I'm in a relationship for 4 years now....and i feel like we have overcome the porn stage... well, with him watching it and searching all the time....i know men are visual..but if you have a women (a.k.a. ME ) that will do anything and everything to please you sexually...why go search to look? I just feel that if you sit there and jerk-off to someone else...either video or pictures that ios gross and dishonest! not to mention that fact that it makes me feel not good enough! WHat do you think ????
2006-10-25 05:42:40 · 12 answers · asked by Life....it blows! 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
its more of a mental thing because he actually isn't going to the women on the site. I do think it is emotionaly traumatizing. He should be with you if you are right there. Not to mention looking at the women that are perfect in every way makes us real women feel like ****.
2006-10-25 05:46:19 · answer #1 · answered by NoName 2 · 3⤊ 1⤋
".i know men are visual..but if you have a women (a.k.a. ME ) that will do anything and everything to please you sexually...why go search to look?"
Not to be rude, but that's like saying "If you have a whole box of chocolates just for you, why do you want to go buy ice-cream?"
People get bored eventually. How would you feel if you'd have to stare at the same image all the time?
"I just feel that if you sit there and jerk-off to someone else...either video or pictures that ios gross and dishonest!"
Masturbating to porn is very similar to masturbating while thinking about porn. In a way, you're right, it is dishonest, but it certainly doesn't reach the level of actual physical infidelity.
"not to mention that fact that it makes me feel not good enough! WHat do you think ????"
Hey, you have your own options, remember? Why don't you start looking at gay porn and getting off on it? See how he reacts. If he protests (although I really doubt that), tell him his argument works both ways.
2006-10-25 05:54:55 · answer #2 · answered by Cheshire Riddle 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well in some ways I guess I would rather have my man watch porn then actually be out there with a real woman you know that would hurt alot more! My husband watches porn occasionally and I don't like it at all but I watch it with him to make him happy. Just remember he is there with you not another woman it's just TV so try and cut him slack,as long as he's not locked up in the room watching alone,that'll be a problem!!!
2006-10-25 05:53:19 · answer #3 · answered by juicy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Geez!!! Sounds like you are writing MY story. I am going through it right now. I am hurt and angry that he does it behind my back. I walked in on him looking at it one day. He didn't know I had woken up. Anyway, he promised it would all be deleted and and he wuold never loook again. I didn't believe him because he had also told me he had been doing it for roughly 14 years. My husband has admitted to an addictive personality. I checked his history and found he was STILL looking and watching and downloading. I asked him about it and he lied to me twice, swearing he hasn't looked since I caught him. I pulled the history back up and proved to him I knew he was lying. He knows he hurt me, but I don't think he has any concept of how DEEP it hurts, because even though he is not physically cheating on me with another woman, it FEELS like he is. I divorced my ex-husband for the real thing. If he goes back to the internet thing, I will divorce for that, too. He knows I can please him. We used to have a good sex life, but now he can only get it up for the computer. Because of that I feel cheated out of what should be mine. That makes no sense, but that's how it is.
2006-10-25 10:31:41 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
It can be, depending on what the person is thinking and feeling when they look at the porn and masturbate to it.
When you are in a relationship, then anything that you give to another (even if that other is yourself) that you could have given or shared with the person you are with is taking away from that person, and the relationship. So it is cheating under those conditions.
If his doing it is with your consent (or if you were to do it with his consent), or if his doing it brings something to the relationship instead of taking away from it, or if he is thinking of you when he does it (and since he's only doing it to himself, then he isn't doing it with someone else), then he's not cheating under those conditions.
2006-10-25 05:57:24 · answer #5 · answered by marklemoore 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you eat the same thing for lunch every day? Have you eaten the same thing for lunch every day for the last 1000 days? Do you have sex in the exact same position every time? Do you wear the same clothes every day?
Variety is the spice of life. There is nothing wrong with him looking. You can not cheat without another person. It is not possible for him to have sexual relations with porn.
I guess if he jerks off he is cheating on you with his hand.
2006-10-25 06:37:51 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes guys just like porn it sounds like me and my relationship of three years except i am the one that lost interest maybe he has. any man that would rather watch it then do it is a dumb a**
2006-10-25 05:45:56 · answer #7 · answered by kindra1988 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Porn is to the mind and heart as corrosive acid is to the teeth and gums. It's a nice cool glass of iced E.coli. And you'll end up being everyone you've ever loved.
2006-10-25 05:46:18 · answer #8 · answered by Harris 4 · 0⤊ 3⤋
yes because you are focusing on someone else and porn usually takes your mind places it would not normally be and in time you act out on these fantasies and its usually not with the person you are with becuz they will think youre perverted...
2006-10-25 05:46:24 · answer #9 · answered by jkfranklin 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
umm....both considering emotions is a form of mental thinking leave him you don't deserve anyone who would do that, you deserve better
2006-10-25 05:45:40 · answer #10 · answered by formerffagirl05 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋