i want to have a baby! im 15 and a lot of guys i know say that they would help to get the baby. I have wanted my own for eight years, and i babysit and take care of babys a lot. I had to takecare of a 1 year old and an eight year old for a week without any help and i did fine. i do have enough money now and i am ready. why is it such a problem with all the adults?? its my life!
2006-10-25 05:44:16 · 42 answers · asked by sweetypiexox 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
OH HONEY IT IS MUCH HARDER THAN YOU COULD EVER IMAGINE!!!
I HAD MY SON WHEN I WAS 16 SO TAKE IT FROM SOMEONE WHO KNOWS!!!!!
You apply for a job to support this baby and they take one look at you know your age and offer you minimuim wage which won't even pay for your daycare let alone food & clothing. The dad will give you 200.00 a month and that will cover ummmm diapers.
I spent so many days crying for the life I wasn't giving my son that I knew he deserved. I moved 26 times in two years because I couldn't afford rent.
It was so much harder than I had ever imagined it would be. babysitting a child is much different than taking care of a child that won't ever "go home"
You have your whole life to have a baby, please wait!!
You have time, you will have children.
Enjoy your life the way it is now!!
I didn't have my next baby until I was 30 because I was so scared that I would not be able to provide for them like I couldn't with my son. I am now 31 and pregnant with my third. I LOVE MY SON BUT WILL TELL YOU & HIM EVERYDAY I WISH I WOULD HAVE WAITED!! My poor son had to grow up with me it wasn't fair to him!!
He is 14 and after seeing what we went through he knows there is NO WAY he is having children until he graduates college and makes a HOME for his children. If you want to talk to a child who has come from a young mother then you e-mail me and I will let you talk to my son he is almost your age. He will tell you it is no way the right decision. He knows I love him but it was a hard life!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
2006-10-25 06:03:33 · answer #1 · answered by Des 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Perhaps you do a great job babysitting and it's admirable that you did this solid for one week unassisted. I'm sure the kids love you. There are several reasons why you should wait to have your own though. Think of what you were like three years ago, You've learned and matured a lot since you were 12. The next three years you will learn and mature that much more. If you want to have kids so you can be loved and you want kids to fufill your own desires, it's a sign that you are not ready, and your children will suffer for it. You should have kids when your thoughts are about loving them and giving them everything they deserve to lead a happy fufilling life. In other words you shouldn't think your kids are there for you but rather you are there for your kids. If you already feel this way, then wait because you will miss out on so much life experience that you will need when you raise and teach your kids. When your own child is 15 and needs advice, you won't be able to relate or help her and your child would not respect your advice because you haven't lived it. Plus there are a these little legalities, about signing, driving, owning things, and such that you can only do when you are an adult. Surely this won't be the best you can give your child. Finally, for your own sake, there is so much more to this life that is wonderful and exciting that you can only experience at your age when you are single. You would miss out on soooo much, you can have babies at any time, but you are only a teenager once. You will regret it later in life that you missed out on so much. Trust me - been there, done that. Being a mother is a wonderful experience, but please for your child's sake, give yourself some more time so that you can be the best mother for your child.
Don't you think your child deserves a father? They can be a wonderful thing in a child's life. Wait until your married, then your sweet little baby will have a great start in their life.
2006-10-25 06:20:06 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well first having a baby at 15 is too young. The guys say they will help you make the baby, what next??.. Will they step up and be a father too? You may have babysat a few times for a few young children but having a baby is not a part time thing. It is full time, sick, tired, middle of the night... You also said you have wanted one for 8 yrs, that would make u 7 yrs. That shouldnt even be in a 7 yr olds mind. How r u going to support the baby?? Do u have a job?? You are most likely still in H.S. Enjoy being young and dont rush it. The baby wouldnt ask to be born into a life where there is no real "family" so dont bring one into it.
2006-10-25 05:55:30 · answer #3 · answered by prechemad 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your absolutely right, it is your life, but what children seem to misunderstand is that adults have already been through the things that you have yet to encounter and they are only going to tell you what they think is best. If you can HONESTLY say that you could finish school and start a career while affording 120 a week for daycare so that you could work and finish school WITHOUT depending on anyone else then no one should stop you because you are mature enough but honey Ive never in my life met a 15 year old that was mature enough to be able to take care of a child. You may babysit and all of that FAR FROM FUN stuff but believe me you are not ready, you should want to be able to live your life to the fullest with your friends and travel and go to parties and buy your first car that you can DRIVE AROUND ANYWHERE AND ANYTIME you want.. know what I mean?? I would really recommend at least waiting 2 years, if you still want one this bad go for it but just wait as long as you can
2006-10-25 05:54:34 · answer #4 · answered by HH72 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to think about what would be best for a child, not just for yourself. You might be great at looking after kids, (though who leaves a 1 year old and an eight year old in the care of a 15 year old for a week??)
However mature you are, you are a child yourself and bringing a baby into the world at your age would just be selfish. I am 27, I own my own home and earn a very good income - I'm desperate for a baby but I still won't bring one into the world until I have a steady partner (preferably a husband) because a child deserves the most supportive upbringing it can have.
2006-10-25 05:49:44 · answer #5 · answered by Funky Little Spacegirl 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
because kiddo, you should live your life more before you do that. I'm only 21 and I can tell you I'm still nowhere near ready for a kid, even though I am financially secure and have a great life (in my opinion). The thing is, you probably don't have a job, nor a way to pay for everything the baby needs, not to mention you just started living your life, why try to devote it to raising another this early in the game? Most kids your age don't think about everything that comes with it. Trust me, it is a lot more work than you think, and even if you think you are ready to have a kid, your body probably isn't. Wait until you have a guy you know you will be with for the rest of your life who can support you and your kid, and get yourself a good job and some nice stuff that you want first, because after you have that kid, you won't get any of that. And despite how retarded it sounds, most guys will not play the I'll be the baby's daddy game if you have the kid and then try to date.
2006-10-25 05:49:17 · answer #6 · answered by Mr. Brain 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They probably see you as still a child yourself.
Wanting a baby is a normal phase to go through at your age, my advice would be to wait to see if it passes. You don't want to have a child and then realise that actually, you want to live your life first. Because when you have a baby your life stops being about you.
Having a baby yourself is very different to babysitting, it will be a massive shock to you and nothing like you would expect.
You still have your whole life in front of you - why not wait until you are in a stable relationship with a man who you know will stay? A lot of teen mother's partners leave them in pregnancy or a few months after the baby is born, so don't be suprised if it happens to you.
If you feel you are ready then there is nothing people can do to stop you, but remember you will have to live with your decision for the rest of your life.
2006-10-25 05:51:27 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
sweetie you need to think about all the factors...I figured it out the average cost to raise a child in a month is about $1000 and that is the cheap way with just the basics. what happens when You want some time to go out with friends? who will take care of your child? what happens if your child is sick or has some congenital defect that requires constant hospitalization? are you emotionally as well as financially able to handle it? what about if the baby has colic and cries constantly for hours on end...could you cope with that without losing your mind and getting angry? and what about school?....if you don't complete you education you will end up working for minimum wage somewhere making $6 bucks an hour...that isn't enough to support you let alone a child.there is so much more to motherhood than I can say in this response. please before you decide, talk to other teen moms and listen to what they tell you on how their lives have changed, because once you are a mom you no longer have the right to just think about yourself , your responsibility is to your children 100% of the time for the next 18 or so years. I was a single mom for 10 years and I was in my 20's when I had my son so I do know what I am talking about.
2006-10-25 06:05:12 · answer #8 · answered by julie's_GSD_kirby 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There isnt anything wrong with this because most girls dream of becoming mums one day and whats bad about that? Live your life as a teen and have some fun and concentrate on your school work. One day you will have results day you will have amazing results will get an amazing job have your own house and be able to afford children when your in your 20's or later. I wouldnt recommend teen pregnancies as you cant support the child and plus sex is illegal under 16. To sum up, theres nothing wrong of dreaming of becoming a mum so work hard at school and have fun and get a good job and when your ready for children when your an adult you will be able to support your baby :)
2016-05-22 13:02:33 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't have a baby when you're 15. Would you stay in school? Go to college? Get a degree? or... would you sit on your *** and babysit all day?
And.. a lot of guys would help to give you that baby? Oh my goodness at 15?? That's not a very "grown up" thing to say.. sounds like you have a lot of learning and growing to do...
Is anyone going to be there for you if you have that baby? What about one of the guys you choose to be the father?
2006-10-25 05:50:48 · answer #10 · answered by Britni Gayle 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋