I have a friend that is in and out of depression. She is talking about suicide, probably because she is almost 40 and has no children and no man. Is it wrong for me and my man to discuss giving her a baby (with my man's sperm) to keep her from basically killing herself. It may seem disgusting but we are really loving and giving people, and I think she needs someone to care for to keep her mind off of death.
2006-10-25 06:06:14 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Forget that. Get her a puppy.
2006-10-25 06:08:34 · answer #1 · answered by infernal_seamonkey 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If she is talking about killing herself a baby is the last thing she needs! She needs to talk to psychiatrist or some kind of professional that can help her. Then maybe she should see about adopting. There are a lot of children that need good homes why bring another one into the world just for someone else. It is not the right thing to do at all. If you are going to bring a child in this world do it for YOU. Not to give a way. Even though it's only donating sperm it's still giving your child away. She can also go to a sperm bank if she really feels the need. And another thing it can come back to bite you in the butt because she can end up wanting child support , or what if she doesn't want the child any more. It could end up a big mess. Think about it. OR tell her to get a dog/animal.
2006-10-25 06:16:12 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she has talked about doing these things to herself then honestly i wouldnt suggest giving her a baby by your husband.. She needs something other than a child to comfort her. I think just by being the friend that u are and spending time with her will help her out alot.. Do u have any guy friends u can set her up with. maybe getting together and all of u going to dinner...? That might make her feel better
2006-10-25 06:10:49 · answer #3 · answered by blue eyes 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
UMMM YES! A suicidal, depressed person has no business raising a child! I know you're only thinking of your friend here, but think about that innocent baby! No, that's not OK! Your friend needs lots and lots of counseling and if she wants a baby that badly, drop off some adoption flyers so she can look into that! Your "Man" does not need to spread his seed with your friend.
2006-10-25 06:09:37 · answer #4 · answered by Dr. Kat 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
At this point in time she sure doesn't need a baby, she needs some help. Bringing a child into that situation is just wrong. Try getting her some counseling and when she is more mentally stable, consider adoption. There are plenty of children out there who need loving parents.
2006-10-25 06:10:45 · answer #5 · answered by DaRkViXeN 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that is a really big step , you may very sorry you did that .. there are sperm banks out there .. and adoption .. if she can not afford any of those how would she support having a child .. I say do not do it .. you will some day wish you had not ..you both say you are ok with it now , but I think it is a bad idea , it is wonderful that you think so much of her that you would be willing to let your friend raise your man child ..
2006-10-25 06:20:24 · answer #6 · answered by blueflowerscs 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Can she still have kids? If so she could try getting pregnant. You are a good friend. Even before you decide to give her a baby you need to get her the help she needs for depression. There are many doctors who can help her. You just need to be there as a freind and help her through this.
2006-10-25 06:12:33 · answer #7 · answered by red1967 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that first of all, She should get counseling of some sort, She's not in good emotional/mental condtion to even CONSIDER becoming a mother right now, Maybe once she has herself 'fixed', 'Giving' her a baby could be an option.
Just make sure it's not something you will regret later in life.
2006-10-25 06:09:12 · answer #8 · answered by ? 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't see how that would help things, she has depression that needs to be taken care of, having a baby wouldn't just miraculously change the problem, well it might but is a babies life really worth the gamble here especially when she is ready to take her own life? find a way to force her to help her get help for her depression
2006-10-25 06:10:56 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
NOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO!
You do not give a person with depression a baby!! Ever hear of post-partum depression? Even if she doesn't get it, depression can cause a form of psychosis where an individual sees death as best for everyone.
2006-10-25 06:10:52 · answer #10 · answered by morrowynd 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk your friend into going to therapy and get her a kitten or puppy to take care of. Unstable people should not be raising children.
2006-10-25 06:09:19 · answer #11 · answered by badkitty1969 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋