atur.service 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Only you can answer that. Though you're a cheat. Does it make you feel good or does the risk of getting caught excite you. Has she not figures out what a scoundrel you are. Careful she could be doing the same to you. Hope you wear condoms you wouldn't want to give her anything. That would give away your game.
2006-10-25 07:17:37 · answer #11 · answered by Fran T 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋