Okay, I am engage to a man and have been for 5 years, my best friend is gay and I attend gay clubs and gay festivities! I'm attracted to women, I want to have sex with a woman, what am I?
2006-10-25 06:21:56 · 35 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Bi-curious. And a good healthy way to explore these desires is to include your fiancee in the action.
He'll surely marry you then. And should you find that you like it then at least you will always be the best woman he was ever with.
2006-10-25 06:24:21 · answer #1 · answered by gatewlkr 4 · 0⤊ 4⤋
In the end, only YOU can really answer that. But from what you write, I'd say you're PROBABLY gay or bisexual with Lesbian preferences (if that's the right word), since you're with a man right now.
It isn't just the hanging out w/gay women that makes me say this. I know lots of women who hang out w/gay women, either at work or socially (where I live has a very high percentage of gay women), but they're not attracted to them, just friends. It's the part where you say you want to have sex w/them that makes me think you are probably gay.
However, IMO, with women, sexual orientation seems to be less "set in stone" (as in, born that way) than with men. So you might go through a Lesbian or bisexual phase, then switch back to preferring men (like David Bowie did!...except the other way round)...or not.
Follow your...ahem...heart! :)
P.S. : after reading some responses above, I'd add: 1)DON'T let people pressure you into "deciding". It's YOUR life, not theirs!
2) The idea somone had of including your husband in a "threesome" arrangement is BAD...not morally; it just almost never works. It's just that almost ALL guys fantasize about having sex with Lesbian women, which clearly makes NO sense!
3) I DO agree that your boyfriend deserves to know if you want to have sex w/someone else, whether male or female, so he can decide what to do. It's not fair to keep him in the dark.
2006-10-25 06:32:35 · answer #2 · answered by Gwynneth Of Olwen 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I would say you are bi-curious at the very least. There is nothing wrong with being attracted to members of your own sex. Wanting to experience sex with your same gender is also normal. You do need to answer this..... Are you sexually attracted to your fiance? If the answer is no, then maybe you are a lesbian or with the wrong man. However, I would guess that because you have spent so much time around the 'gay lifestyle' (and are comfortable) you are just curious. Maybe you just want to know what it feels like.
2006-10-25 06:49:09 · answer #3 · answered by Just me 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, I am not sure what sex you are. You say in the question that you are engaged to a man, and have been for 5 years. Are you a male or female? You say you want to have sex with a woman. So far, all I can answer is that you are a fanta-sexer...
Fantasying about sex with somone. I know that is not a word, but it's my personal way of saying it.
2006-10-25 06:26:38 · answer #4 · answered by echo7580 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hun,
I'm going with bi-curious on this one. However, you may just be perfectly straight. In today's day and age everyone wants to slap a label on something as quickly as possible.
Here's the breakdown:
Want to leave your fiance, kill the kids and join a lesbian commune--> (L)esbian (that's lesbian with a capital L emphasized).
Really want to have your first taste of womanhood, cant stop thinking about it and love going to the events you go to but cant bare the thought of living without your man--> Bi-Curious
Taste of the vulva is a fleeting thought every now and again but not something you think you'd ever actually do--> 100% Heterosexual who is questioning her sexuality in a very normal and healthy way.
Best wishes,
-Mitch
2006-10-25 06:50:05 · answer #5 · answered by Iamco2000 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say that you are gay. Just because you are going to marry a man doesn't mean anything.
You said that you want to have sex with a woman and I feel that there is a reason for that.
Good Luck!
2006-10-25 06:35:01 · answer #6 · answered by Yikes! 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
May be curious, but after that long into a stable relationship, Does it worth it to satisfy just a curiosity? Does your fiance deserves the cheating? How would you you feel if is the other way around? How about some appointment with a sexologist?
2006-10-25 06:28:32 · answer #7 · answered by Javy 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I was going to say bi, If you've been engaged for 5 years and haven't taken the plunge, I'm leaning towards lesbian (but you didn't say if you liked men, only that you're engaged to one)
2006-10-25 06:56:37 · answer #8 · answered by Phedre D 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A gay man flirting with the idea of bisexuality...
2006-10-25 06:52:05 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you are bisexual or maybe just curious. But you should be fair to your fiance and tell him you want to explore that side so you can truly be happy with him in the future without wondering about this situation.
2006-10-25 07:09:07 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You sound Bi curious..
have you EVER had sex with women and liked it??
if so then prob you are bi..
I have a bf .. and I'm bi sometimes i think of other girls.. but I'll never cheat on my men
not even if its with a girl.. its still cheating
2006-10-25 07:09:23 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋