The truth is that I thought I found my soulmate among friends. We were like too peas in a pod. Our plans were to do everything together travel, marrage, kids. We both around the same time found our loves and are both truley happy. Even they get along. There is a big differance though, she has a one year old and is 8 month with number two. I remember the day she said that she might be pregnet, I was pissed. and then when I found out she planed it I was even more pissed. I should be happy about the path she is choosing to go down right?
2006-10-25 05:25:15 · 12 answers · asked by Hey There 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Everyone takes their own time in family planning. She might realize that the time for her to start building a family is right now, while you might need a little more time. But I do think you are entitled to an explanation from her about why she didn't tell you about her plans on becoming pregnant. On one side you should be happy for her, on the other you have a right to feel hurt because she is suddenly excluding you from that part of her life, which is not fair. I guess the only right way to go about this is to ask her why she never told you.
Don't feel guilty about feeling more betrayed than happy for her. Because you two had plans together and she went ahead and did her own thing. Of course she doesn't need your consent for her own plans, but it would still have been nice if she at least talked to you about it.
2006-10-25 05:29:47 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course you should be happy for her if two are truly that close. All of those cheesy little life plans we make with our friends rarely ever pan out as we planned. She is living her life the way see feels it needs to be and there is nothing wrong with that. She and her partner are on a different time line than you and yours but that doesn't mean anything. They were ready for a family and did not want to wait, would you want to wait if you were ready and she wasn't? Alot of things could happen in the mean time of waiting. You shouldn't have expected her to put her life on hold because of some agreement that you two had. Be happy for her and be there for her.
2006-10-25 05:31:58 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-09-01 02:27:40 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes you should be happy for her.. afterall, she is your best friend or "soulmate" as you said. Sometimes people change their minds on timing for children. Be happy for her. Let her enjoy the attention of having a new baby and when it's your turn you will get the same thing.
2006-10-25 05:29:51 · answer #4 · answered by Kathleen E 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe you are mad because you both decide to start a family together but it doesn't always happen like that you should support her and be happy for because you are her best friend and you are that pissed maybe you should have a baby and if she did plan maybe at the time you wasn't ready to have a baby and she was ,grow up that's life i have kids and my b/f doesnt and doesnt know if she can and she backs me 100 percent and love mine as hers .
2006-10-25 05:37:00 · answer #5 · answered by angeleyes 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Probably you feel a bit lonely knowing she'll be giving most of her attentions to her baby, and you two may not be able to spend time together for a while, as it was used be before (girls' time without being interrupted by a baby!)?
It can be a bit of jealousy against the baby... but a minor one :)
2006-10-25 05:31:12 · answer #6 · answered by Serenata 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
of course you should you are her friend dont be angry its her choice and worse of all it would hurt her to know that you are not 100% behind her in every way whether she is right or wrong. if she planned the pregnancies she must have been ready good luck
2006-10-25 05:58:34 · answer #7 · answered by kindra1988 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should be happy for her, but you are mad because she broke the plans you guy had and she didnt tell you that she planned the baby.
2006-10-25 05:27:38 · answer #8 · answered by Pumpkin Nickel Bread 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are angry because you feel that she didn't wait for you. But you might want to just congratulate her and forget about you past because she's your friend right. you should still keep her.
2006-10-25 05:51:38 · answer #9 · answered by Andie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like jealousy
2006-10-25 05:28:30 · answer #10 · answered by s9j6j 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋