i have been with my boyfriend for almost 3 years our anniversary is on nov 11 anyway a month ago he told me that he just wants to be friends well the problem with that is that we live together. our lease isnt going to be up for another 11 months. i told him that since we are just friends he should start sleeping in the other room he refuses to sleep in the other room and we still have sex. since he has started talking to this girl and he says that they are just friends but at the same time he says we are trying to work things out. originally i havent left because we got into this lease together and i dont want to leave him with all those bills to pay. but yesterday he was talking to the girl and he had said that the lease was up in september which makes me feel like he his already working on another relationship i love this man with all my heart he is my first love and i dont know whether to keep trying or just give up someone please help me im torn
2006-10-25 04:58:04 · 8 answers · asked by kindra1988 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
if your name is on the lease then you have a right to live there until it is up. if he won't move into the other room then you can always move into the other room.
I think the most pratical answer here is for him to buy you out of your part of the lease and then you use that money to move someplace else. OR..... you could buy him out and have someone else move in. Either way one of you needs to go.
At this point... he isn't just talking to other women... he is sleeping with them (just not at your place).
Guys only say "I just want to be friends" when they feel guilty about having found someone else and are already sleeping with them.
As for still having sex with him.... well you have been reduced to live-in booty-call status.
Sorry....
2006-10-25 05:04:09 · answer #1 · answered by .... 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to him about finding a new room mate to help him with the bills. Tell him you are giving him two weeks to find one. If he doesn't find one, you will and he needs to leave. Is your name on the lease? Talk with the manager to see what might be able to be worked out so that your credit isn't messed up. Don't be sad with him, be direct and let him know you mean business. I have found that guys think girls are pathetic and they have no respect for them if they are whiney. Don't raise your voice, just be direct and serious. Good luck.
2006-10-25 12:08:21 · answer #2 · answered by Corona 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Move out and on...He has. You are being used because of your kind heart. Leave him with the bills, you'll see, he won't be living alone for long. He is done with the relationship.3 years without vows should have told you something. Never allow yourself to be treated like a wife when you aren't. They marry the one they love. The longer you stay there, the longer it will take for you to meet MR>RIGHT>get going...........
2006-10-25 12:36:14 · answer #3 · answered by Maw-Maw 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
have you actually read what you wrote? It seems very obvious this guy has this girl waiting in the wings. Have you ever talked to her? My thoughts are if you did, you would know instantly. Why don't you have her over and lay all over him and watch her reaction and the eye contact between the two. One of them will fold under this. And then move on, because he has.
2006-10-25 12:09:37 · answer #4 · answered by Kelly D 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, if you are friends, then you should see about having sex with other guys...More than one at once should be fun...
He sounds like a jerk... Leave him if he is paying for the lease... :D
2006-10-25 12:01:31 · answer #5 · answered by Forlorn Hope 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
find a new room mate and kick him to the curve. Have respect for yourself and don't ahve sex with him. It's making it easy on him to just live there with you no strings attached and free sex? fu ck that! find you a new man since he already has found a girl
2006-10-25 12:02:04 · answer #6 · answered by Ms.Budonkadonk 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's over. Put him in the other room and refuse to give him what he wants. He's just using you at this point.
2006-10-25 12:01:24 · answer #7 · answered by bequalming 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
move him to a different bedroom and don't have sex with him. Get your finances in order and in sept move out.
2006-10-25 12:03:29 · answer #8 · answered by wingedgirl 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋