I am with a guy that I really love. We are polygamists, and we have sex about once a week (sadly). He just does not like to have a lot of sex. He is afraid that sex will get boring. But latly every time we have sex, he lose's his erection. Right in the middle of it, and we have to stimulate it back up. No, he is not gay, he is bisexual. And he swears it is not because of me, and I belive him. We are very honest with each other. So why is this always happening? We are living together and it kinda makes me upset. I know he is too. I just dont know how to make him stay hard. And yes I do give B.Js and such. Just.....help...any suggestions?
2006-10-25 05:56:46 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Men's Health
There can be many causes for soft or weak erections, or problems maintaining an erection. These causes include age (usually after 30), vascular problems, penis injury, such as damage to veins and arteries inside the penis, a hormonal imbalance, excessive stress and anxiety, diabetes, chronic smoking/drinking, drugs, over-masturbation and sexual exhaustion, or surgery. If left untreated, weak erections can lead to permanent sexual dysfunction!
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2006-10-25 09:53:52 · answer #1 · answered by lignebur72 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it is really becoming a problem, go to a doctor who specializes in men's trouble's like these, but be weary of any doctor who immediately tries to prescribe a pill for the problem (like viagra). The doctor will be able to recommend a therapist, which is the best treatment for erectile disfunction (instead of covering the problem up with pills, actually solve it.) Then again, even if he says "it isn't you, it's me" or whatever, don't take it to heart. It may in fact be you, but obviously this guy cares about your feelings, so maybe he just doesn't want to hurt you. I say this because of the whole "he doesn't want sex to get boring..." thing. The more you have sex, the more sex you want. Sex of course increases your libido leading you to want it more so that is kind of a bs statement. There are also a lot of sex therapy books you could try reading in order to find ways to "reconnect" (He might just not be as attracted to you as he once was, in which case you should both do excercises to put the excitement back into your relationship.) It could also be stress, anxiety or fatigue.
2006-10-25 06:05:24 · answer #2 · answered by Mom of Marley 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe hes secretly a girl! No only joking, probably ED (erectile dysfunction) It is treated by: (this is if he is any of them) Losing weight Giving up smoking Drinking less alcohol Not taking illegal drugs Exercising regularly Reducing stress Other Options Prescribed ED medication (like sildenafil - Sold under the name viagra) Vacuum Pumps Injections in the penis Penile inplant surgery Psychological treatments such as sex therapy or cognitive behavioral therapy Hope it helps!
2016-03-18 23:55:32 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Bad news sweetheart. No one wants to ever say this but ED is not always the man's fault. Before I became a priest, I was with a woman i did not like and guess what? It got soft as pudding. Never had that problem with the ones I loved and cared about, never had ED unless I was with a one night stand.
2006-10-25 06:02:39 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are times when normal sex does become monotonous. I guess you and your boyfriend need to explore his sexuality to find out what excites him now. For some, it just something kinky like putting on a nurse's uniform or some sexual position or variation. Experiment until you've found the key but if something makes you uncomfortable, you don't have to agree to it for the sake of his desires.
2006-10-25 06:01:47 · answer #5 · answered by Stormbringer 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can guarantee the more you focus on it, the worse its going to get. He'll get self conscious and you won't get it as much as you are now. Make sure he is really turned on when you get going. Change up the routine, you initiate and you lead the way on what and how things progress...If he's BI, is he getting action from somebody else that keeps his drive in check??? Just something to think about...
2006-10-25 06:25:32 · answer #6 · answered by Psycomagnet 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it sounds like this is some kind of mental hangup on his part or he wouldn't be able to get hard at all. He probably does not want sex because of his inability to perform. Try to relax with each other and be patient - good luck.
2006-10-25 06:00:51 · answer #7 · answered by bad_bob_69 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-06-25 12:20:29 · answer #9 · answered by Chanel 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its normal happens to EVERY MAN regardless if they want to admit it. Could be from stress. maybe he's tired. No suggestions here other then give it time and dont make him feel any worse then he is already feeling when he can not perform.
2006-10-25 06:00:23 · answer #10 · answered by texas_angel_wattitude 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋