If both situations involve providing recognition to "consenting adults" who are in love and want to share and spend the rest of thier lives together how can you separate them? I know there are other issues you could point to in polygamy, like problems with forcing marriage and underage matters, but removing those problems/issues, and if they are consenting adults, I don't see any way you could make one legal and not the other.
2006-10-25 06:36:15 · 16 answers · asked by straightup 5 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
The arguments that gay marriage is one-on-one does little for me, because although it may make the relationship easier, if you still have consenting adults, who love each other and want to be together. With both situations you're telling people thier honest and sincere relationships aren't as important as others.
2006-10-25 06:52:50 · update #1
I'm for or against polygamy. I just want rational answers.
2006-10-25 09:14:09 · update #2
I'm not for or against polygamy. I just want rational answers.
2006-10-25 09:14:48 · update #3
I don't really care what others do in the privacy of their bedrooms or lives. As long as it doesn't affect mine, I'm OK with it.
It's not for me, polygamy that is, but if it works for them who are "into it" then let it be.
As long as it's consentual adults, not children, not incest, not animals or inanimate objects.
2006-10-25 07:36:04 · answer #1 · answered by DEATH 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's REALLY simple: most of the rights concerning marriage as is (and the type of marriage that the gay movement wants in on) are centered fundamentally on the idea that there's two parties involved. That the two parties are of opposite sexes doesn't become an issue in the specifics of the law, however, marriage gives ONE person power to make medical decisions (for example). Polygamy messes that whole thing up. If one spouse is in the hospital, and the other spouses disagree, who should the doc listen to?
2006-10-25 21:26:56 · answer #2 · answered by Atropis 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
For me, it's the whole issue of some men don't tell their wives about the others. It's a trust issue. I personally don't care how many people someone marries as long as everyone's up-to-speed on the husband-wife ratio. And you almost never see a woman marrying more than 1 person at a time. If a woman married 2 men, how would she be viewed in society? I'm for gay marriage because I'm gay. I may not agree with polygamy, but I don't say anything about it because it's not my place. To me, us not approving of polygamists is the same as christians disapproving of us. If it aint your business, don't put your nose there.
2006-10-25 07:13:07 · answer #3 · answered by Phedre D 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
First of all, polygamy is not about being in love and wanting to share the rest of your life with another, it about having several wives and several children, its about MULTIPLE marriages. To me, thats just sick and wrong. And its also overpopulating this already overpopulated world. But dont think that it doesnt go on, have you ever been to Utah? Provo in particular? Lots of polygamist families live there, legal or not, they are going to do what they think is right. Much like gay people, we are everywhere, and we arent going away because of societies "norms". But I wouldnt compare our love for each other, monogamist love, with polygamy. It really has no comparison. We should be able to marry because we love each other. I think Polygamy is more a religous belief than is about love.
2006-10-25 06:49:57 · answer #4 · answered by arielsalom33 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Why do I have to differentiate? The only LEGAL issue I see is that with polygamy, tax laws would have to be reworked or polygamists would probably be at an advantage since polygamist families owuld have more dependents (polygamists tend to have large families and also have at least one wife or husband at home)
2006-10-25 11:56:32 · answer #5 · answered by Feroxyhite 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that is 2 separate issues. Gay marriage is between 2 consenting adults, the other is not, at least what little I know of that practice.
Gay marriage should be legal everywhere!
2006-10-25 06:45:11 · answer #6 · answered by Jazzys_mom 5 · 4⤊ 1⤋
Ordinary marriages are also between "consenting adults who are in love and want to share and spend the rest of their lives together". Should not be legal, should it?
2006-10-25 06:44:40 · answer #7 · answered by johanna m 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
As a person who works in HR, I can tell you that polygamists' benefits would be a ***** and a half to administer, and I can only imagine how a government would handle it. Plus it would artificially remove people from the marriage pool, and create a class of forever-singles who are single because they have to be.
Doesn't the fact that marriage itself exists already open the door for multiple marriage? No? Then why do you assume we want to open that door?
Engage the real gays and bisexuals in front of you, those of us who really want to marry one real adult, and leave the imaginary ghosts alone.
2006-10-25 07:09:10 · answer #8 · answered by GreenEyedLilo 7 · 3⤊ 1⤋
Polygamists are uneducated really. They just try to justify taking young girls and marrying both their mom and them by saying it's consenting....it's not. It's gross and wrong. Gay marriage is the same as heterosexual. Two people promissing to be with eath other til death. Most of the time that is too big of a commitment for two people. Why do polygamists even justify marrying more than one woman. They don't want to take responsibility and educate themselves. Just another reason to be dumb and lazy.
2006-10-25 07:11:05 · answer #9 · answered by Namaste 4 · 2⤊ 2⤋
If all involved are truly equally consenting, then it's probably no-one else's business.
BTW Just_ine: what's wrong with inanimate objects? Are you suggesting that a vibrator is somehow a victim of abuse? I absolutely agree with the rest of your answer, but that really threw me.
2006-10-25 10:04:16 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋