I have a 5 year old daughter who is expressing sexual urges and it bothers me. We have close family friends and our children have grown up together. Her son is the same age as my daughter and they have been caught doing inappropriate things together (like toughing). I have sat down and talked to her about the situation but the behavior has continued to the point where they cannot be left alone together for a minute. How can I get through to my child that this is not acceptable.
2006-10-25 05:42:49 · 17 answers · asked by lovable110 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I am a single mom and I dont show my daughter these things. So no she did not learn it from me
2006-10-25 05:51:47 · update #1
I have told her she is to young and the things she is doing is not right for little kids to do. I am just really confused. I dont want to keep her from her friends that she has grown up with and the other childrens mom has been a friend of mine for almost 15 years +. And I dont want to take my daughter to a concelor because I want her to feel she can talk to me about these things and not someone else. If anyone has been through this and what they did worked please tell me. and by the way I am 23 for the person who asked
2006-10-25 05:59:12 · update #2
I have a 4yr old daughter and she is really close with my 5yr old nepew and recently started knowing the difference between girl parts and boy parts, and I just let her know that it's not nice to touch or look at anyones private parts. That you can only do that when your big and you have a husband and a job and things like that. I think she understood that better then actually explaining sex there still young for that. I f she keeps up that behavior maybe you should punish her, thats kind of a hard one GOOD LUCK!!!!
2006-10-25 06:09:55 · answer #1 · answered by juicy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to take your daughter to a child psychologist and find out exactly what's been going on. There may be more than you think, and you aren't equipped to manage this situation with her without scaring both you and her.
Frankly, you have to think about why her son is doing these things too. Maybe he's being sexually abused? No one wants to believe that friends or family members are capable of such things. That's an even more important reason to have a professional help your daughter. At this point, you don't know what all she's been exposed to or how to best handle it.
Yes, it may be curiosity, but when you say "sexual urges," that takes it to a whole different level for me, especially since they're persistent.
2006-10-25 05:48:21 · answer #2 · answered by Le_Roche 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, I would say the best thing you can do is sit down and have your daughter focused and let her no that it is wrong to touch, But in all she is only 5 and curious, You just have to keep an eye on it and remind them when you see it that it is wrong, You can't unfortunetly stop the curiousity, I know with todays world being a mom is scary cause you don't want anyone touching your children, I think If you make a huge deal out of it at this age they will continue to do it more, but that is what i think...
2006-10-25 05:46:35 · answer #3 · answered by Ally 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
As the mother of an eight year old I can tell you that the curiosity is natural. She is only 5 so be careful what you say to her, I would just tell her that its not nice and they shouldnt be touching each other in that way. Dont make her feel like she's done something wrong just talk to her calmly. I know its easy to say too much to them because they ask questions but keep it simple ) Good Luck
2006-10-25 05:47:12 · answer #4 · answered by upagnstthewall 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's natural for young children to be curious about the differences in their bodies. Just continue to explain to your daughter that it's not appropriate behaviour to touch or be touched in this manner. Watch her and her friend like a hawk if you must, or do not allow the boy to visit.
2006-10-25 05:47:01 · answer #5 · answered by Blue Jean 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It sounds as if one or both of those kids were taught things by someone who is old enough to know better. I strongly suggest you find a therapist for your daughter to to help her verbalize what may or may not have happened and with who.
30 years ago, my mom missed all the signs that I was violated. Recognizing that something happened could have saved me from a lot of problems while growing up.
2006-10-25 05:50:32 · answer #6 · answered by thezaylady 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
What kind of results are you looking for from a 5 year old.....You answer the question with an ansere geared toward the childs age......Sounds like some one should be talking to you...what is your age?
2006-10-25 05:46:52 · answer #7 · answered by rush_acres 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
She is five and just curious.
Tell her it is not appropriate and get after her if she does.
Come on, pretty simple. A time out, nose in the corner, whatever you usually do to discipline your child for unwanted behavior.
2006-10-25 05:46:09 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her if she let a boy touch her she will get pregnant or tell her young girls should not put herself out there like that if that does not work then tell her to wait till she is older
2006-10-25 05:52:10 · answer #9 · answered by Davina R 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that is a good question my 6 year old does the same thing just stay on it keep pumping it in to her head
2006-10-25 05:48:48 · answer #10 · answered by christy c 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋