K I am talking to this guy that I work with. Some of my friends has a problem with him because of his age I will be 18 on nov.16 and he is 36. But he is really sweet and really cute the plus side is he has a nice car. My friends thinks I shouldnt go out with him.Note:We are not going out right now we are just friends he is wanting to take things slow so he can get to know me better before we do ever go out.What do you all think?
2006-10-25 05:39:02 · 16 answers · asked by missouri_horse_blue 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Take his advise and take things slow. He may have issues you aren't aware of, get to know him as well as you can before you go out with him.
2006-10-25 05:42:20 · answer #1 · answered by angelica 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's way too old for you. At twice your age, he was already dating and working when you were just being plopped out of mommy.
What exactly does his car have to do with anything? Sounds like you may want to use him because he may be financially secure. Don't waste his time or yours. You want to be financially and socially independent on your own before you even consider going after a relationship with someone who is already there.
He's probably interested in a long term relationship and settling down, that's why he wants to know you better. Are you sure you're ready to be settling down so early in life? And what about him when you meet the next cute guy your own age, that you have a lot more in common with? It's not fair to him because in a couple of years he will be an older man.
You should go out and live life first.
2006-10-25 13:06:51 · answer #2 · answered by BlueChimera 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he's not a supervisor, only a co-worker, go for it. BUT wait until you turn 18 just to be on the legal side.
Because of the age difference, you'll may realize that you don't have a lot in common and are better off as just friends or maybe only friendly co-workers.
Or you may find out that he has a lot to offer you and pursue a lasting relationship.
But whatever you do...don't go out with him just because he has a nice car...that only means that he can drive and probably has a large car payment!
2006-10-25 12:48:24 · answer #3 · answered by Survivors Ready? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This situation needs some careful consideration, you really need to check into his intentions and what he has done so far in his life, my dad told me usually the nice car is all they have and I should look for the guy working his 2nd job and the gas station at night the one who doesnt have time to be out for security. Listen a guy his age ofcourse would love to get you in the sack, I hope thats not the case theres really a big age dif there and your experiences are far apart it could work but more than likely not for the right reasons, Good Luck!
2006-10-25 12:47:35 · answer #4 · answered by KIMBUR 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you want somebody to take care of you and not have an "equal" relationship, then go for it. If you want more, than you need to look at this situation realistically. No matter how smart and/or mature you are, you have not had near the number of life experiences that he has. Of course you did say he has a "nice car" so obviously you don't care than much about having a "real" relationship.
2006-10-25 12:47:06 · answer #5 · answered by Nunya 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I think 36 is a little to old for you but... If you really like someone and want to get to know them better theres no harm in being friends first and later if you still have the same feelings for him then go for it... But also note he is 18yrs older then you and might really want a seriouse relationship because he is probably ready to settle down...Good Luck =D
2006-10-25 12:47:09 · answer #6 · answered by Crazy_Beautiful 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He has a nice car?? which is a plus?? Wow...you sure have some high expectations. I think he's too old for you...you obviously need to find someone closer to your own age. I agree w/your friends. It's not a good idea - #1 - you work w/him and your maturity level couldn't handle it if you broke up #2 - age difference and again maturity level.
Find someone closer to your own age.
2006-10-25 12:43:47 · answer #7 · answered by Vanity 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i think you should do what ever you want. the age difference doesn't matter that much anymore. and if you really are into this friend of yours then don't listen to your other friends.i wouldn't go anything serious however until you are 18 and then you will be an adult and can do your own thing
2006-10-25 12:44:37 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't do it...never mix money with honey. It tends to get you into a sticky situation. Good luck and find someone your own age. He's a bit old for you.
2006-10-25 12:42:12 · answer #9 · answered by aimstir31 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
your friends want what you have...who you date shouldnt be any of their business anyway i think their jealous b/c a older guy is attracted to you....your almost a grown woman....but i must say to you...just don't take it any further until you turn 18 good luck!!!
2006-10-25 12:57:20 · answer #10 · answered by tanya m 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋