My long time friend has been with her husband for a total of 2 years (I don't really know him). I never hang out with them because they have a rocky marriage and they drink A LOT. I haven't seen them in about 1 year.
Her husband is average looking, I don't find him that attractive and he is not my type at all. In fact if he was walking down the street I wouldn't even look at him.
I never talk to him, but I talk to my friend a lot via email and she talks to me about their marriage problems and shows me pictures of them on trips and I don't think he is hot like she says. LOL
My question: I had a sexual dream about him last night and I woke up feeling guilty like I betrayed my friend and husband!
Why did I dream about him? Was it just a dream or do I have some attraction to him that I am not aware of?
P.S. I am happily married!
2006-10-25 05:02:13 · 28 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Its just a dream, and maybe you need to get laid a little more. it sounds like your repressing something-perhaps you just need a little spice in your love life.
Dreams can be so bizarre.
I wouldnt worry about it...
Did your gfriend ever tell you something about him that was sexual that turned you on?
2006-10-25 05:04:32 · answer #1 · answered by cici 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmm, want greater information. it is greater customary than you may think of. i'm guessing.. you by no potential had any lesbian encounters, top? I even have. i've got been married two times. I did wade via this 'lesbian factor' while in college interior the 70's (am fifty 3/F) once I found out my 2 'ultimate acquaintances' have been lesbians. (We had a TON of exciting going to the Lesbian bars in downtown Lansing! Luved the gay crowd.) i think of, back on your question tho does your husband have a humorousness? if so, and you're shield, i assume i might point out the overwhelm on the lesbian factor. What might you think of if HE reported HE had one on her too? i'm guessing you do no longer think of so in the different case you will not be scripting this question because it is worded. i would not take this overwhelm factor heavily (i do no longer understand why I write this.. a slump.) it is the buzz of a few thing 'unknown.' (i'm getting it all of the time!.. lol) Does he artwork w/this female (i'm guessing it is it) or is she say a chum? She's possibly exceedingly 'effectual' sounding and that's continually beautiful (to absolutely everyone..) I say experience it out.. it is not something it is risky i'm thinking.. g/luck mel
2016-10-02 22:47:43 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A dream is just a dream....HEY! Snap out of it! You were just dreaming!! No more guilt feelings, and don't make it more than what it was, just a dream! I'm not sure why it happens sometimes, but we've all (most of us that are at least honest about it...to ourselves as well as others...) had dreams about someone that we are NOT at all attracted to, and actually consider to be Jag's!!! Maybe it's that fantasy thing to a degree we have about the 'submissive' role and if that's who the 'master' turns out to be, we all need to be really very thankful that it really was only a dream!!!
No more guilt, and naturally no opening of the mouth, fingers, keyboard, or anything else to tell your friend, your husband, or anyone else, either, because you KNOW that not a single soul's ever going to read THIS!! :) At least hopefully not anyone that you know or that knows you as, well, the person who asked this question!! Why would you start any problems or trouble with your friendship and/or relationship all because of a stupid dream that we've all had if most would actually be honest!!! As I started to sing...a dream is just a dream....
Good luck!!
2006-10-25 05:10:30 · answer #3 · answered by raquelha 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just a dream. You want your friend happy and therefore she and her problems were in your thoughts. U probably was thinking about u and your love before u went to sleep.So the sexual part was about u and your love not her husband. U don't have a thing for him. U shouldn't feel guilty. I wouldn't tell her, because if u give any advise that seems like u are not favoring the relationship she may become suspicious.
2006-10-25 05:14:14 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's just a dream. If having a dream with someone other tahn your spouse is cheating, there would be no marriages left. If you had a dream about your favorite celebrity, would u still consider it cheating? Its interesting that you had this dream after seeing pics of them on trips and vacations. Maybe just seeing a couple in that state made you want to be in that state too, and your mind took it as a sex dream. The brain works in weird ways. Your mind may be telling you its time for u and hubby to take a flight to Jamaica.
2006-10-25 05:09:01 · answer #5 · answered by Bool 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
These kind of things happen, I know you feel bad, but it's not your fault, you cannot control your dreams, there is no hidden message in it at all, like your secretly in love with him or anything, maybe you went to bed thinking about your friend and then it just escalated, it's okay, I wouldn't share it with your husband though, it would make for an uncomfortable meeting when you all get together! Good Luck Sweetie
2006-10-25 05:07:52 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You having sex with your friends husband is telling you that there is an aspect of him that you would like to have in your life.
You are in need of blending with his type of energy to have the life you so desire.
There is something about him that perhaps your friend has shared with you that you wish to bond with or have.
This does not mean that you have to be with this person it is just a message that has seeped from your subconscious mind to assist you in your conscious world.
I would suggest you sit with and list the aspects of him that you don't like on one side of a piece of paper and then the things you admire in him or the relationship he has with your friend. I think you will be surprised to see a few, if not many aspects that he has shown you or your friend has shared with you that you desire in your personal relationship with your husband.
It saddens me to see so many here that feel a dream is just a dream when dreams are a way our greater self speaks to us when we are in need or pondering questions.
No need to feel guilty...The aspects you are desiring just happened to be in this man. It could have been in a brother, a female friend or a parent and if you were not in the know you probably would really be up in arms.
Check out some of the websites about dream interpretation to get a better hold on your dreams.
All the best to you.
Coco
2006-10-28 02:04:53 · answer #7 · answered by Coco 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sometimes dreams arent meant to be directly interperted as they seem, your dream could mean one your just curious how he is in the sack which is a normal thing to wonder, you crave the relationship your friend has with her lover thou I doubt thats the case cause of what youve said, or that your sexual appetite has not been meet lately and your starting to crave it. Which that could be true lol. Dreams enter your subconcious so you could be attractedto him their and not while your concious so it doesnt really count as an attraction to worry about. I would pass it off as a bad dream or even a nightmare and not worry about and it focus on good times with your loved one. Dreaming of others isnt a crime. Youll be fine.
2006-10-25 05:08:37 · answer #8 · answered by cats4ever2k1 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's just your subconscious replaying all the information it processed during the day. Since your friend talks about her and mostly her husband, this is why this happened. Do you know that most sexual dreams are of people you would never even consider. Don't worry, it means nothing.
2006-10-25 05:06:53 · answer #9 · answered by june clever 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Those kinds of dreams can happen at random. It could have as easily have been your friend's father or something really weird... so, I think, even IF you were attracted to him and had those fantasies, as long as you keep them to yourself and don't act upon them (like NO flirting or actually doing anything with him), then you are innocent and have nothing to feel guilty about.
2006-10-25 05:05:40 · answer #10 · answered by Stephanie S 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Dreams are NEVER literal. There is a characteristic with him that you really like. Sex is not sex in a dream. It more represents an openness or closeness. So...in short. You subconsciously want to be close to his characteristic that you found attractive.
BTW...Don't feel guilty, you are normal and ok. Dreaming is ok, just don't live the dream.
2006-10-25 05:06:55 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋