I have been with him for 4 years now and we have a daugther and another one on the way soon. He hasn't been able to keep a job for more a than a month and a half and that has left me to do everything. I just recently found out that he has been chatting with several girls online "instead of looking for a job" and I confronted him about it. I am so upset with him I just want him out of my life. Any suggestions on what I could do?
2006-10-25 06:15:06 · 25 answers · asked by ceci_garcia21 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
If you stay with him you will never be happy, everyone always says stay for the kids. If you don't feel love for him get out. Life is wayyyy too short for you and your kids to be unhappy. If you are pregnant you do not need that kind of stress. Write down all the pro's and con's about him. And just take that giant leap and leave. Be happy...there is someone out there that would be much better for you. Hang on, it will be a bumpy ride, but in the end it will be worth it!!! Good luck!
2006-10-25 06:37:00 · answer #1 · answered by GiGi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you both live together, you should ask him to move out. There's no sense in staying if he can't be a real man for you and his kids. If he refuses to leave, than if possible maybe you can stay w/ relatives until you're able to get back on your feet.
If he hasn't tried to get his act together after the birth of your first child, what makes you think he'll do it for the second? Don't waste your time or have unnecessary drama around your kids...leave!
2006-10-25 13:27:23 · answer #2 · answered by Whonosbest 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on what he was talking about because it could have been about you. Now don't get me wrong he's wrong for talking to girls especially if he claim he was looking for a job. If he can't keep a job who be with him but it's really up to you I can only tell you what I feel. But you really have to think about it do it for the kids. I wish you the best!
Good Luck!
2006-10-25 13:21:32 · answer #3 · answered by Scooby_doo06 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How could you bring children into world (even the second one) knowing he is unstable. You do not need to allow this man as a role model for your children. Tell him at once that you want him out in 30 days if he can't find employment and keep it. If he continues on this road get the hell out of this relationship. You are being taken advantage of. This isn't a man and he isn't being a father. Don't spend another second taking care of a grown man.
2006-10-25 13:19:05 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
tell him to get his fkin act together as you're doing all the work, if he can't accept that throw him out.
tell him to get a job instead of wasting time online cybering?
just be strong, 2 children will need a father that's the ownly downside, if you feel you can cope alone, i'd get rid, a supporting family is all someone needs at times... a father without a job and 2 kids is appauling, period
2006-10-25 13:18:57 · answer #5 · answered by crash2k 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you where not expecting any children or didnt have any with him Id say kick him to the curve. But now you have to think about your children. Im not saying you cant raise them alone. Why dont you just sit with him and talk to him seriously, Tell him that you love him but its not enough, Tell him that you need his support and if he dont get his act together you would have no choice but to forget about him. (it hurts but its reality). Dont give up without a chance, but once the chance is over : A girl gotta do what a girl gotta do.
Good Luck and just make sure you make a wise decision. take care and God bless.
2006-10-25 13:25:56 · answer #6 · answered by chinaz777 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Put your foot down. He needs to understand that with two children you cannot do everything on your own. He has to take responsibility and get a job in order to support his family. If he's unwilling to do that, it's time to move on.
2006-10-25 13:17:53 · answer #7 · answered by Blue Jean 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Kick his sorry as5 out and them sue him for child support. Once there si ajudgement against him he will have to work or go to jail.I think by now you realize how stupid you've been (no offense, its part of the human condition)...don't be that way anymore for your sake and the sake of your kids.
2006-10-25 13:29:44 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's a LOSER. Drop him before you get left. He'll leave you for one of those online girls in a second. If you want him out of your life, get him out.
2006-10-25 13:27:49 · answer #9 · answered by sillylittlemen 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would just tell him you want him out of your life but you still want him to be part of your kids life. Ask him how he would feel if you were cheating on him with a bunch of guys on line?
2006-10-25 13:20:54 · answer #10 · answered by melanie_17_1982 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋