would you let your 14 yr old have a boyfriend??
if so..would you let her go on a date with him?
because my mum wont let me even have a boyfreind so i have to be sneaky..
2006-10-25 06:26:35 · 78 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
and anyways its not really a date..we just hang out like friends!!
2006-10-25 09:02:22 · update #1
and he is the same ange as me!!
and the only things we do is joke around and stuff..nothing nasty..becuse he is like a good friend aswell!!
2006-10-25 09:04:19 · update #2
Yes. I was going to the movies with my boyfriends at that age. It was all harmless. If you stop your children from doing this then they will just sneak behind your back and do it.
I would not let them go on a car date. It would be me taking them and picking them up from where ever they went. (it depends on the age of the boy to)
2006-10-25 06:29:22 · answer #1 · answered by Keith Perry 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am not a parent of a teenager, yet, but I will be in a few years and I would have to say NO!! We have a niece that got her first 'real' boyfriend when she was 14 and they let her go on dates with him. While she didn't have to sneak around to see him, she started sneaking around smoking, drinking and doing some other drugs. She's now 18 and a recovering alcoholic/druggie. Had she been told no by her parents when she was 14, chances are shouldn't wouldn't have been in that position. If you want to have a boyfriend, you can have a boyfriend by talking to him on the phone, seeing him at school, passing notes. You are too young to be going on dates. If your mom allowed it, she would be putting you in the postion to do other things that she might not even be aware of. And the if she starts letting you do thing like that at 14, what will you be doing at 16, 17 and 18? Take your time growing up. Being an adult is hard and if you try to become one at 14, you'll have a long and boring life ahead of you.
2006-10-25 06:35:23 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey! Checkin' out the questions on this site; & I came across yours. I would not let me daughter have a boyfriend at the age of 14 years old. She can like guys & think their cute & all...but no need to become REAL serious. 14 years old is just a bit too young for a boyfriend in my opinion. Live life to the fullest with your friends. Be friends with guys; but nothing more. When you turn 16 or 17 then you can start getting to know a guy a little better; but use common sense & set guidlines. Have a great day! Bye!
2006-10-25 06:59:31 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why on earth would you want a boyfriend at 14...man, times have changed...I guess. I have a 12 year old daughter about to be 13 and I can not imagine her dating in the next 1 1/2 - 2 years.
2006-10-25 08:26:22 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes I would, but I would have a reasonable curfew set. I was a teenage girl once and I know what happens if you don't give your child a little freedom, they will sneak and possibly get into more trouble because of it. My mother never let me do anything. I was always home, hardly ever allowed to use the phone and couldn't wear any make up until I was 16. I snuck around and probably did worse things with my secret boyfriend then if she would have just let me see him to begin with!
Good luck, some parents just don't understand. My boy is 13 now and I am trying so hard to be in his business, yet giving him enough freedom so he doesn't sneak around and get in trouble.
2006-10-25 06:31:11 · answer #5 · answered by Michelle Lynn 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to respect your parents and stop being sneaky. You will end up losing their trust and trust is a hard thing to gain back. Be honest and live by their rules. Some people let their kids date at 14 but personally I think its a bit young and I'm sure your parents are just trying to keep you safe. You'll understand when you're older and a parent yourself - for now, just try to be a good kid.
2006-10-25 06:30:17 · answer #6 · answered by auskan2002 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think a lot of parents of teenagers are in fear of their teen doing something that can affect their health or life due to a relationship. Whether self esteem issues or in depth like pregnancy issues.
The conflict of that is what you are already doing: "sneaky" as most teens do.
My mom allowed me to have my first bf, who is now my fiance as we are adults (21 years old) at 12. We broke up 10 months later. Didn't talk to me for 2 years until end of our Junior year in high school. He came my best friend. 3 years after high school, he came home from leave from marines and we met up, gone out. All these years he loved me and just took until we were adults to really recognize it to that level.
Therefore, I do believe by my experience it is ok to allow a relationship, just supervised. Some kids are not mentally or emotionally ready. Others are.
Just have to discuss it with your mom and respect her thoughts as you would want yours respected.
Just something you two have to work out over time. Just don't do anything to render her respect.
2006-10-25 09:24:44 · answer #7 · answered by Mutchkin 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
14 is to young to have a boyfriend. Don't be sneaky!!!!! Having a boyfriend is not worth losing your parents trust. If they don't want you to date then don't. Talk to them. Maybe if you have a strong argument about why you think you are ready and maybe they will change their mind. They have their reasons for not letting you date. In the long run it will help you. BE SMART!!
2006-10-25 06:30:56 · answer #8 · answered by beach_puppy_9 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try to make a compromise with your mum. I'm 14 too, and I've been dating guys for two years. Please don't be sneaky, cuz if she finds out she'll tighten her grip on you even more. All mums have trouble letting go of their daughters. So talk to her and just see what happens. But please don't sneak, because your mum WILL start to get suspicious and she'll think you're fooling around with this guy.
2006-10-27 13:06:19 · answer #9 · answered by Astrid 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When i was 14 i did have boyfriends at school but never went on dates. I had to be 16 before i could date.
2006-10-25 06:59:59 · answer #10 · answered by Tinkerbelle 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋