My boyfriend and I have been through a lot. My ex tried to kill me and shot my boyfriend. We are still together but I have issues with his job. He's always gone till late at night, he tries to spend as much time as he can with me but somehow it's still not enough. I don't know what to do and I could really need some tips on getting it out of my head that he could be cheating or how to trust him better please help..
2006-10-25 05:10:51 · 11 answers · asked by Bernie 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
If you don't already trust him, 9 times out of 10, you won't ever trust him. Trust is something that he has to earn. Has he cheated before? have you? Could be something you have within, that has nothing to do with him really. If he is cheating, nothing to could do to stop him. Since you are unsure, don't worry about the things you can't change. Just trust him and love him until he gives you a reason not to. Facts and not something you just "think"
2006-10-25 05:17:12 · answer #1 · answered by T W 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry, no tips. Either you trust him or you don't. Has he ever given you reason to not trust him? His job is not really an issue, because you'd worry any time he wasn't right there with you.
Talk to him, and be honest. There is no trick or tip to make you trust someone.
2006-10-25 12:22:03 · answer #2 · answered by michaelsmaniacal 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My ex was in the music biz as well and I found out that all that studio time and supposed shows were just alibis that he used, he was living a double life, had other children as well, was an extreme mess. If you think he is, then he probably is...
2006-10-25 12:22:31 · answer #3 · answered by shygirl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In this situation, you have to convince yourself that he deserves your trust until you learn otherwise. Innocent until proven guilty. Or else the feelings you have now will never go away.
If he has never done anything to lose your trust, then you are currently doing him an injustice.
2006-10-25 12:53:02 · answer #4 · answered by Mahira 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u just gotta trust him until u find out that he is really doing something behind your back im in the same situation where i find it hard to trust my boyfriend! when we first got together i didnt trust him at all that ruined our relationship and now its hard for him to believe i can start trusting him! its a hard thing to do but u gotta do it for your relationship!
2006-10-25 12:15:51 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have the problem, with trust issues. Talk to your boyfriend, and ask him point blank questions, ask him, if you have reasons to not to trust him? then you have to deal with yourself, learn to work on you, get some books on self esteem.
2006-10-25 12:17:15 · answer #6 · answered by roseannetb@verizon.net 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to find that from within yourself, It is not something someone can give you advice on. Good Luck!!
2006-10-25 12:13:23 · answer #7 · answered by Niecy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hun,
he has stayed with you after being shot by your ex. What more commitment do you need. just relax and enjoy him, don't push him away with your insecurities!
2006-10-25 12:16:36 · answer #8 · answered by Elissa R 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Call Cheaters!
2006-10-25 12:15:21 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You just have to tell yourself he's not. If he was cheating you would know it in your heart, it sounds like you know him pretty well. Good Luck.
2006-10-25 12:22:39 · answer #10 · answered by green eyed lady 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋