Sadly I lost my daughter 13 years ago, there was a lot of family present when she passed away, after which a Doctor came along and said "now then, there is the question of organ donation", at that point everybody except me and my Mother left the room, leaving me to make that decision. I know what I decided in the end, but what decision would you have made, the daughter I lost was only 7 years old and disabled by the way.
2006-10-25 04:52:36 · 39 answers · asked by Panther 3 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
Yes because helping someone else in need helps your beloved live on.
2006-10-25 04:55:10 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
This is a very emotive subject, and people are going to have strong opinions on both sides.
Personally I would be happy to have my own organs donated, however because of previous cancer I am not a candidate. I would like to think I would donate my childrens organs should they die, but I cannot say hand on heart that I know I would feel the same way if confronted with it. Part of motherhood is the urge to protect them, and rational thought goes out of the window in the face of the intense emotions surrounding a death of a loved one. I realise that that is hugely hypocritical because I would accept an organ to save one of them.
I am sorry that you lost your daughter, and whatever decision you made regarding this it was the right one. There are no absolutes in this area and you as the mother are the one who has to live with your choice for the rest of your life.
Thank you for such an interesting question.
2006-10-25 05:11:01 · answer #2 · answered by Lynn S 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would def donate, but I am sure it was the last thing you wanted to think about on that terrible day, I am so sorry to lose a child is the hardest burden to bear, I think it would be better if parents answered this difficult question routinely say when the child is healthy and well during pre school check ups given time to think about it and then there wishes noted on file, then at this difficult time the doc will only have to remind them of their decision and ask if they still feel the same, I am all for it now but again I would not know how I would react if I was in that position.
2006-10-25 05:09:07 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm so sorry about your loss. I know you will still be dealing with each day as it comes. Organ donation saves so many other lives and brings hope to many other families. I know it is difficult but if you were in the position to accept an organ in a life or death case, would you not be so grateful to the person who donated it? I am on the donor list and i would hope that if anything happened to me that i would be able to save many other lives and give other people a second chance at life. xxx
2006-10-27 02:26:37 · answer #4 · answered by Little miss naughty 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would like to think that I would choose to donate. I have put my own name on the organ donor list.
I think it would definitely be a very tough decision though. In some way it seems disrespectful to remove organs from a dead body, but on the other hand it gives life to so many others. So I would hope that I would choose to donate, but there is no way that I could judge someone for not doing it.
2006-10-25 05:05:07 · answer #5 · answered by Steve-Bob 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am sad to hear that you have lost a daughter shame man. It would be a very emotional moment specially straight after your child have passed away. I personally would have said yes even though i probably would be very grief-stricken. But to give another person the chance to live a full life would probably have made you little girl happy as well. Most of us Can find it in our hearts to help others and by doing so you have made another mother and father and person happy even though you had to make the sad decision. Take care.
2006-10-25 05:02:49 · answer #6 · answered by Duisend-poot 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry for your loss! It must have been so hard for you, and i'm sure that whatever decision you made, it was right for you, and you should never regrette it!
I carry a doner card because i want to donate what ever is useful, and i wouldn't want to leave a decision like that for my family to deal with.
However, if i was put in your position i really don't know what i would do?
If it was an older family member i would donate as i know all of my family want to, but someone as young as that? I really don't know!
I think that you are a very brave!
2006-10-27 02:03:31 · answer #7 · answered by GeorgieP 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am on a list of organ donors as well. When my family heard of it, we had a big misunderstanding. I don't get it, it is my body and after my death why I would not help others? What only bothers me that organs cost a lot of money and - where or to who the money goes? Why I cannot decide? It is me giving the organ. I would give money for disabled people or autistic children or anyone in need.
2006-10-25 11:48:53 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that everyone should have to donate unless the state otherwise... I lost my daughter 11 years ago, whilst she was dying I was asked if i would like to donate her organs... at the time I thought this was cruel and insensitive and I bluntly told then to go away. Once I had time to think I wished I had decided differently but by then it was too late, they need the organs quickly. I regret my choice and my views have since changed, I wouldn't think twice about donation now, I am also a blood and bone marrow donor.
2006-10-25 06:47:28 · answer #9 · answered by joanne v 72 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I believe my decision has been influenced by my career choice. I've been in medicine for over 15 years and I've seen lives lost that have assisted others to live. I have three children, ages 4 months, 6 and 11 years. I suppose, as silly as this may sound, should I lose one of them I would want to give them a chance to "live" even if it's through someone else. I may never know who my organs or my children's organs saved but I know that the person they saved is also someone else's baby.
My condolences for your loss. I'm sure that she's still with you in so many ways.
2006-10-25 04:58:09 · answer #10 · answered by cgspitfire 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
i am terribly sad for your loss, and i am sure this is a very difficult thing for you to talk about, but obviously one on your mind as your have raised the issue here.
personally i would donate without any doubt. it is really such a wonderful thing to do for another family. i have a donor card next to my driving licence that states if i die i wish to donate my entire body to help people in need. i have a little girl and if something (god forbid) happened to her i would not hesitate to donate her body for the use of others, because if she needed an organ i would do almost anything to keep her alive. it is the most caring gift that one family can give to another - life and hope.
2006-10-25 05:03:38 · answer #11 · answered by gwendolynpearce 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋