Ive been dating this girl for a little while now, weve been out four times already. Since date one, shes been trying to seduce me. I on the other hand, just want to take things slow and get to know her. I dont see her a "gf" material for now. Im not that type that just can sleep around with anyone. The furthest ive gone with her is Third base, and thats it for me at this point. Last weekend was a different story, after clubbing I invited her over to my place to get something to eat. I made it perfectly clear that is all my intention, she said ok. At my place she begins to seduce me, and i ended up in bed with her. We were going through the ropes of making love, I decided it was too fast, and I stopped and told her that I should take her home. Do you think i pissed her off? what should I do now? she has called me, to ask "how I was doing", through my voicemail? I didnt return her call. So its been 4 days since I last talked to her. Is it going to be weird from now on?
2006-10-25 05:29:24 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Oh no. Maybe it's weird now because you made it that way. You think it'll be uncomfortable and awkward to talk to her. Don't ignore her. Who knows? She could be wanting to apologize to you because maybe she was embarrassed. I think you should really talk to her. She probably feels like crap... and as each day passes, she probably feels worse and worse. You'll never know if you don't talk to her! That's just what I think.
Tell her that you just want to get to know her... take things slow. Just like what you posted. I'm sure she'll understand. If she doesn't, then she's just looking for someone to do it with. Her loss.
2006-10-25 05:32:47 · answer #1 · answered by ( Kelly ) 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A couple of things. You know that wants to go all the way and she's attempted to seduce you in the past. When you invited her to your house after "clubbing" and told her that all you wanted was to "talk", did you really think she wouldn't try to go further? If so, that's quite naive.
I do think you pissed her off, not by stopping her, but by not speaking to her for 4 days. Actually, her feelings are probably hurt. She's throwing herself at you and you've constantly rejected her. And now, you won't even speak to her. I don't think she's done anything to deserve that.
You owe it to her to break off the relationship if you're not interested. If after 4 dates, you don't think she's "gf" material, let her know. She's holding onto the chance that you'll be together. Inviting her to your house late at night is sending mixed messages.
Be a man and call her back, apologize for being too much of a woosie to talk to her, and tell her that you're not interested in a relationship with her. She won't like it, but she'll take it worse 6 months into the "relationship" when you draw up the courage.
2006-10-25 12:39:16 · answer #2 · answered by Cool-K 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If she called you since then, you did not upset her, but not calling her back will definitely upset her.
It sounds like she is very attracted to you and if you are not that attracted to her, you should tell her that you do not want to see her any more.
On the other hand, if you are attracted to her, but want to take it slow, you should tell her what you think and give her an idea as to how far into a relationship you think going all the way should be. That way, she has an idea of how long it will be before you go all the way and she can make up her mind whether she wants to wait or not.
Take care,
Troy
2006-10-25 13:03:37 · answer #3 · answered by tiuliucci 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she can't respect your decision to take things slow and be who you are then maybe she is not the right one for you. Ignoring her calls will not solve anything but you should tell her how her actions make you feel and if she can respect that then you two maybe able to pick up where you left off before that incident and if not there are plenty of women who'd love to have a guy like you and I truly applaud your consideration in this case.
2006-10-25 12:37:47 · answer #4 · answered by Tanya 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WOW I got to give you kudos on this. Rare to find a man who is not the sleep around type, especially when it is thrown into his lap.
Just call her back and explain why you did that. If she does not understand or respect you for it, you don't need her.
2006-10-25 12:33:11 · answer #5 · answered by Clints_wench 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO, just tell he how you feel and tell her things are moving a little fast for you. Tell her you want to get to know her better before anything can become of the two of you!
2006-10-25 12:33:30 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
nah just give her the ..." im sorry i dont know what i was thinking" line and that your sorry and then say so whats goin on... how u been... whats new... wanna do something later... just like that...
2006-10-25 12:46:33 · answer #7 · answered by c t 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you lost her,, she wanted to get laid,, that is all she ever wanted, she dont want a relationship with you,, she wants you to bang her
2006-10-25 12:31:05 · answer #8 · answered by rich2481 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sure, but you should have tried to explain her all this...
2006-10-25 12:31:38 · answer #9 · answered by ♫Pavic♫ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋